Hetsplaining Lesbian-Where Radical Feminism and STRAIGHTBIANS Converge

Somewhere between Radical Feminism and Straightbianism, Lesbian has become sooooo Hetsplained the very biology of Lesbian has become suspect. As a result, Lesbians (particularly those who are outspoken) have become a problematic thorn in the side of RadFems/STRAIGHTBIANS and other assorted special snowflakes. Problematic because some of us Dykes are unstraightening decades of RadFem Hetsplainations of what a Lesbian is, who can be a Lesbian and what Lesbians do in bed/with/without men.

Being of the introvert variety, when I first began thinking about what it means to be a Lesbian, beyond childhood crushes or school girl flirtings, I did what most introverts do-I read. Being poor in pocket but rich in resourcefulness, I quickly discovered books/chapbooks and mailing lists from the love that dare not speak its name. And it didnt then. Instead I received manila envelopes sans all identifications save my address. Once opened I would read intently! Hoping with each word I might find something my Lesbian brain could identify with. It swiftly became apparent that outside of the girl on girlness in most of what I read, I shared little in the way of Lesbian feelings or Lesbian experiences. Whether fiction, nonfiction, poetry, the personal or the political, I found myself a step child among gaggles of sisterhood. Sisterhood, on casual inspection, fighting for civil rights, women's rights, anti-pornography, prostitution, domestic violence, AIDS, the ERA and whatever patriarchy did or didnt do from minute to minute and doing often in the name of Lesbian.

Once I traversed the page and met/befriended other Lesbians in and around my area, it was crystal clear, I wasnt the only dyke puzzled by Radical lesbian Feminism/ists and other lesbian separatist movements DICKtating some bizarre brand of Lesbianism that was not Lesbian at all. There was something both comforting and frustrating in this realization, comforting because I knew I wasnt the only dyke confused by a politic of lesbian that didnt include Lesbians and frustrating because there was nothing we could do about it. Although I do recall in my 20's trying to get my money back for several lesbian books when they failed to be about actual Lesbians. I was told by a store manager that since they said Lesbian and were in their small Lesbian section, that they were in fact Lesbian books. My returns were refused on the grounds Lesbian was in the title of both books, who the fuck cares if they were written by academic STRAIGHT women bored with men! I cared! And I knew other Lesbians cared. Even if our dissatisfaction and disgust never went beyond the four walls of our homes or the dark walls of our lone Lesbian bars.

I remember there was talk and hope among Lesbian friends and Lesbian comrades about the potential of the internet to increase real Lesbian visibility and for a very short time, in the early 90's, it seemed it had. But with that visibility came more RadFem/STRAIGHTBIANS out of the woodwork cashing in on the Lesbian 5 minutes of front page news. Not because they were Lesbian, BUT because their heterosexual looks whether plain or funky was more palatable/desired by the masses than our abnormal normal would ever be. What mattered was how they appeared, more importantly how they appeared together, not who they were apart. Some were what we used to call the 4 year lesbian or later hasbians. Swept up in the tide of RadFem politic where EVERY WOMAN CAN BE A LESBIAN mantra was used to bait women away from dreaded patriarchy. Only problem with that was (is still) not being Lesbian, they always go back to patriarchy, whether directly in romantic relations with men or seeking ways to keep males in proximity by playing schoolyard boy/girl games (both online and off) or worse focusing all their energy on patriarchy/men-even the men who fetishize women.

Listen up Lesbian readers, if patriarchy/males are the central focus of your new your lesbian crush, your new lesbian icon, your lesbian professor etc, if they're screaming TRANS WOMEN ARENT WOMEN or ANY WOMAN CAN CHOOSE TO BE A LESBIAN crock of shit, trust when I tell you-they not only are not Lesbians, they are heterosexual and in far too many instances mentally/emotionally damaged heterosexuals. 

One thing always pointed out when this blog or myself (dirt) comes up in conversation (aside from insults) is dirt writes mostly about Lesbians/Lesbians who transition. Hmmm why might that be??!! Oh wait for it....wait for it...not quite yet...wait for it some more...DIRT IS A LESBIAN!

Does that mean by being a Lesbian my entire life is about my sexual/romantic relations with former girlfriends or my wife? No. Of course it doesnt. Because being a Lesbian has never been dependent upon a female lover. It is however solely dependent upon my Lesbian brain/biology. And as such, my personal and political focus is naturally going to be on Lesbians.

I say this and my wife says this and we both reiterate the hell out of it, not to preach some new Lesbian separatist gospel, but to help Lesbians get in touch with their core Lesbian survival instincts that have gone dormant:
  • In part because RadFems/STRAIGHTBIANS have been mass DICKtating their sisterhooded love of women.
  • In part because RadFems/STRAIGHTBIANS with financial and academic privilege have HETSPLAINED Lesbian into biological meaninglessness.  
  • In part because RadFems/STRAIGHTBIANS FAR out number us.
  • In part because technology has strengthened all of the above. 
Lesbian survival IS dependent on our natural Lesbian instincts/intuits to recognize each other and prioritize Lesbians as a whole. We still live in a world that hates us, and no matter how much marrow has been siphoned from our Lesbian bones, the watered down least offensive palatable occasionally public lesbian has done nothing to make real living Lesbian lives safe, less feared or less despised. Instead Lesbian concerns, Lesbian issues, Lesbians voicing our concerns and issues go either unheard or when we scream too loud to be deafened we are pshawed.

For instance, a week or so ago (and this example has been duplicated bazillions of times throughout internet sites/forums/social medias) a HETSPLAINING RadFem who CHOSE to be a lesbian Tweeted something about the hypocrisy of the crimes a trans male murderer being attributed in the media to as a "woman". And as DICKgusting as that most certainly is and most certainly deserves to be challenged, its equally DICKgusting coming from a STRAIGHT woman conveniently with hetero privilege of forethought to call out while co-opting Lesbian! Following her lead in calling out this blatant hypocrisy, I called hers out, my Lesbian concerns were in fact pshawed and when that failed, reinforcements were rounded up and the same old tired Lesbian insults were thrown:
And when called on the insults, in typical hetero female fashion, retreat and subtweet. Lesbian concerns for Lesbian authenticity fall on deaf RadFem/STRAIGHTBIAN ears again.

When LESBIAN Brandy Stevens-Rosine was murdered, where were the RadFem/STRAIGHTBIANS then? Outside of a few MEN who mentioned her murder/trial, not a single known or for-that-matter unknown RadFem/STRAIGHTBIAN mentioned her or busied themselves UNSTRAIGHTENING the varying headlines of LESBIAN LOVE TRIANGLE murder. Instead we received just the opposite:
Its pretty obvious (to Lesbians) that the murderers of Brandy Stevens-Rosine were NOT Lesbians, but VERY disturbed STRAIGHTBIANS:

A cursory glance at both their backgrounds reveals classic (borderline) STRAIGHTBIAN signs, so why didnt any RadFem (lesbian) work to correct the media's mistake as RadFems/STRAIGHTBIANS routinely do when a male criminal is wrongly labeled a woman? Because in doing so they too would have to admit they are not Lesbians themselves! Oh they will throw the word Lesbian around whenever it suits them, but come to the defense of an actual Lesbian, emotionally or financially support actual Lesbians, go out on a limb for a Lesbian, no...that they cannot and will not do.

My wife was going through some old pictures a few days ago, and showing me a picture of herself with six other Lesbian friends, she sadly commented that four of the six Lesbians were all kicked out of their families for being Lesbians. A few were later able to slightly have a distant relationship back with their parents, and few others, even today, have none. Even where Lesbians think and feel they have been lucky/blessed with how their families acted/reacted to their Lesbianism, when push comes to shove-we too realize even those we believed had no issue whatsoever with us, instead find the opposite true. Love/respect/acceptance etc might not be as UNconditional as we once thought. This election year proved that to many Lesbians throughout the country, including myself.

There are REAL life consequences to being a biological Lesbian, rather than a lesbian of convenience, straight escape or attention. REAL Lesbians arent playing footsie online with men, we're beaten or banished from our homes by our families. REAL Lesbians arent overly worried about a dude in drag hearing us tinkle at Pizza Hut, we're more afraid our legal marriage rights are going to soon be revoked. REAL Lesbians arent celebrating the publishing of our latest book or news article, we're trying to figure out how we're going to afford healthcare if our marriage is revoked. REAL Lesbians arent globe trotting to faux feminist conferences they themselves financed just to hear their own voices, we're wondering how we're going to pay our bills AND do Christmas because we're stuck in low paying jobs because regardless of qualifications "we dont hire your kind here".

Being born a Lesbian isnt all doom and gloom, but it most certainly takes a Lesbian to be a Lesbian! And it takes our innate Lesbian instincts to find each other, survive and eventually thrive! But with our Lesbian instincts dulled or worse untrustworthy, we are more vulnerable to our Lesbian culture being debased, effaced and erased.

Trust the Lesbian instincts you were born with. Let them be your Lesbian guide and not the prostrate Radical Feminist or the histrionic STRAIGHTBIAN or any of the watery special snowflakes dropping from the sky.

Stay frosty!


Its Nothing Personal-Its Just Business

I had worked for Corporate America for 20 years. Throughout these two decades I witnessed from time to time (time to time being whenever 3rd quarter rolled around and it was apparent that projected/promised stockholder numbers werent going to be met by years end) people (workers) being let go. Not let go because they were not doing their jobs well. Not let go because they frequently called in sick. Not let go because they were just plain assholes. Let go because the company was accountable to stockholders and the company needed to show those stockholders a certain profit. In business, particularly Big Business, in order to excuse and mitigate PERSONAL responsibility for firing people (workers), businesses have enacted a get-out-of-guilt/responsibility-free mantra. A mantra so eerily similar to the Nazi lyrics of the Nuremberg Trials (we were merely following orders/we did as we were told)-Its nothing personal, its just business.

Corporate America is notorious for lining the pockets of their favoured presidential candidate. Business as usual we could say. But a few days ago something insane and unprecedented happened, for the FIRST time in US history, Corporate America was elected President of the United States of America! Elected from a contemptible campaign of female hatred, racial hatred, homosexual hatred and religious hatred; all melting into a cancerous ball of hatred against the very foundation that America was built upon-a multi cultural, multi national melting pot!

No sooner did this happen when those of us who are of a certain sexual orientation, a certain color/race, certain origins, certain religions and a certain sex were quickly squelched for verbalizing what the win for President Corporate America means to us now, will mean more to us in the immediate future and may mean for us in a now not so unforeseeable future! And squelched by people we once believed truly knew us and cared about us, our closest friends AND family. We're being reminded all over social media sites:
  • just calm down
  • its not that bad
  • that cant really happen
  • he cant do that
  • you're being dramatic
  • stop acting like someone kicked your dog
  • stop acting like your mother just died
  • its time to unify
  • time to find common ground
  • stop name calling
  • grow up
  • we've lived through Reagan and Bush (no many of us did not!)
  • we are all still Americans
  • lets just pray on it
  • lets pledge our allegiance to the flag
As a Lesbian and only speaking as a Lesbian, President Corporate America not only has the power to change my family's life, it has promised to do as soon as it took office. My marriage will likely legally end in a few months. Not because my wife and I are having problems. Not because I or my wife cheated. Not because my wife and I have irreconcilable differences.
  • But because President Corporate America and EVERY person who voted it in, whether directly, or indirectly by voting for a 3rd party or not voting at all, believes heterosexual love TRUMPS Lesbian love. 
  • Because President Corporate America and EVERY person who voted it in, whether directly, or indirectly by voting for a 3rd party or not voting at all does not value the love, the respect, the bonding, the beauty and the honesty between two Lesbians is worthy of legal marriage.
  • And because President Corporate America and EVERY person who voted it in, whether directly, or indirectly by voting for a 3rd party or not voting at all want to obliterate all traces or reminders that Lesbians exist in the first place.
This election yanked the thin diaphanous veil of liberalistic pretense from this country and scarier from the people we once called family and friend. What true family member or friend is going to tell you to calm down or grow up when you have just been told your legal marriage to your wife is going to be revoked? The very word WIFE is being ripped from our Lesbian mouths as I type! And before President Corporate America even realised it had won, the words DYKE and LESBIAN were being violently turned back in Lezbophobic slurs. Our vehicles being vandalized, our homes spray painted with repugnant graffiti, our jobs threatened, our housing possibilities shrinking and our Lesbian nature and Lesbian love desecrated! But hey, its nothing personal, its just business.

  • Its not personal, its just business when President Corporate America ends our marriages and bans all future marriage between homosexuals!
  • Its not personal, its just business when President Corporate America declares an open season for vandalizing homosexual possessions! 
  • Its not personal, its just business when President Corporate America declares an open season for homophobes to vandalize homosexual lives!
  • Its not personal, its just business when President Corporate America removes our right to visit the love of our life in hospital because we're not married or related!
  • Its not personal, its just business when President Corporate America removes our right to receive our partners health benefits! 
  • Its not personal, its just business when President Corporate America removes our right to inherit from our partner even though we've been together 40 years!
  • Its not personal, its just business when President Corporate America removes the intangible legitimacy of committed homosexual couples!
You tell me dear reader, HOW THE FUCK IS ANY OF THIS NOT PERSONAL?!

I grew up in Flint Michigan and was a teen in the 1980s. I know FIRST hand what happens when Corporate America needs to please its stockholders. When Corporate America is ran by an idiot so far removed from the working class that laying off 35,000 people in one town means nothing outside of dollar $igns and number$. I personally watched my hometown fold it on itself as factories closed, then businesses who sold parts to the factories closed and all the businesses that relied on factory worker consumerism closed. I personally helped foreclosed and evicted family members move to trailer parks when their money ran out and no new jobs were created. I personally saw my hometown reach such a miserable low that the horrific increase of crime and violence reached such a high, that people celebrated Flint being the most violent and worst city to live in in the country, simply to have something to celebrate! And what did Corporate America aka Roger Smith have to say? Its nothing personal, its just business. When you're getting shot at because you were lucky enough to scrap $20 bucks together to buy yourself a winter coat so you wouldnt freeze to death when you slept in your car and those less fortunate are willing to kill you for it? Thats fucking personal!

Just as personal as Corporate America becoming President of the entire country! If you want to know what America is going to look like in a year or so, watch Michael Moore's documentary of Flint Michigan Roger and Me. If you want to know what America might look like in four years?

It may look just like this:
or this:
or this:
We ARE personal. We are ALWAYS personal. And when humans becomes big business, we have been stripped naked of all humanity. America as we used to know it was founded on a "government of the PEOPLE, by the PEOPLE, for the PEOPLE"! And that dear readers is NOT business, it is PERSONAL!


Lesbians do NOT Eschew Femininity

Radical Feminists, STRAIGHTBIANS, Separatist Lesbians and other assorted Lesbian posers have for the last 40 years spoke of eschewing femininity, demanded women eschew femininity and claim Lesbians eschew femininity all over the place. The idea being if all women ungender themselves (like Lesbians) then men will magically cease to view women as sexual objects, give women the key to all areas of business that shut women out and women will have the money and power and equality with men all women purportedly desire as claimed by a few RadFems.

The very idea of eschewing femininity by early Radical lesbian Feminists and Women's Lib groups spawned from Lesbians joining feminist groups under the assumption that FINALLY straight women have awoken. Lesbians could lend themselves to a female cause that would benefit us in work area's and a cause that had the (Straight) strength in numbers that Lesbians have historically lacked. Styles of being/culture that are natural to many Lesbians were quickly commodified by RadFems. Lesbian culture now firmly in the soft lily white palms of RadFems quickly metastasized into Feminists everywhere eschewing femininity for equality. Even DICKtating to Lesbians then who joined RadFem groups to be more androgynous or be off.

What precisely was this femininity RadFems and other Feminists were/are so keen to eschew?

Hairstyles such as:

Dresses such as:

Shoes such as:
Pants such as:
A sample of Radical lesbian Feminists STRAIGHTBIANS who have eschewed femininity:
The notion that Lesbians eschew femininity is ignorant as it is lezbophobic. It implies that dyke is simply something Lesbians put on in order to remove ourselves from the dreaded Male Gaze, in order to complete with men and in order to solicit the attention of women. Here's a clue, Lesbians do not go around thinking about the Male Gaze and how we can escape it, we dress for comfort not politics. We do not think at age 1 or 2 that hey I dont wanna wear that dress cuz the boys might look at my sexy newly formed legs or try to look up my dress to see my diaper, we dont think about it at all! Lesbians dress according to our Lesbian brains that go with our Lesbian bodies, both quite different than that of heterosexual females. Even Femmes or Lipstick Lezzies dress/occupy clothing stereotyped as feminine completely different that straight women, they wear a dress, it does NOT wear them-EVER.

Radical Feminists/Feminists derived the idea that femininity could be eschewed contributing to the onslaught against Lesbian as biology, Lesbian as REAL. Eschewing femininity helped to sell the idea that just as easy as high heels could be kicked off sore feet or short skirts replaced with comfy pants, so to could straight feminists remove men from their relationships and replace them with comfy Lesbians and with a simple change of outfit become Lesbians themselves.

RadFems/Feminists HATE (their own) biology and early on worked to bulldoze biology into oblivion and in doing so undermine Lesbian, co-opt Lesbian and redesign/define Lesbian into an unfeminine one-size fits all couture. Lesbian has become the little black dress in every RadFem closet. Clothes are for fucking closets, and closets are the only fucking things LESBIANS have fucking eschewed!


Portraits of a STRAIGHTBIAN

In the ongoing effort to help Lesbians free themselves from the long nailed clutches of STRAIGHTBIANS they may be involved with and spare all other Lesbians from ever getting involved with STRAIGHTBIANS, we bring you Portraits of a STRAIGHTBIAN.

Portrait A: She is often the victim of child sexual abuse, usually perpetrated by her father/father figure/s. Sometimes her mother knows she is being abused and turns a blind eye. This strange abusive familial coupling solidifies her hatred of both men and women. Men for abusing her and women for failing to love/protect her.

Portrait A-a: This is a subcategory of Portrait A's. In this category we often find the special snowflake types. Women who may have grown up in an atmosphere where sexual overtones were in the air but never quite crossed over into sexual abuse. Regardless, these women grew up feeling like they werent heard enough, loved enough or told they were special enough. We often later find them to have many body piercings, tattoos, outrageous outfits such as angel wings, crazy platform shoes, studded or clothing with chains/safety pins etc, multi coloured hair, goths, queers etc. You will find many with a litany of adjectives in front of their names. They may be promiscuous, they may have both boyfriends and girlfriends. While they might frequently when younger date Lesbians, they dont usually abuse/use them beyond bragging rights (I'm dating a Lesbian now-I'm so cool). Most grow up, marry a man, have kids and move on. 

Portrait B: She may not have been sexually abused, but she is straight, left handed/right brained. Her right brainedness makes her feel different from her peers. She is both attracted to boys and repelled by them. During puberty and early adulthood she may confuse not feeling like other women and her dislike/discomfort with the power dynamics between male/female relationships for Lesbianism. Many Portrait B's will be attracted to Feminism/academia; even becoming leaders in Feminist groups. They may insist to other group members that Lesbianism is a political choice. Many speak or dream of a feminist separatist utopia where they are the leader. They often try to appear in heterosexual notions; unfeminine. This unfemininity, in their straight brains, is how they perceive Lesbians to look/be. Many will say that they have consciously eschewed femininity, believing the feminine or non-feminine are merely patriarchal fashion choices to be donned at will. Online they will often change their screen names and/or have dozens of different online personas.

Portrait C: She may be a combination of Portrait A and B. Portrait C STRAIGHTBIANS pose a more sinister danger to Lesbians. Their right brainedness which makes them naturally good at math/science/map reading etc is shared by MANY dykes. They legitimately speak of always feeling different as far back as they can remember from other girls. Because feeling different from our earliest memories is so common among Lesbians, when we hear another woman speak of it, we too can mistake that familiarity for Lesbian. But their psycho/sexual pathology doesnt bond them to Lesbians, it pathologises itself in the form of a dual hatred of dykes. They hate us because they cannot be us (not desire men) and they hate us because we're women.

Portrait D: This is the smallest minority of STRAIGHTBIANS. Portrait D's are an EXTREME form of Portrait C's. Extreme because their sexual/mental abuses were so tremendous, coupled with their right brainedness they later identify and even idolize their male abusers. This idolization turns them into abusers themselves; usually abusers of women, mostly straight women who have also been abused as children. Their warped worship of male abusers/men even lead some to transition. Their heterosexuality will often display itself in the form of sex with young men, with a preference for underage males. Their sadism with women will often take the appearance of  sex, because nudity/genitals etc are involved, but Portrait D's like all STRAIGHTBIANS lack sexual desire for women. Their only desire for women is to hurt them. Their heterosexual desires will often come alive with male youths; partly because their attraction is to males and partly because their maturity puts them in a power position over young males. In and of itself they may seem to pose more of a threat to male youths than dykes, which is true. But what is also true is, they play out their sexual psycho-pathology of sadistic sexual abuses of women and boys under the rubric of Lesbian and often in academia!

Some general statements and subjects (by no means complete) routinely made by/on the lips of STRAIGHTBIANS:
  • Not all Lesbians are born that way.
  • Lesbian is a choice some women make.
  • Any woman can choose to be a Lesbian.
  • But anyone cannot choose to be a woman.
  • Lesbian has nothing to do with sex.
  • Sexuality is fluid. 
  • Lesbians DO have sex with men and enjoy it.
  • Dykes and Butches are so manly/masculine and handsome.
  • Dykes/Butches transition because they're really men inside.
  • I support Political Lesbianism.
  • Patriarchy is the root of all evil.
  • Patriarchy is to blame for all of women's woes.
  • We do not fall in love with gender we fall in love with the person.
  • Gender Identity scientifically proves that the differences between men and women are not biological but instead based on societal expectations and prejudices.
  • Gender is socially constructed.
  • There are no male or female brains/brain differences at birth.
  • Compulsory Heterosexuality-wash/rinse/repeat ad nauseum. 
  • Abortion/reproductive rights.
  • Prostitution. Prostitution. Prostitution.
  • Racism. Black Lives Matter. Racism. Black Lives Matter. Racism.
  • Pornography. Pornography teaches male violence. Pornography. Male Violence. Pornography.
  • Mansplaining. Mansplaining. Mansplaining.
  • Men are evil. I hate men. Men hate women.
  • Trans women are not women ad fucking nauseum.
  • MRAs are EVERYWHERE and they are bullying me! MRAs. MRAs.
  • Radical Feminists eschew femininity.
  • Intersectionality. Inclusivity. 
  • I'm a radical feminist, not the fun kind.
While many issues listed above are of the utmost importance, few are Lesbiancentric, Lesbian accurate or seek to improve the lives of Lesbians.

This clearly is a general overview, were we to detail each Portrait and sub Portrait we could fill a text book (a later project) and obviously it does not explain the history/behaviour of every single STRAIGHTBIAN ever. But we are confident that Lesbians can and will benefit from a greater awareness of and psychology behind straight women who seek out Lesbians to date, who with straight privilege in tow and heterosexual lens firmly in place define and DICKtate Lesbian to society and to Lesbians ourselves and who all around have been to Lesbians what AIDS has been to gay men. 

dirt and Mrs Dirt


    This recent email is a PRIME example of the blind heterosexualism plaguing heterosexuals at the horrific cost of homosexual mental and physical health :
    First, I do NOT equate gender non conforming with homosexuals, thats the garbage heap HETEROSEXUAL Youth Gender Professionals, Trans Critical Professionals and Gender Critical Professionals etc do!


    Children do not "ignore social pressures", children who appear in the eyes of heterosexuals to do so, ARE NOT HETEROSEXUAL!

    As my last post so CLEARLY spelled out, the ONLY concern any of these heterosexuals are worried about is a lone straight child being transitioned for being MISTAKEN as a HOMOSEXUAL!




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