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Friday, August 30, 2013

Killing HER-The Dream of Transmen

This screencap comes to us via this tumblr, a young woman's angry, miserable and sad "ftM journey".

Like EVERY female transition before and after her, her journey begins with a deep hatred of the circumscribed role/expectation of girl/woman, viewed everywhere she looks. A view she also cannot identify with. A hatred that over time is internalized to such a degree, trans females want to erase all "traces" of female from their body. And by traces, meaning any visible signs of female emphasized by males/the Male Gaze, that illustrate softness, sex or weakness. In other words, anything that isnt visibly male or manly.

As I have been writing here for years, transition is a form of murder, a living death. And the violence of transition, regardless of whether transitioning toward female or away from her, IS its own form of Violence Against Women! Woman isnt something we can violently cut ourselves into, anymore than she is something was can violently cut from ourselves.

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  1. My thoughts.

    A deep hatred of the circumscribed role/expectation. It has harmed her, and limits her. It has harmed and limited her mother. Women are treated and abused abominably. No wonder she would seek to escape her female sex through escaping her social status as a woman/girl, in this female hating murdering raping suffocating society.

    Transition does not eradicate disphoria which is directly related to the "female role" ( thinking of ur last post). Transition does not eradicate bullying, only helps her "escape" the female role when passing as a man.

    Women are treated and abused. Tranisiting is her "treatment" by the male medical machine. The same abuse. She elects to mutilate her body, and the medics are standing ready and prepared with their scalpels.

    Again, thinking of your last post featuring Poly Styrene Identity, it is crucial we provide information and visible role models of those women who dare to speak/act/walk/succeed beyond the confines of the gender straight jacket.

    It used to be that we insulted as "masculine", now we are insulted with the false belief that we actually ARE men (trans theory) which is just enabling this escapism, multilation, and misery. Just the same as drugging the pain away, cutting the pain away, yet transition seeks to "murder" the female role/expectations as well as punish the body.

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  2. How sad. How horribly sad. I hope she opens her eyes as I have. "Wedding dress shopping", "the birth of her first child..." those aren't necessary to be a woman, you know? Just be you, don't mutilate yourself to be what you perceive others want you to be to fit well in a neat, horribly small and patriarchally made gender-box.

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  3. No, *you* are not a man. This ftm is. If you could get over your self-involved bullshit, you could get some peace maybe. Grow up.

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  4. Woman isn't something we can violently cut ourselves into, anymore than she is something we can violently cut from ourselves.

    True, and well said.

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  5. I wish people could just be a person without all the oppression of gender.

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  6. If people take the time to read this blog that dirt has linked to, this individual seems so sad. The deep sadness almost leaps off the page.

    Humans born female can't completely rid themselves of the fact that they are female. It's not going to happen, and all they can do is change their outward appearance to conform to some gender based stereotype.

    Females are strong and beautiful, and it's okay to be gender non-conforming and still be a woman.

    I wish this individual all the best, and I hope she gets some unbiased counseling from someone other than a FTM "gender therapist".





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  7. You were privileged to be born into the body you have. Some people weren't. If they choose to do something to improve their quality of life, who are you to tell them they are wrong. No two people are the same transgendered or not, so please stop posting that all trans start this way or that. You have something wrong with you. Full of hate. Did a transman break your heart?

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  8. I wish people could change their sex/ gender without it being a problem (politically and psychologically) for others.

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  9. Did a transman break your heart?

    For me, ALL 'transmen' break my heart; it's the most tragic thing going right now. It sure doesn't make me hate anybody though. It does make me hate what society is doing to these women though, with its rigid gender roles that so many are embracing and which I mistakenly thought we were moving away from.

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  10. You were privileged to be born into the body you have. Some people weren't.

    What exactly does this mean, and who is this person addressing? People who are born with physical handicaps struggle every day with their disabilities.

    I'm sorry, but I can't see why female children born with perfectly healthy bodies need to be injected with GnRH agonists (puberty suppression) at age 12 or 13 and cross gender hormones at age 16. To me, "top surgery" (elective mastectomies with the surgical whittling down of areolas and nipples) resembles a form of violence being carried out on the female sex.

    Did a transman break your heart?

    It's not individual transmen per se. It's what society/culture/medicine are doing to these young women. GNrH agonists, breast binding, "T" (testosterone), "top surgery" (elective mastectomies with the surgical trimming down of areolas and nipples), and "bottom surgery" (6-8 inches of skin grafts sewn onto the public area, urethra lengthening, etc.) are surgical procedures and medications that are given to people. It's something that is happening to females, and the manner in which all this is carried out is influenced by cultural factors and everything children and parents see and read online. Children as young as age 5 or 6 are "diagnosed" with "gender dyshporia". Five year old girls who don't like playing with dolls are labeled "transgender". Transgender and "transitioning" are just cool, trendy, modern versions of enforcing the same, tired old sex based gender roles.

    I agree with e who said it better than I could.

    @e

    "For me, ALL 'transmen' break my heart; it's the most tragic thing going right now. It sure doesn't make me hate anybody though. It does make me hate what society is doing to these women though, with its rigid gender roles that so many are embracing and which I mistakenly thought we were moving away from."

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  11. Trans"men" do not deserve anyone's pity. They're misogynistic gutless cowards. Morons who can't cut it as either women or men.

    Once they get their imagined male privilege they then proceed to act like what they hated. And why won't they leave women's spaces? Oh, I know, they're afraid of actual men.

    It's pretty funny though when these idiots de-transition and become soccer moms. It looks so good on them.

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  12. Sam August 30, 2013 at 8:35 AM

    Male privilege?

    ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!!

    Both men and women have a problem of lack of privilege. Removing that lack of privilege that any one group suffers from, that's the "equal" in equality.

    There's a huge difference between THINKING males get special privilege, and witnessing it in real life.

    -Circumcision. He didn't make that choice for himself AT BIRTH.
    -Lack of male centered domestic abuse shelters. or any shelter, really.
    -Lack of acceptance in wearing feminine fashion, if they so chose.
    -constant peer pressure to "be manly"
    -I've seen women storm a men restroom in dire need. Lets see men do that to a woman's restroom. (oh, wait. I can hear the male privilege arguments now...he can use a tree.) How demeaning an assumption, that a man should or wants to act like a dog and pee in public.
    -etc...

    ***escape the female sex?***
    Escape to what? A culture that categorizes you as a "female hating murdering raping suffocating society." yeah, I'm sure He's chomping at the bit to jump from the pan and into the fire. you know, to escape "the female role". That was sarcasm. in case it wasn't obvious.

    ***"She" elects to mutilate "her" body?***

    I elected to Mutilate my body. With tattoos, piercings, cosmetic surgery, and the fashion of my choice. Know why? ... None of your business. It's my body.

    ***The male medical machine?***
    The medical machine has no gender bias, It still routinely allows the mutilation of baby boys through circumcision. And their guardians just stand by and let it happen. Some common reasoning I have heard from parents (mostly mothers, actually) include:

    -I want him to look like daddy (I thought we were against sexualizing young childre... Oh, wait. that just girls)
    -It's easier (FOR ME AS A PARENT) to keep him clean. (Cut off the foreskin, cut down on diaper-time)
    -boys will be boys. (apparently boys are automatically dirtier than girls).

    That's in no way gender bias, right? Nope, no gender abuse here... total examples of male privilege. *sarcasm*



    Anonymous August 30, 2013 9:54am

    This transman IS just being himself. And, yes, being a cultural identified male is a horribly small and patriarchally made gender-box. So is being cultural identified female.



    Anonymous August 30, 2013 at 2:03 PM

    Agreed.



    Anonymous August 30, 2013 at 9:37 PM

    your right, the body cannot, all in all, be altered into another physical sex. not completely. But transgender people are not trying to alter the body to become the opposite physical sex. they are trying to alter the body enough to gain the cultural respect as the gender-pronoun they observe in their own soul.



    DM August 31, 2013 at 1:43 AM

    A very kind sentiment. thank you. human naturally judge based on first appearance. Part of the fight/flight response. If the person you greet has obvious breasts it would be a natural first response to say "good morning ma'am". that would be polite. If you saw an adams apple, you would say "good morning sir"... The trans gender man is not a "girl" trying to be a man. They are a man trying to be treated as a man, and is being judged/and treated as a girl for having breasts. The only way to give the first impression as a man and be treated as a man, is to modify the body.

    So really this man is acting on his own accord to improve his standard of living. If the comments in this tread are in indication, He's a very strong transman. Who wouldn't choose suicide when under these kinds of pressures?


    ..... continue below.....

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  13. Anonymous August 31, 2013 at 10:42 PM

    If we are agreeing that there is a difference between physical sex and gender identity. ... I wholeheartedly agree.



    Anonymous September 1, 2013 at 10:11 AM

    BURN!!!



    Anonymous September 1, 2013 at 4:57 PM

    "I wish people could change their sex/ gender without it being a problem (politically and psychologically) for others."

    This is a beautiful example of someone who mastered the underhanded insult. ... Possibly by accident. #NOCHILL



    e September 1, 2013 at 7:06 PM

    Gender role is largely based on appearance. No one ever assumed a boy(appearance) *should* act(gender role) like a girl, vice versa.



    Anonymous September 2, 2013 at 3:05 PM

    is a man born with no legs to dance with the one he loves less a man? Is a man born with no arms to hold his lover less then a man? Is a man born with no hearing, no voice, no sight, less then a man? Is a man born with no penis to please the one he loves less then a man?

    It's perfectly rational to use alternate routes, surgery, and prosthesis to allow for greater intimate connection when your physical form disables you.

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    I agree that we should be very very conservative about diagnosing young children as gender dysphoric, for the same reason I despise the easy way we diagnose young children as having ADD disorders. THEY ARE CHILDREN. just because little Timmy likes wearing dresses doesn't mean he's gender dysphoric (or gay). But those who actually have a child with really severe ADD, (or gender dysphoria); there is HUGE problem that is far more dangerous and painful than the medical intervention used for it.



    Anonymous September 8, 2013 at 3:50 PM

    Ah, ... you.

    Cowards huh?

    OK.

    I'm not sure if your comment is misogyny or misandry. Whatever it is, I encourage you to stay in fantasy-land. Far, far away, from the rest of us.

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