I stated in my last post that Lesbians (and by Lesbians I do not mean STRAIGHTBIANS) have not been in the past, nor are in the present, being coerced/raped by male trans. That does not mean that Lesbians past and present do not deal with heavy pressure/coercion to date women we are not interested in dating. This is an area both Mrs Dirt and I, and Lesbian friends have FIRST hand experience with. Experiences that date prior to the internet and most certainly since the age of global communication.
Believe it or not, both Mrs Dirt and I were once young, shy, naive Lesbians. In those youthful (late teens/early adulthood) exuberance's to meet/friend and perhaps date other Lesbians, we went outside our perspective comfort zones and along with respective Lesbian friends doing much the same; we at different times and different places together, found the same unwelcoming, strange and strangely aggressive/offensive "lesbian" grounds the country over. Hindsight leaves all Lesbians remembering those feelings of going to a "lesbian" event or "lesbian" bar and feeling like you have just purchased a candy bar only to find once you removed the wrapper it is instead a block of wood! Later online experiences would figure similarly.
Besides the strong feelings of continued alienation amid or at "lesbian" events/places, we Lesbians also encountered strong warped ideas held by whom we now know to be STRAIGHTBIANS; that "lesbians" do not/should not "discriminate" against any woman who fancies us BECAUSE that would be "acting like men"! According to "
Prior to the internet, good intentioned Lesbians (like ourselves) who ventured into "
circumlocutory (do you see the pattern?) screed screamed at any Lesbian who dares to fall in love with someone she is shares an attraction with. Lesbians are hit with hefty pressures to date women/womyn/wimmin we have no attraction to. I personally had been involved in shitstorms exchanges arguing for the full agency of Lesbians to date ONLY those to whom we are attracted! Why a STRAIGHTBIAN would want to date someone who has zero interest in them is clearly beyond me, but regardless of their neurosis, Lesbians do NOT have to join them in their nutfuck neverever-womyn-loving-womyn-lands!
Lesbians were and are flat out, full on pressured to date any/every unbalanced STRAIGHTBIAN (hmm unbalanced STRAIGHTBIAN? pardon my redundancy!) who shows us the faintest of interest. And if a Lesbian does not reciprocate that interest, we have been labeled any and all of the following:
- Men or acting like Men
- Tools of the Patriarchy
- Male gazing
- Politically Incorrect
- Body shaming
- Pretty privileged
I find it both convenient and ironic that amid the torrential social media storms regarding
Lesbians are born a minority. There will always be more of them than us. Our biological nature has equipped us with grit, fortitude and mettle. All working together to keep our trees from bending to the winds and whims of Heterosexuality. Those weighty winds have lost all of us some leaves or even small branch or two, but our stalwart trunk remains strong and our roots deep.
Dirt and Mrs Dirt