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Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Trans Trending-Lesbian Shame and Shame on the Lesbian Community



Clancy-Age 19

Charles-Age 15

Howie-Age 16

Ren-Age 19

Caden-Age 19

MD-Age 14

Tony-Age 16

Erin-Age (high school)

Nico-Age 18

With the slim exception of the occasional lesbian on TV (allowed visibility ONLY after she is deemed acceptable appearing by straight male TV/viewing standards and her mouth spews ONLY approved of topics) lesbians remain largely invisible in our culture. Once upon a time, lesbian communities had little recourse to help lesbian youth until young lesbians dared to come out and make their way to lesbian bars and other community dyke arenas. There lesbian youth found themselves, in older dykes who gently mentored and mothered them, instilling a lesbian pride that existed only in these small lesbian pockets through out the world.

Fifty years ago, at best the lack of visible lesbian role models created a sense of teenage loneliness, at worst a deep sense of lesbian shame that pushed young lesbians to drink and drug in effort to assuage that shame/loneliness, at the absolute worst, suicide. Today, with the world WIDE web and a thousand and one ways to access it 24/7 at the tips of every finger, lesbian communities around the globe should have already established good VISIBLE lesbian role models and plenty of them. Instead we are more disconnected from one another, just as invisible and promoting lesbian shame and living suicide toward our lesbian youths in the form of transition!

I remembering wearing one of these T-shirts during the AIDS crisis in the late 80's in order to show lesbian support of gay men suffering with HIV and support of preventing those not to get HIV. Within the Gay and Lesbian community, millions across the US alone took a stand with each other and against AIDS and the silence that surrounded AIDS. No gay group or lesbian group railed against other gays or lesbians who spoke out against how those with HIV were being negatively treated, how shitty government funding was for HIV drugs and research or how silence was spreading HIV/AIDS within the gay community. It would have been UNTHINKABLE for a gay or lesbian to ignore the AIDS crisis, to wish AIDS on another gay or lesbian, to wish a gay or lesbian good luck and pat them on their back for getting AIDS!

YET every time the Lesbian community ignores lesbians transitioning, high fives a lesbian and wishes her luck in her transition, promotes programs that transition lesbians this is exactly what she is doing. Today, RIGHT NOW silence in the Lesbian Community doesnt equal death, it equals transition!


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  1. I watched the first video, the girl with the long blond hair. She states that she always felt like a boy because she wore boy clothes and played with boy's toys with the boys as a kid. Just like I did when I was young. It's so sad to watch young girls doing this, they've no idea what they get themselves into. :(

    Being a tough and a strong woman makes us more special then when we transtition into something we aren't and can never be. I wish the therapists woke up.

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  2. YET every time the Lesbian community ignores lesbians transitioning, high fives a lesbian and wishes her luck in her transition, promotes programs that transition lesbians this is exactly what she is doing. Today, RIGHT NOW silence in the Lesbian Community doesnt equal death, it equals transition!

    “Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it”

    Santayan

    People conveniently forget that medicine and psychiatry have always had special ways to “treat” gay men and lesbians. From shock treatments to clitoredectomy, it’s been going on for centuries. “Transitioning” is just a new form of it, albeit a progressively trendy form of it.

    “Transitioning” (sex reassignment surgery) is being used in Iran as a way to deal with its homosexual problem. Actually, according to Ahmadinejad, there are no homosexual in Iran. He should know. They are “transitioned” into the opposite sex. The government of Iran will even pay for sex reassignment surgery. Homosexuality, however, is punishable by death.

    In western countries, we just go about doing lesbian and gay eugenics in a different way. We start with GnRH agonists at age twelve, cross gender hormones at age sixteen, and surgery at eighteen.

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  3. My YouTube channel is posted on this. Why the fuck? What did we do to you in order for you to have the right to say we are "lesbians" I AM a BOY

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  4. @March 27, 2014 at 4:17 PM

    If a human being is born female, she is not a boy. I know people don't want to hear it, but no amount of surgery or hormones is ever going to change this fact.

    I could say I'm a rhinoceros, a giraffe, or the Queen of England.


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    1. Excuse me, just because we were born a female doesn't mean that we weren't born in the wrong body. Every fetus begins at a female. So therefor you wouldn't know if transguys are in thw wrong body.

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  5. Excuse me, just because we were born a female doesn't mean that we weren't born in the wrong body.

    I was born in the wrong body. I'm really a giraffe.

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  6. Basically what your stating is that trans-man are actually lesbians who are so ashamed of their sexual orientation that their trying to become men?

    I agree that, unless at the pleasure of the heterosexual male viewer, Lesbians lack realistic and genuine representation in media, however I don't believe that attacking the transgendered community is the solution. Being attracted to someone of the same gender and not feeling comfortable in your own body, as the gender you were born are two completely different things. It may be a hard thing to understand since you do not experience the gender dysphoria that many people feel before they transition; however it is important to remember that people who are heterosexual do not understand how someone could possibly be attracted to someone of the same gender. Just because you do not understand something does not mean it is illegitimate.

    The feelings someone who is trans experience are very real; it would be as if someone telling you that you couldn't really be a women attracted to another women. You have no right to dismiss someones feelings as being erroneous and you certainly don't have the right to target real people.

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  7. Every fetus begins at a female. So therefor you wouldn't know if transguys are in thw wrong body.

    In terms of fetal development, this is only true up until about two to three months of fetal development. It's really being disingenuous because nothing changes the DNA.

    Here we go with this again. Sexual differentiation doesn't occur until about two to three months. Therefore, males are exactly like females. A human being without a fully developed reproductive system and fully developed body isn't going to survive outside the womb.

    No, every fetus doesn't begin as female. Nothing changes the chromosomes.

    People with a smattering of biology really are confused. Nothing can change the genes which drive fetal development.

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  8. Basically what your stating is that trans-man are actually lesbians who are so ashamed of their sexual orientation that their trying to become men?

    I'm saying that something is going on, and it's largely culturally based.

    What is a "trans-man"? There is no such thing as a "trans-man" outside of the particular culturally context in which this word is used. Females are female. This is a biological reality. Females who are primarily attracted to other females are often called lesbian. Chaz Bono was a lesbian long before she became a "man", and we know that a lot of FTMs are attracted to women. Not all of them, but everyone I know is. Many of the teenage girls in the trans youtube vidoes say they have a girlfriend.

    All we have to do is ask ourselves two questions:

    (1.) Who has more social standing and privilege? Is it males or females. This seems to hold true in most cultures. Girls receive messages that they are inferior from the time they are born.

    (2.) Who is oppressed and marginalized more? Is it heterosexuals or lesbians?

    We are supposed to believe that (1.) and (2.) NEVER play a role in FTM "transitioning". I'm not the only person to question what is going on. It's something of an unspoken reality. "Trans-men" get to step up in social standing by relinquishing their membership in the female sex, and they get to dump the dreaded lesbian label. I can certainly understand why they would do this.

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  9. I agree that, unless at the pleasure of the heterosexual male viewer, Lesbians lack realistic and genuine representation in media, however I don't believe that attacking the transgendered community is the solution.

    unless at the pleasure of the heterosexual male viewer,

    This statement is sexist on its face. Not everything is at the pleasure of the heterosexual male viewer. I know this is a difficult concept to grasp.

    You have no right to dismiss someones feelings as being erroneous and you certainly don't have the right to target real people.

    Free speech still exists in the U.S. and most European countries. It's impossible to silence everyone.

    Look at this video. This is the mutilation of perfectly healthy female breasts. I've always felt uncomfortable with the idea of elective mastectomies with the surgical trimming down of areolas and nipples.

    This is "top surgery" gone wrong.

    http://www.indiegogo.com/projects/damien-leggett-surgery-fund--2

    This is a human female who basically underwent an elective mastectomy.

    "Damien was admitted with a postsurgical infection. By this time one of Damien's nipples was necrotic and black but we were told it was "fine".

    Nearly five week after surgery Dec 4 at 12:30 in the afternoon Damien went to HSC emergency with his nipple hanging off pouring fluid, with redness, painful swelling, and abscesses. He was generally unwell and profoundly depressed.

    After almost eight hours Damien asked a surgical resident what to do about the fact that the nipple his surgeon said was "fine" two weeks before was literally hanging off. The resident said not to worry – that people walk around with necrotic toes all the time. Damien said he was traumatized by the idea of his nipple falling off in his hand and the resident said that if it happened, he could just “throw it in the garbage.”

    Not long ago, there was a Belgian woman who was so depressed after botched sex reassignment surgery that she begged a doctor to euthanize her.

    We are evil people for speaking the truth about FTM "transitioning". Health female bodies are being butchered.

    What happens to the female sex matters.

    Apparently, it's better to mutilate their female bodies than to be a lesbian.

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  10. @March 27, 2014 at 5:02 PM

    Breast binding for long periods of time can mis-align ribs and cause other health problems.

    If you have asthma, it's not a good idea to breast bind.

    I don't know if anyone has ever told you this.

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  11. These kids say they are "pre-T" (testosterone) even before they are old enough to vote.

    The girl with the long hair looks just like any other high school girl.

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  12. @FTM transguys - what does it mean to be born in the wrong body?

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  13. These beautiful young women think because they don't like dresses and being "feminine" this means they are really trans or boys.

    Twenty years ago, most of these girls would just be called tomboys. Now, they are talking about going on "T" and getting their breasts lopped off.

    I fail to see how elective mastectomies and a life time of synthetic hormones is progressive.


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  14. Today, RIGHT NOW silence in the Lesbian Community doesn't equal death, it equals transition!

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  15. I'd be willing to bet you that most or at least many of us posting who are anti-transitionsing look and act as much, if not more "masculine" than most of you ftm's posting here. We understand where you guys are coming from, and this is why we especially understand why where you're going to is so wrong.

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  16. Very well said, Superslayer!
    I surely look masculine too, read my story on this blog about Why I Haven't Transitioned.
    I'm a tough woman I'm strong and I can fix things.

    It may be a hard thing to understand since you do not experience the gender dysphoria

    Gender dysphoria is not the right word, it's body dysphoria. And Dirt knows very good what it is. She spoke about it often and how she learned to deal with it.

    No, every fetus doesn't begin as female. Nothing changes the chromosomes.
    Really? You believe that?
    Did you sleep during biology class? Immediately after conception the gender is determined. It's XX or XY (and rarely intersex) and nothing is gonna change that.
    You trhink that all males were females the first months after conception? C'mon, you can do better!

    Please, learn to love yourself as who you are. Many did it before you. <3

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  17. I quotes the wrong line, it should have been this one of course:

    Every fetus begins at a female

    Sorry! ;)

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  18. @Superslayer and @Big
    Just wanted to post saying that both of y'all are awesome, and I appreciate your bluntness and openness.

    @ftm transguys
    You might do well to look back through some past posts, where there are other women discussing their body dysphoria outside of the concept of transition. Body dysphoria has always existed, transition and transsexuality has not. Body dysphoria is a legitimate condition - what you do with it, however, is your choice. I know I've said it before on this blog but I will say it again for your direct benefit here - Dysphoria does not equate to transsexual identification and medical/social transition does not necessitate dysphoria (as we're actually seeing more and more). These are choices that you make, and you are completely at liberty to choose your path in life, but please attempt to take a big step back and see it for what it is.

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  19. The problem is that you don't actually know what "it" is. You are projecting from your own experience of lesbian self-hate. Hate yourself for being lesbian? Sorry, but many, many transmen have always been attracted to men. Many more now will never have to experience shame about being trans- as acceptance grows. Your dysphoric struggle is NOT ours. Stop claiming us- saying you felt like we did. You didn't-obviously! Your struggle to love
    yourselves looks nothing like my experience
    at all. You are so fucking warped by your scars that you literally cannot even imagine for a second that you DON'T know everything there is to know. The only thing that actually would be shameful about being a lesbian is having to share a community with the likes of
    you. Seriously.

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  20. @anon March 28, 2014 at 2:56 PM

    No one ever really knows exactly what other people feel, that's the beauty of the human experience. However, it is an absolute truth that there are people who experience body dysphoria/gender dysphoria and deal with it in ways other than transition. I am one of these people. I talk about it very openly. I do not struggle to love myself at all. There are struggles and difficulties and sometimes it is hard to find comfort, but I do not struggle to love myself. Indeed, I share many struggles with trans* identified individuals and readily accept that, which includes struggles with dysphoria and body congruence. I have made different choices than trans* identifying people, but in some ways our struggles and experiences are quite similar.
    I wish that you find peace and harmony with yourself, as I have with myself, in whatever way that is.

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  21. @Zombie

    Body dysphoria has always existed, transition and transsexuality has not.

    Good point...

    Sorry, but many, many transmen have always been attracted to men.

    Personally, I could care less if they are bisexual or not, or primarily like men. Calling females who have sex with males "men" is laughable. It really gets ridiculous when pregnant women call themselves "men".

    This would make them straight women or bisexual women. Are we supposed to believe that this is something new? Many FTMs don't have "bottom surgery" and they still have a vagina. A vagina, ovaries, and uterus are female organs. FTMs still experience sexual pleasure basically through the clitoris just like all other women. All "T" does is enlarge the clitoris an inch or two. Well, that and grow whiskers. In "bottom surgery", the skin grafts from the arm or wherever are essentially sewn above the clitoris. Truth be told, there is no way a human born female will ever experience sexual pleasure exactly the same way as a biological male does. It's not going to happen. I'm sorry to burst anyone's bubble.

    Every transman (biological female who "transitions") I've known was into women. In fact, most of the girls in the youtube videos say they have a girlfriend.

    Even when they are having regular old penis in vagina sex with a male, "transmen" call themselves "men". It's amazing what people tell themselves. Some even get pregnant and have babies AFTER legally changing their sex to male.

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  22. Your dysphoric struggle is NOT ours.

    Yes, it is our struggle too. By "our", I mean the female sex.

    It most certainly is part of the struggle that the female sex as a whole has always had to deal with.

    Females can't entirely escape their female body or the culture in which they are raised.

    It's rare to find any female who doesn't have some body dysphoria. Girls and women constantly receive messages that they are inferior, and they are bombarded with image from the media on a daily basis that tell them what is appropriate and "feminine". We are supposed to believe that only trans identified people feel dysphoric. I can say with almost certainty that there isn't one girl in the videos that dirt links to that hasn't felt some body dysphoria. It doesn't mean she is trans.

    These teenage girls are being told that they are really "trans" or "boys" because they don't like X, Y, or Z, and don't like wearing pretty pink dresses. Look at the two videos of the girls with long hair. They look like any other girl to me, but are told they really are "trans" for rejecting traditional sex roles that society forces on them. Transgender just props up the same, tired old traditional sex roles, albeit in a trendy new way.

    The fact that many of these teenage girls are already breast binding and talking about "T" and "top surgery" concerns me. It's better if they all get their breasts lopped off and take synthetic hormones instead of simply being a girl who doesn't buy into forced "femininity", or worse yet, being branded a horrid lesbian.

    Misogyny is as old as human kind, and the mutilation of female bodies has been going on for thousands of years.

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  23. Help me, somebody! I'm really a tall, tough-but-sinewy, blonde lesbian airline pilot (picture a young Sharon Gless, maybe an inch taller). Problem is, I'm trapped in the body of a plump, middle-aged, balding fairy who's always had a desk-job. Oh, what is to be done?

    Surprisingly, this ludicrous fantasy is actually useful to me. When confronted by a challenging situation, I stand up tall like my imaginary airline pilot, and, just as Christians are reputed to say “What would Jesus do?”, I ask myself “how would Sharon Gless/Cagney do it?” I have survived, and even emerged triumphant from many difficult situations in this way.

    Our fantasies can be empowering, and imagination is part of what makes us human. But if we try to translate them into literal, brutal, physical fact, we end up locking ourselves into nonsense, like fundamentalist Christians who take evocative and sometimes beautiful Jewish myths to be substitutes for physics and biology textbooks.

    “Anonymous Big said...
    Check out some awesome butches!
    Beautiful masculine women of San Francisco”

    Wow! Some knee-tremblers there. Am I allowed to say that? Don't care. But as someone else pointed out, they are hot precisely because they are strong, tough women, not ersatz men.

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  24. "Transgender just props up the same, tired old traditional sex roles, albeit in a trendy new way".

    Exactly. And none of these girls pass. They never do.

    Same with the M2Ts who have the audacity to call themselves women and lesbians. You're all still men and it's all about your erection.

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  25. All you fuckin lesbians are just mad. Just because a MAN decides to transition, how the fuck does that affect you in anyway? Oh boo hoo you get shit for being a lesbo. Well EVERYONE gets shit so how about you take your whiny ass back to nobody gives a shit.

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