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Thursday, February 13, 2014

FTM Regret and the regret continues...

Blog searches from earlier today...
Going to try and be more diligent with documenting these searches, in effort and hope female transitioners wanting to stop their transition will know it is okay to stop, they are not alone and the road back to themselves is still visible.

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  1. There are some good detransition blogs..

    http://crashchaoscats.tumblr.com/

    http://atlasstrawberries.tumblr.com/post/62563122851/this-blog-now-only-discusses-ftm-detransition

    http://detransition.blogspot.com/

    http://twentythreetimes.tumblr.com/post/59120657750/the-fact-that-im-detransitioning-means-im-not-a

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  2. I googled "jackalope" yesterday. Does that mean I am one?

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  3. @February 17, 2014 at 1:57 PM

    What do your comments have to do with anything?

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  4. Dum-dum. What I mean is that you can't establish a direct relationship between googling something and being that thing. I've looked at detransition blogs. I wish those people well and support their decisions. I can't imagine going through all that and later feeling like I made a mistake. But I'm even less able to understand turning around and blaming my own mistake on the false idea of some coercive trans "community". Like, if you are that much of a victim and have no agency to make the right decisions in your own life, what the fuck good are you in ANY gender?

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  5. @February 18, 2014 at 1:06 AM

    Dum-dum. What I mean is that you can't establish a direct relationship between googling something and being that thing. I've looked at detransition blogs. I wish those people well and support their decisions. I can't imagine going through all that and later feeling like I made a mistake. But I'm even less able to understand turning around and blaming my own mistake on the false idea of some coercive trans "community". Like, if you are that much of a victim and have no agency to make the right decisions in your own life, what the fuck good are you in ANY gender?

    Dum-dum.

    It's about the cultural forces that influence the decision to "transition". For example, these cultural factors include all the following:

    Trans blogs, trans websites that teenage girls visit, plastic surgeons that advertise "top surgery", "bottom surgery", facial feminization for MTFs, etc., doctors who give "T" prescriptions to anyone, "gender therapists", online "gender therapists", doctors who make money giving GnRH agonists to children, etc.

    "But I'm even less able to understand turning around and blaming my own mistake on the false idea of some coercive trans "community."

    Dum-dum, who put the idea of "transitioning" (surgery and hormones) into the mind of Nancy/Nathan Verhelst? She was so depressed after botched sex reassignment surgery that she asked to be euthanized. I would call that serious depression. She didn't like the way her chest looked after "top surgery", and she was afraid the skin flap sewn onto her pubic area to fashion a "penis" was about to rot off. By all accounts, she grew up in a dysfunctional home where the mother favored the brothers. Nancy/Nathan probably wasn't too emotionally stable to begin with. Why was she "transitioned"? So, she was just a stupid woman who should have known better, and she should have lived with the consequences of her choices? Am I right? Or, is it more like this. Doctors were quick to jump on the cool and trendy trans bandwagon, and "transitioning" was sold as a cure all for this depressed woman's emotional problems.

    History is littered with examples of various trends and fads that were seen as quite trendy and progressive at the time, but eventually turned into ghastly Orwellian experiments.







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  6. "But I'm even less able to understand turning around and blaming my own mistake on the false idea of some coercive trans "community". Like, if you are that much of a victim and have no agency to make the right decisions in your own life, what the fuck good are you in ANY gender?"

    I've seen this attitude before and I think it is dangerous to people's health.

    We don't say things like this about any other disease.

    If you go to the doctor with fibroids and they say you have cancer and take out your uterus, it is the doctor's fault.

    If you tell your psychiatrist you were abused as a child and you get terrible nightmares and cry a lot and they give you a lobotomy, it is the doctor's fault.

    If you tell your doctor you think you have a thyroid problem, but you don't and they give you thyroid medicine anyway, it is the doctor's fault.

    It is your responsibility to tell the truth to your doctor or therapist.

    It is the doctor's and therapist's responsibility to make the right diagnosis and prescribe the right treatment.

    It is the medical profession's responsibility to make sure that all treatments work well and are safe.

    We should not blame patients for bad health care.

    When it comes to your friends:

    If you are diagnosed with diabetes, but you can improve your blood sugar with exercise and diet instead of insulin, hooray for you! You're an inspiration to us all!

    If you think you have breast cancer, but it turns out the lump is benign, great news! The people in your breast cancer support group will hug you and celebrate with you!

    We should not be angry at people who discover that they don't have gender dysphoria or that transitioning doesn't help their gender dysphoria.

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