Being of the introvert variety, when I first began thinking about what it means to be a Lesbian, beyond childhood crushes or school girl flirtings, I did what most introverts do-I read. Being poor in pocket but rich in resourcefulness, I quickly discovered books/chapbooks and mailing lists from the love that dare not speak its name. And it didnt then. Instead I received manila envelopes sans all identifications save my address. Once opened I would read intently! Hoping with each word I might find something my Lesbian brain could identify with. It swiftly became apparent that outside of the girl on girlness in most of what I read, I shared little in the way of Lesbian feelings or Lesbian experiences. Whether fiction, nonfiction, poetry, the personal or the political, I found myself a step child among gaggles of sisterhood. Sisterhood, on casual inspection, fighting for civil rights, women's rights, anti-pornography, prostitution, domestic violence, AIDS, the ERA and whatever patriarchy did or didnt do from minute to minute and doing often in the name of Lesbian.
Once I traversed the page and met/befriended other Lesbians in and around my area, it was crystal clear, I wasnt the only dyke puzzled by Radical
I remember there was talk and hope among Lesbian friends and Lesbian comrades about the potential of the internet to increase real Lesbian visibility and for a very short time, in the early 90's, it seemed it had. But with that visibility came more RadFem/STRAIGHTBIANS out of the woodwork cashing in on the Lesbian 5 minutes of front page news. Not because they were Lesbian, BUT because their heterosexual looks whether plain or funky was more palatable/desired by the masses than our
Listen up Lesbian readers, if patriarchy/males are the central focus of your new your
One thing always pointed out when this blog or myself (dirt) comes up in conversation (aside from insults) is dirt writes mostly about Lesbians/Lesbians who transition. Hmmm why might that be??!! Oh wait for it....wait for it...not quite yet...wait for it some more...DIRT IS A LESBIAN!
Does that mean by being a Lesbian my entire life is about my sexual/romantic relations with former girlfriends or my wife? No. Of course it doesnt. Because being a Lesbian has never been dependent upon a female lover. It is however solely dependent upon my Lesbian brain/biology. And as such, my personal and political focus is naturally going to be on Lesbians.
I say this and my wife says this and we both reiterate the hell out of it, not to preach some new Lesbian separatist gospel, but to help Lesbians get in touch with their core Lesbian survival instincts that have gone dormant:
- In part because RadFems/STRAIGHTBIANS have been mass DICKtating their sisterhooded love of women.
- In part because RadFems/STRAIGHTBIANS with financial and academic privilege have HETSPLAINED Lesbian into biological meaninglessness.
- In part because RadFems/STRAIGHTBIANS FAR out number us.
- In part because technology has strengthened all of the above.
For instance, a week or so ago (and this example has been duplicated bazillions of times throughout internet sites/forums/social medias) a HETSPLAINING RadFem who CHOSE to be a
When LESBIAN Brandy Stevens-Rosine was murdered, where were the RadFem/STRAIGHTBIANS then? Outside of a few MEN who mentioned her murder/trial, not a single known or for-that-matter unknown RadFem/STRAIGHTBIAN mentioned her or busied themselves UNSTRAIGHTENING the varying headlines of LESBIAN LOVE TRIANGLE murder. Instead we received just the opposite:
My wife was going through some old pictures a few days ago, and showing me a picture of herself with six other Lesbian friends, she sadly commented that four of the six Lesbians were all kicked out of their families for being Lesbians. A few were later able to slightly have a distant relationship back with their parents, and few others, even today, have none. Even where Lesbians think and feel they have been lucky/blessed with how their families acted/reacted to their Lesbianism, when push comes to shove-we too realize even those we believed had no issue whatsoever with us, instead find the opposite true. Love/respect/acceptance etc might not be as UNconditional as we once thought. This election year proved that to many Lesbians throughout the country, including myself.
There are REAL life consequences to being a biological Lesbian, rather than a
Being born a Lesbian isnt all doom and gloom, but it most certainly takes a Lesbian to be a Lesbian! And it takes our innate Lesbian instincts to find each other, survive and eventually thrive! But with our Lesbian instincts dulled or worse untrustworthy, we are more vulnerable to our Lesbian culture being debased, effaced and erased.
Trust the Lesbian instincts you were born with. Let them be your Lesbian guide and not the prostrate Radical Feminist or the histrionic STRAIGHTBIAN or any of the watery special snowflakes dropping from the sky.