And I remain unblogged and hidden for another week ;) I love hide and seek.
how fun that it's a game for you!
Lynn, what do you think of this person and this video ?http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XcXoLDRuc9A
Luke,Another confused self hating dyke.dirt
Wow, The obsession continues....first verse same as the first!
I agree with Dirt about video suggested by 'Luke'- why would that kid seem any different than the rest?And how come ftm's never have names likeHerman or George? (because they name themselves as teeenagers I guess? teen moms also name their sons things like Jayden etc...)
In regards to names, not all ftms pick "trendy" names like jayden, kayden, etc. I know ftms named frank, brian, issac, and the list goes on. I'm changing my name to leonard because it's a family name, certainly not because it's cool. (also i'm not a teenager)
Also, why put luke's name in quotes? Everyone knows dirt's real name is lynn, but we don't refer to her as "dirt" all the time.
it is sort of like being one's own 'son'weird
Luke, she wasn't ever going to give you a response other than 'self hating female' and claim she knows aaaall about how 'confused they are'. Despite the fact the person in the video made several interesting points about acceptance and identity.
The video shows that he felt different/realized his feelings meant he was a man was because of some of these reasons:* not wanting to learn about girl things/about being a woman* not wishing to be married, get pregnant, or be weak* not wanting to be grouped with girls* not wanting to be called a girl, woman, or ma'am.
At least she has the sense to avoid permanent body mods. Unlike this poor FTM woman in the times today who is trapped :"I’m just sick of it. The angst, the guilt, the politics, the lingo, the whole transgender shebang: I want to put it behind me. But it’s not really over, and maybe it never will be. Physically, I straddle the border of the sexes, whether I like it or not."Lots of trans really do get tired of the whole bullshit, but by that time their body is too fucked to just move on. http://www.nytimes.com/2011/05/22/fashion/stuck-at-the-border-between-the-sexes-modern-love.htmlNotice the article is in the fashion section.
@Anon, 7:39, yes exactly, and I was shocked as a bio guy because it gives the feelings if you want to do non girlie things, you are trans. I know a lot of women (including my mom) who are strong women and have hobbies like : plane piloting, fishing, and who does not like girlie pink stuff but still are females...
"Luke,Another confused self hating dyke.dirt"@Dirt, I don't think it is hate. I just think it is uncomfort for our young generation to live as a different woman whatever maybe their sexual orientation, lifestyle, clothes, sports...It looks like the young generations are more sensitive to oppression than used to be the activist women of the 70's and those young women are not proud at all to be different.
Gallus MagI read that article in the Times and looked up the authorJust a girl who wants to be Morrissey, pretty weird(and she still looks 'trans' to me)
I guess its not seen as self-hatred if you just destroy/hate yourself (as female) since it isn't your "true" self? Is that the logic?
Hi Dirt,what can you tell about this person? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wOIubGuM2-s&feature=relmfuMaybe it's just a means to be cool? what do you think of "genderqueerness"? Personally I guess I just envy people who are not normal. I'm very unqueer but not typically feminine either so I feel I'm just a boring loser. When I'm with lesbians I don't even feel like a lesbian. Maybe because I hated the people I've met. I don't feel a strong identity of any kind. So I wish I'd felt male or butch or femme. I only wanted to be a gay man when I was younger. Feels like I have not yet built an identity. Is that possible? I've never been with a girl/woman because they were "straight" and I'm basically closeted and always afraid that somebody could think I was a lesbian. I have social phobia, too. I've never had a female friend since puberty. And when I tried with one woman I didn't know how to behave. She had been straight but later thought she was bisexual. I was more asexual than anything. Do you think it's unusual that anybody feels ashamed of being a lesbian? I get a feeling nobody feels like that. I know the self-hatred. A few years ago I had still a big problem to be a woman on the internet. I thought nobody would take me seriously then, especially no men. I even gave myself a male name. Also using the women's restroom has been shameful. I wanted to tell that to show not only transmen or butches can have such feelings. But nowadays I'm more able to surpress these feelings and I have a better opinion about women as I used to have as well. I don't hate women or men. I wouldn't even know what haircut expresses my personality best. same with clothes.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FDOO1kKYCiA&feature=mfu_in_order&list=UL oh yeah this intro video comes very close to how I feel. it just feels bad.
"Another confused self hating dyke.dirt"You declaring that this person is just a self-hating dyke is as just as bad, ridiculous and deplorable as some of your readers who declare that you are just a self-hating transman.
Non really anon because most female transitioners ARE self hating dykes, while I on the other do not hate my female awesomeness.dirt
'fuckyeahftms' is an even better representation of the transitioning trend-girlscheck it out! new daily tragedies to witness
Anon @9:37 - You're right about that. I've never seen so many young women play-acting in such a strange way as on "fuckyeahftms". It is really sad to see, the posing especially, because it's meant to be taken seriously.
How could you possibly say that all transmen are self-hating dykes? Not all transmen identify as lesbians (or as straight men for that matter), and not all of them are forsaking their female parts. I know MANY both pre & post op (top surgery) and pre & post-T transmen who are VERY happy and proud of their genitalia and do not plan on altering them. Did it ever occur to you that some people are HAPPY to live in-between genders? Not as male or female, but as gender-queer, androgynous, two-spirit, etc. I have been in transition for almost 6 years, and I am proud of my vagina and proud that I was not born biologically male because I have a deeper understanding of the female psyche since I was born female..and I don't identify as male or female. Yes, I identified as a lesbian before I transitioned, and I was very proud of it..but now I identify as pansexual and gender-queer and I am 100% happy with it. I am a balance of both male and female and I am not at all ashamed of it. You can't have yang without yin. I am a feminist all the way, but I am also a supporter of those who chose to challenge the gender binary, because gender is a spectrum and there is more beyond just male and female. It both hurts and angers me that other "queer" people would be so hateful towards their brothers and sisters just because they decide to alter their bodies. People alter their bodies everyday, whether they are trans or not. Yes, I agree that there are some people who transition for all of the wrong reasons..but this is why we have to see a therapist for 1-2 years before we start hormones. And I think that the younger ones should wait until they're older, because it is a life-altering decision. But trans-people are still people nonetheless, and we should support and love them through their transitions. And all of you should get your fucking heads out of your asses. Thank you.
i agree with the above poster (on this old thread) about moving beyond the gender binary (which most ftm's are NOT doing, but buying into it even extra) and i think many people are NATURALLY in-between, but once one becomes reliant on outside sources (medication, surgeries) it is something self-created and pretty creepy actually- i'll never understand why people who seem otherwise artsy and creative and generally groovy would do something so decidedly un-grovvy as medical transition.
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