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Tuesday, December 31, 2013

Trans Trending-Who is Transitioning

 
marisbananaba-Age 19

Seth-Age 18

Sammy-Age 21-Mother of a 2 y/o

Marshall-Age 15

Riley-Age 15

TheWesleyGiovanni-Age 18

Sid-Age 21

Pat-Age 16

Charlie-Age (youth)

This will be the last Who is Transitioning posts of the year 2013. Looking back on the Who is Transitioning posts of this year and years previous, two things stand out like the proverbial sore thumb-the strong presence of lesbian youths and the growing absence of older lesbians transitioning.

I attribute the growth of lesbian youths transitioning due to the combined catastrophe of an acceptable hyper feminine female idea, a declining unacceptable feminist DYKE role model and social media reinforcing both, signaling a new silent unnamed lezbophobia.

I ascribe the declining transition of older lesbians to the increase in state sanctioned "gay marriage", giving older lesbians a sense of "polite society" normality/acceptability. This normality decreasing familial homophobia giving both family and dyke a new sense of dyke worth/pride/love.

So while my feminist dyke soul is highly against "gay marriage", there has clearly been a silver lining I missed. But while there is a conspicuous absence of older lesbians filling the trans pit, homophobia and the male medical machine are making up for it by shoveling in more dyke children and dyke youths. None the less I still count this as progress, especially when I have seen with my own eyes, some of those older lesbians who detransitioned or whom turned away from the trans chopping block and are now vocal about their trans experiences, opening windows and doors for more dyke youth to climb out or run through!

Great job! Be your own best example and then be an example for someone else!


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  1. I attribute the growth of lesbian youths transitioning due to the combined catastrophe of an acceptable hyper feminine female idea, a declining unacceptable feminist DYKE role model and social media reinforcing both, signaling a new silent unnamed lezbophobia.

    I agree with this critique, especially the part about the lezbophobia.

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  2. Happy New Year Everyone!

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  3. You've opened the whole Pandora's Box of gay marriage. Thank you and curse you (such was the fate of Pandora herself).

    I argued long and passionately against lesbian/gay marriage, and indeed against any kind of marriage, but I/we lost that argument. I do indeed intend to marry my boyfriend, so that his son can inherit what little I leave with a significantly smaller tax burden. It's a poor kind of equality, and it doesn't make me happy at all, but needs must.

    We look forward to our marriage as an administrative regularization of our situation, we'll assemble the documentation and go down to the Town Hall to sign the papers. It might figure in our photo album, but not as prominently as the anniversary we always celebrate, of our first meeting, and other landmarks of interest only to ourselves.

    My point is only that, while we have been obliged to buy into the marriage thing as a legal arrangement, we still find it very hard to grasp the romanticized idea of it which seems to be afloat in the USA.

    Can any of you Yanquis explain this?

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  4. I wanted to come here and wish you Happy New Year. I saw the headline of new videos of kids transitioning and was depressed - what a way to start the year. Then I read your piece and you gave me hope for the future.

    Here's to more progress in 2014 and to a revival of proud lesbian culture!

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  5. Except lots of these people who are transitioning who are supposedly "lesbians" are attracted to men. Don't see why they would want to be "proper butch lesbians" if they're not lesbians.

    Also, if gender is just a construct, it's funny that you're a butch LESBIAN. You're so backwards.

    How would you feel if, after your death, people said "she just didn't meet the right guy, there weren't enough straight female role models for her to look up to, poor Dirt was so confused!"

    The same vile nonsense you spew about transgender people is word-for-word the same as the vile nonsense conservatives and misogynists use against lesbians. How can you not see that? How are you so blind? I can only hope you see the error of your ways before you drive more of these kids to suicide with your relentless bullying.

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  6. The same vile nonsense you spew about transgender people is word-for-word the same as the vile nonsense conservatives and misogynists use against lesbians. How can you not see that? How are you so blind? I can only hope you see the error of your ways before you drive more of these kids to suicide with your relentless bullying.

    Sex reassignment surgery only made Nancy/Nathan Verhelst more depressed to the point that she begged a doctor to euthanize her. I would call this major depression, and this was after the "top surgery" and "bottom surgery". Nancy/Nathan didn't like how her chest looked after "top surgery", and expressed concern that her "penis" fashioned from a skin flap taken from the arm was showing signs of rejection. In other words, the skin flap from her arm that was sewn onto her female pubic area was rotting off. Considering Nancy/Nathan's reported dysfunctional background in which the mother clearly favored the brothers, this fragile individual shouldn't have been "transitioned" to begin with.

    "Suicide rates among transsexuals and those who have undergone gender reassignment surgery are high with some suggesting the rate may be as high as 31 per cent.

    Chris Hyde, professor at the University of Exeter, who has studied the issues surrounding sex change operations, told MailOnline: ‘Research we conducted a decade ago found there is huge uncertainty over whether changing someone's sex is a good or a bad thing.

    ‘While no doubt great care is taken to ensure that appropriate patients undergo gender reassignment, there's still a large number of people who have the surgery but remain traumatised - often to the point of committing suicide.


    ‘While we haven’t looked at the situation since then, given the difficulties in researching this area, it is likely that the same issues remain today".

    http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2440086/Belgian-transsexual-Nathan-Verhelst-44-elects-die-euthanasia-botched-sex-change-operation.html




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  7. @January 1, 2014 at 1:31 PM

    "Except lots of these people who are transitioning who are supposedly "lesbians" are attracted to men. Don't see why they would want to be "proper butch lesbians" if they're not lesbians."

    You are so right. It's a common assumption based on ignorance that trans men are self-hating lesbians and trans women are self-hating gay men. It ignores that that are gay, bisexual, pansexual, polysexual, queer and asexual trans men. Same for trans women.

    Sure, there are some trans men who started out identifying as lesbians just as there are some trans women who started out identifying as gay men, but it's certainly not all. How do you explain people like Warren Beatty's transsexual son, Stephen Ira, who is a gay man? Or people like Buck Angel, who is married to a woman but is clearly pansexual; having sex with cis men, cis women, trans men and trans women? He is obviously not a self-hating dyke, but a pansexual transsexual man.

    I can speak from my own experience as a transsexual male who identifies as a pansexual and a queer. I came as bisexual when I was 13. Then I went through a further phase of questioning in my mid-teens when I was wondering if I could just "get by" as a butch dyke. That didn't last very long since I never identified with lesbian culture or lesbianism at all. Why? Because I'm not a woman and never saw myself as one, obviously. (Oh, and there's also the fact that I love cock.) In fact, I identify more with gay male culture and most of my friends have been gay and bisexual men. Personally, I prefer transsexual women, transsexual men and androgynous males over everyone else, with cis women and cis men coming in closely behind in terms of what I'm most attracted to.

    This blog is really ignorant about the reality of the diversity of trans people. Dirt and her little circle of "fans" are bullies and hate-filled ignorant bigots who know next to nothing about us. Unless you know for certain that those young people you bully by plastering their pictures on your blog without their permission identified as butch dykes or lesbians at all before coming out as trans, you really need to stop assuming. Even if they did identify as lesbians beforehand, that does not mean that they are homophobic self-haters. Some of us merely go through a period of trying to figure out where we fit in before coming to the realization that we're guys and so stop trying to force ourselves to fit into concepts of female-ness (including butch female-ness).

    Oh, by the way: the people you're calling "autogynephiliacs" are actually called transvestites. They're nothing new. And, no: they aren't transsexuals. They're really in a separate category. Transsexualism is not a sexual fetish.

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  8. @January 1, 2014 at 6:41 PM

    That is an example of psychiatric care not getting to where it was needed. Those considering medical transition are supposed to be psychologically stable before given the "go ahead" to hormones and/or surgery. People who have psychotic breaks/delusions and those are at severe risk for suicide are supposed to deal with those issues FIRST before medical transition. Apparently, this didn't happen in Verhelst's case and that is sad. But that case is an exception and not the rule, and so shouldn't be bandied about as such, as a weapon against trans people.

    Also, what's your point in bringing up suicide rates? I could just as easily bring up stats that show the suicide rate of gays and lesbians is higher than the average. I'd love to know where they got that 31% number from, as well. "Some say" is not a proper citation and wouldn't even be allowed on Wikipedia. Guess that just goes to show where the Daily Mail's journalistic integrity lies.

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  9. All the older "dykes" who were actually transsexual men have transitioned. Anybody who didn't know that you can transition has heard about it and done it by now for the most part. The ones who didn't either don't have the guts or don't have the desire. Period. These young kids are expressing their gender identity. Its not based on sexual preference. You lived in a time when people tried to create a whole culture around being a sexual minority. In the future, people may not define themselves along these lines. Indeed, if there were complete acceptance for homosexuality, you would not have much of a vital little subculture at all. Your whole identity is based on your oppression. You are defined by your difference from the norm, which is not really normal at all. Other people don't and won't identify like you do. You are alone, living as a function of a cultural context that won't last forever. Deal with it.

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  10. Or people like Buck Angel, who is married to a woman but is clearly pansexual; having sex with cis men, cis women, trans men and trans women? He is obviously not a self-hating dyke, but a pansexual transsexual man.

    The part about FTM porn star Buck Angel "having sex with cis men, cis women, trans men and trans women" is true. This person forgot to mention "having sex with cis men, cis women, trans men and trans women" for profit. I find it difficult to believe that people who sell their bodies to the highest bidder have great self esteem. Perhaps they do, but I doubt it.

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  11. Unless you know for certain that those young people you bully by plastering their pictures on your blog without their permission identified as butch dykes or lesbians at all before coming out as trans, you really need to stop assuming.

    In these numerous youtube videos, many of these teenage girls say they have a girlfriend. Females who are primarily attracted to other females are often called lesbian. Wait, they can't be lesbian because they really are trans or boys. Isn't this convenient, and we are supposed to believe that some degree of internalized misogyny and lesbian phobia play no part in this whatsoever. Chaz Bono even wrote a book about coming out as a lesbian before becoming a "man". Thomas Beatie, the "pregnant man", FTM has always preferred women. Beatie is not a lesbian, and not a woman despite giving birth to three babies AFTER legally changing her sex to male. No, they aren't lesbian or women because they are "men" now.

    At least this person is honest about it.

    "I would much rather see my daughter grow up to be a trans man and receive the respect that comes from being a man, rather than be steered into becoming a carpet muncher and someone who gets absolutely no respect in our society."

    http://dirtywhiteboi67.blogspot.com/2012/05/camps-influencing-our-impressionable.html

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  12. These young kids are expressing their gender identity.

    Bullshit. They are primarily being brainwashed.

    Are these 13, 14, and 15 year old kids really expressing their "gender identity"? I seriously doubt it. These are beautiful young people, and they don't have to mutilate their bodies or depend on synthetic hormones for the rest of their lives. Their identity doesn't have to come via an injectable drug. They don't have to get their breasts lopped off and their nipples whittled down to size. They don't have to get a skin flap from their arm sewn onto their female pubic area so they can pretend it's a "penis".

    Deal with it.

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  13. Your whole identity is based on your oppression.

    I'm grateful that my whole identity doesn't come in a vial of synthetic hormones that have to be injected. My identity does NOT require elective mastectomies and skin flaps sewn onto my genitals. I can live free, natural, and enjoy life to the fullest without an external source to validate my existence.

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  14. But that case is an exception and not the rule, and so shouldn't be bandied about as such, as a weapon against trans people.


    Darn journalists and pesky people who used this tragedy (Verhelst) for the evil purpose of turning it into a "weapon against trans people."

    When people bring up the tragic mutilation and euthanasia of Verhelst, they are using this "as a weapon against trans people". "Transitioning" was sold as a cure for all the insecurities and childhood trauma this individual experienced growing up in a household that favored the brothers. They mutilated a perfectly healthy female body and then euthanized her. You really have to hate the female sex to do this.

    After the euthanasia of Verhelst, what did the transgender community do? The answer is nothing. Did anyone re-examine who should and should not be "transitioning"? No, it's business as usual.

    The statement, "But that case is an exception and not the rule" isn't exactly true. Botched "top surgery" stories are easy to find online.

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  15. "The part about FTM porn star Buck Angel "having sex with cis men, cis women, trans men and trans women" is true. This person forgot to mention "having sex with cis men, cis women, trans men and trans women" for profit. I find it difficult to believe that people who sell their bodies to the highest bidder have great self esteem. Perhaps they do, but I doubt it. "

    He has identified as bisexual:

    "No. I’m just a sexual person. I’m open. I mean, technically, I guess you could say I’m bisexual. But that’s not how I look at it. It’s more about the person to me than the gender. My business is different though. My customer base is 80 percent gay men, so I guess it’s kind of gay porn that I’m doing, although that continues to change as I get more successful." - Buck

    Doesn't matter what you personally think of his chosen career. From all looks of it, he is enjoying himself and is a positive role model for queers struggling to accept their sexualities and their bodies. Why don't you actually go learn about him, read some interviews with him and watch him speak on video before judging? He's a very intelligent, kind person. Much more than I can say for the people on this blog.

    "In these numerous youtube videos, many of these teenage girls say they have a girlfriend. Females who are primarily attracted to other females are often called lesbian. Wait, they can't be lesbian because they really are trans or boys. Isn't this convenient, and we are supposed to believe that some degree of internalized misogyny and lesbian phobia play no part in this whatsoever. Chaz Bono even wrote a book about coming out as a lesbian before becoming a "man". Thomas Beatie, the "pregnant man", FTM has always preferred women. Beatie is not a lesbian, and not a woman despite giving birth to three babies AFTER legally changing her sex to male. No, they aren't lesbian or women because they are "men" now. "

    Yeah, it is pretty simple. They do not identify as women/females, so they are not "lesbians". Get the fuck over it. There's far more bigotry towards trans people than there is towards lesbians. So that whole nonsense about us being self-hating "lesbians" doesn't fly! Why in the world would we subject ourselves to ADDED bigotry and misunderstanding when we could just be dykes? Fuck, I wish I were "just" a lesbian. That way I could be all smug and self-righteous as the wonderful Sapphic sisters on this blog attest.

    You don't make any damn sense.

    "I'm grateful that my whole identity doesn't come in a vial of synthetic hormones that have to be injected. My identity does NOT require elective mastectomies and skin flaps sewn onto my genitals. I can live free, natural, and enjoy life to the fullest without an external source to validate my existence. "

    Nice smugness. Must be nice with your lack of compassion.

    You people are no different from the right-wing homophobes who think that homosexuality is a learned behavior. You even use a lot of the same arguments against trans people.

    You all should be ashamed.

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  16. "Sex reassignment surgery only made Nancy/Nathan Verhelst more depressed to the point that she begged a doctor to euthanize her. I would call this major depression, and this was after the "top surgery" and "bottom surgery". Nancy/Nathan didn't like how her chest looked after "top surgery", and expressed concern that her "penis" fashioned from a skin flap taken from the arm was showing signs of rejection. In other words, the skin flap from her arm that was sewn onto her female pubic area was rotting off. Considering Nancy/Nathan's reported dysfunctional background in which the mother clearly favored the brothers, this fragile individual shouldn't have been "transitioned" to begin with. "

    What does that have anything to do with what I said? You do realize the suicide rates of lesbians are pretty bad too right?

    Guess you'd better turn straight for your own good!

    See how stupid that sounds?

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  17. "Bullshit. They are primarily being brainwashed.

    Are these 13, 14, and 15 year old kids really expressing their "gender identity"? I seriously doubt it. These are beautiful young people, and they don't have to mutilate their bodies or depend on synthetic hormones for the rest of their lives. Their identity doesn't have to come via an injectable drug. They don't have to get their breasts lopped off and their nipples whittled down to size. They don't have to get a skin flap from their arm sewn onto their female pubic area so they can pretend it's a "penis".

    Deal with it."

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    You are so stupid. Just stupid. There is no other word for it. Stupid where this is concerned, at least.

    Not all FTMs get surgery or go on hormones. Many of them - possibly most - don't. They don't 'get their identity' from these things. These "treatments" just make them look less transgender. Looking transgender will get you killed in many places. So sorry if someone doesn't want to die because some stupid ignorant asshole somewhere has a problem with transitioning with hormones and surgery.

    Not to mention they just want to make themselves look better. Why do some women wear make-up? Why do some women tone their bodies or add extra curves? Why do some women wear nice clothes? To improve your physical appearance. God forbid someone works on their physical appearance in a way you don't like.

    People still say lesbians are brainwashed. Get a grip. Stop throwing that word around. Just as you think THE PATRIARCHYYYYYY is encouraging people to be transgender, other people think THE FEMINISTSSSSSS are encouraging people to be lesbians. Look at what you're saying and realize what an incredible hypocrite you are.

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  18. "Darn journalists and pesky people who used this tragedy (Verhelst) for the evil purpose of turning it into a "weapon against trans people."

    When people bring up the tragic mutilation and euthanasia of Verhelst, they are using this "as a weapon against trans people". "Transitioning" was sold as a cure for all the insecurities and childhood trauma this individual experienced growing up in a household that favored the brothers. They mutilated a perfectly healthy female body and then euthanized her. You really have to hate the female sex to do this.

    After the euthanasia of Verhelst, what did the transgender community do? The answer is nothing. Did anyone re-examine who should and should not be "transitioning"? No, it's business as usual.

    The statement, "But that case is an exception and not the rule" isn't exactly true. Botched "top surgery" stories are easy to find online. "

    We already have professional guidelines, idiot. Ever heard of WPATH? I have no idea if Verhelst's doctors followed those guidelines or not. Doesn't seem that they did! One of the things that transsexual people need to understand is that medical transition is not a "cure". It is supposed to help make you feel more at home in your own body, but it does not mean that all your problems magically go away.

    "Botched top surgeries" are the fault of the surgeon. Yes, shitty surgeons exist. Buyer beware! That's why you do RESEARCH into surgeons before you decided on one.

    This is not a problem with medical transition itself. The problem is with individual people seeking medical transition and doctors and surgeons who are supposed to care for them. But this situation is getting better as more medical professionals become education in this area and the access to health care for trans people gradually improves.

    So I repeat: Verhelst's case is not the rule. It is shocking because it is not common. That person was very troubled far beyond being transsexual.

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  19. "Not all FTMs get surgery or go on hormones. Many of them - possibly most - don't. They don't 'get their identity' from these things."

    True. I don't get my identity from without. It comes from within. Clothes, hormones and surgery don't make you a man or a woman. You are, regardless.

    That's another thing that is irksome - people assuming that surgery "makes" you a man or a woman. It doesn't. It just helps to align the outside with the inside.

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  20. It's a common assumption based on ignorance that trans men are self-hating lesbians.

    Although every FTM that I've known was in a relationship with a woman, or still is in a relationship with a women, or once called herself a lesbian, I wouldn't say that they are all self-hating lesbians. It probably would be more accurate to state that they are self-hating females. I don’t mean to imply that this is a conscious decision. In a world in which (a.) males have more social status and privilege than females (b.) heterosexuals have more status than lesbians, and (c.) young girls receive messages from birth telling them they are inferior, I can understand the powerful allure or temptation to dump their membership in the female sex and drop the lesbian label.

    If a young black child came home one day and said, “I think I’m really white inside”, or, “I identify as white” most people would want to understand why the child feels this way. Although misogyny is just as pervasive and ingrained into the fabric of society as race, no one is ever allowed to question whether or not varying degrees of internalized misogyny and/or lesbian phobia play a role in FTM transitioning. Under no circumstances can transgender or transitioning ever be questioned. We don’t accept this notion at all, and constant threats or intimidation will never silence people.

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  21. No, as a transsexual man, I am a not a "self-hating woman". If I could've chosen to have my identity match my body and be a woman, I would've taken that opportunity happily! It's not about running away from femininity, as you seem to think. For some unknown reason, our minds and bodies are not in alignment. So no matter how much I would try to identify with my body as a female, it just won't work. My mind will always perceive itself as male and there's no way to change that.

    This has nothing to do with not wanting to play with dolls, wear makeup, dresses and skirts or any other silly shit like that.

    Please stop assuming that you understand our identities and what causes them. Because you really, really don't.

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  22. This is not a problem with medical transition itself. The problem is with individual people seeking medical transition and doctors and surgeons who are supposed to care for them. But this situation is getting better as more medical professionals become education in this area and the access to health care for trans people gradually improves.

    Bullshit. The problem is transgender activists, online "gender therapists", trans friendly doctors who give "T" to anyone, and plastic surgeons push "transitioning". There is no money to be made in not "transitioning". As to WPATH, they push GnRH agonists (puberty suppression) along with "top surgery", "bottom surgery", facial feminization for MTFs, and a host of other cosmetic procedures. By the way, the transgender community knows full well that GnRH agonists followed by cross gender hormones at age 16 can make healthy children infertile. Your precious WPATH advocates for the sterilization of healthy children. WPATH is basically a walking billboard for plastic surgeons and pharmaceutical companies.

    Do I believe that transgender activists actually feel sorry for the mutilated and euthanized Verhelst. No, I do not. They don't care about this deeply troubled individual anymore than they care about who FTM Dr. Richard Curtis treated.

    "The London-based GP is accused of prescribing sex change hormones “to several patients” that were not appropriate and also ignoring restrictions placed on his practice.

    In one case reportedly under investigation by the GMC, the doctors’ regulator, a woman complained she regretted undergoing treatment, which included having a double mastectomy and taking hormones."

    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/9784545/Dr-Richard-Curtis-transsexual-doctor-faces-investigation.html


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  23. "Bullshit. The problem is transgender activists, online "gender therapists", trans friendly doctors who give "T" to anyone, and plastic surgeons push "transitioning". There is no money to be made in not "transitioning". As to WPATH, they push GnRH agonists (puberty suppression) along with "top surgery", "bottom surgery", facial feminization for MTFs, and a host of other cosmetic procedures. By the way, the transgender community knows full well that GnRH agonists followed by cross gender hormones at age 16 can make healthy children infertile. Your precious WPATH advocates for the sterilization of healthy children. WPATH is basically a walking billboard for plastic surgeons and pharmaceutical companies. "

    Um, everyone knows that hormone blockers and cross-sex hormones make you infertile. I don't know why you act like it's some dastardly secret. It's one of the things that you must weigh out before undergoing hormone therapy. Duh. I know that when I begin testosterone therapy (very soon), it will sterilize me. That's just one of things you have to suss out for yourself as to whether you can accept it or not. You are ignoring that it is consensual. Should not people have the choice to do as they please with their own bodies?

    You are also ignoring that not all transsexual people have surgery. Some undergo hormone therapy but have no surgery and some have (a) surgery but no hormones.

    There used to be a more conservative approach that you should do all of the above in order to be a "real" man or woman, but that is changing as more trans people come out, we start to take better control of our health care (i.e. not relying on what cis people such as yourself expect of us) and more dialogue is had.

    "Do I believe that transgender activists actually feel sorry for the mutilated and euthanized Verhelst. No, I do not."

    I don't believe that you actually feel sorry for Verhelst, as you use his example as a political weapon against all transsexual people. If you really cared, you would be promoting greater access to appropriate psychiatric care for troubled people, regardless of gender identity.

    ""The London-based GP is accused of prescribing sex change hormones “to several patients” that were not appropriate and also ignoring restrictions placed on his practice. "

    Yeah, a doctor who isn't following the rules. What exactly is your point?

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  24. What does that have anything to do with what I said? You do realize the suicide rates of lesbians are pretty bad too right?

    "pretty bad too right?"

    This is caused by homophobia. Gay men have high suicide rates too. Perhaps they should all be "transitioned" like they do in Iran. In Iran, the government will pay for sex reassignment surgery yet they execute homosexuals.

    At least lesbians don't go to the grave with a mutilated body, and while they are alive they get to thoroughly enjoy their female bodies. They never have to risk any loss of sexual sensation due to a surgical error or complication because a surgeon was trimming down their areolas and nipples or taking a scalpel to their genitals. Everything works as it should. Female sexuality is glorious in its natural state.

    Being female is an honor not something to be surgically cut away.

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  25. Um, everyone knows that hormone blockers and cross-sex hormones make you infertile.

    We are talking about sterilizing children. This is usually viewed as a human rights abuse.

    If any physician stated that he or she was going to take a perfectly healthy child and intentionally sterilize him or her, I don't think this would go over very well at an ethics board.


    It's amazing what people can do all in the name of "gender identity".

    I won't be the one who has to answer to this.

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  26. Um, everyone knows that hormone blockers and cross-sex hormones make you infertile.

    Sterilizing children is usually seen as a human rights violation. Besides the fertility issue, the long term use of these drugs in children really isn't fully understood.

    The fertility issue is not the only thing to consider with the GnRH agonists. Lupron has been given to healthy 12 and 13 year old "trans" children. Go to Lupron victims hub, or look at the online petition to ban this drug.

    They are called GnRH agonists which have been used to treat advanced prostate cancer in men and endometriosis. They are also used for precocious puberty which is NOT the same thing as a label of transgender. I don't even know if GnRH agonists are even approved by the FDA for what amounts to a questionable psychiatric diagnosis in children.

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  27. Yeah, a doctor who isn't following the rules. What exactly is your point?

    So, they do admit that some doctors are all to eager to push "transitioning" (hormones and surgery), but they don't plan on doing anything about it.

    What exactly is the point?

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  28. Not to mention they just want to make themselves look better. Why do some women wear make-up? Why do some women tone their bodies or add extra curves? Why do some women wear nice clothes? To improve your physical appearance. God forbid someone works on their physical appearance in a way you don't like.

    Elective mastectomies with the surgical trimming down of areolas and nipples (every now and then a nipple falls off) isn't exactly the same thing as putting on make up or wearing nice clothes. Getting a chunk of your arm sewn onto your female pubic area isn't anything like putting on make up.

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  29. There's nothing wrong with wanting to make yourself look better. Go for it, but do your own work if you want honest results. That means go to the gym or work on yourself in other ways, but a quick "beauty operation" and injecting drugs won't fix your problems in the long run. You have to do your own work to feel satisfaction.
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  30. "This is caused by homophobia. Gay men have high suicide rates too. Perhaps they should all be "transitioned" like they do in Iran. In Iran, the government will pay for sex reassignment surgery yet they execute homosexuals.

    At least lesbians don't go to the grave with a mutilated body, and while they are alive they get to thoroughly enjoy their female bodies. They never have to risk any loss of sexual sensation due to a surgical error or complication because a surgeon was trimming down their areolas and nipples or taking a scalpel to their genitals. Everything works as it should. Female sexuality is glorious in its natural state.

    Being female is an honor not something to be surgically cut away."

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    And the suicide rates of transgender people are caused by transphobia. I don't even know why I'm bothering to reply to this, it's like arguing with a kindergartener.

    You are so blindly obsessed with being female that you can't see past your own nose.

    If someone removed your brain from your body as an infant and put it in the body of a man, what would you do? Would you thoroughly enjoy the male experience and being male? Or would you do everything you could to get YOUR body back so you can experience the joys of being a female as your brain was formed to be?

    This is my last reply here. You guys are incredibly dumb and make the entire feminist movement look like a fucking joke. It makes me physically ill. I'm not giving you an audience anymore. You're just gross.

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  31. This is my last reply here. You guys are incredibly dumb and make the entire feminist movement look like a fucking joke. It makes me physically ill. I'm not giving you an audience anymore. You're just gross.

    I consider that a promis, please stick to it since you aren't able to discuss without being rude.

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  32. You'll find that most transmen do plenty of "work" at the gym. Though not quite as much as females who wish they looked more male. Those girls drive themselves into the ground.

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  33. You'll find that most transmen do plenty of "work" at the gym. Though not quite as much as females who wish they looked more male. Those girls drive themselves into the ground.
    What? But that's exactly what 'transmen' are!
    - a (fit) lesbian who's never been to a gym

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  34. so it seems you guys think that all transmen are self hating women who have issues.

    This is why i want to take testosterone you can make of it what you want. I'm curious of what you's would think.

    when i was a child i would constantly pretend i was a boy in my head. every media based role model i wanted to be like was a male athlete or movie star of some kind. and i would re enact them around the house.
    which workd fine because as a child all you really do is play and pretend all day.
    i also used to draw pictures of male faces with pen and play for ages drawing on facial hair with a pencil and erasing and redrawing pretending i was the guy and i had facial hair. i would never let anybody see these drawings or talk about this because i was aware that it wasn't normal for a female.
    i also used to play with boys everyday all through primary school, but that was because i wanted to play soccer instead of mary mack and hopscotch, and non of the other girls would. i also used to play with all my brothers friends outside of school mostly dressing up as pretend army guys and run around pretending to kill things and survive in the wild.
    whenever i was asked to wear my hair down or wear something "dressy" i would refuse and cry for ages until everyone was fed up with me winging and i would cave in and do as i was told like most young people.

    when i started puberty (grade 7)my mum bought me my first crop top/little girl bra. i didn't say anything about it. but i wore a jumper in the middle of australian summer for a month because i was too embarrassed to tell anyone i had to wear one. i couldn't work out why all the other girls were thrilled to be wearing them and i couldn't even be ok with it.
    and the same for young girls who beg there parents if they can shave there legs already. i had never even thought of it, my mum interrupted me half way through a tv show had the bath already running and said hop in ill show you how to shave your legs.
    the same thing happened when i got my cycle (grade8) i was too embarrassed to tell my mum about it. i just used the things that had already been bought for me previously when i was given the "talk"
    a month later i needed more equipment, and chose to finally tell my mum just because i didn't want to go in the shops and buy them myself.

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  35. when i got to about 14-15 i realised that the attraction i had for guys was not related to anything sensual. because i started developing feelings for curtain girls and i started to understand what it felt like to love someone. the feeling i had for these girls completely took over my mind and i wanted to be intimate with them.
    i also like the fact that i felt masculine around them and that i was bigger than them. i felt very protective of them and not at all competitive towards them. however there constant need for my attention even when they had made it clear they didn't want a relationship with me was confusing to me. i started to realise that i was attracted to men like i was a nice car i can appreciate the ascetic beauty and i wanted those things for myself to use, and often felt threatend about my lack of masculinity once the guys started going through there puberty changes. but that wasn't an option, i was a girl and girls just arnt made the same way as a man.

    so after several crushed hearts and being rejected by girls who didn't want to be with a girl but did have feelings for me. i started to get the shits because i couldn't compete with a man. so i decided to "embrace my femininity" and try and be more like a female.
    - i wore my hair down for about a week lol
    - i wore mascara for about 3 months
    -i took a female friend shopping to pick out something to wear because i was and am still hopeless at girl clothes and jewellery . i used to stare at the mens sections and go how easy is that shirt shorts done. instead of all these complicated fancy fabrics . and i was a shocker to take shopping, i generally didn't like any of the clothes so i didn't no how to pick.
    -and i even went out for a birthday in the city and had a dress and heals, admittedly i felt like a transvestite and went home and drank myself to sleep by 1030.
    -and even gave trying to be attracted to men another go
    -i was looking at getting a boob job
    -and even facial feminisation…
    because i was desperate to make myself a girl, i wanted to feel female. and i was out of options on how to do so. and to me this was what females did (I'm much more open minded now days, lay off i was 16 =) )

    so i was looking at all this shit going what about if i get this surgery and that surgery and after all of this i still feel like a boy. I'm still that pretend little boy in my head. what if i can never get rid of him. and that "guy" is obviously not real because i am female right, and females arnt boys right? because the point of this searching is to feel comfortable and happy. and i was young and hormonal and wanted the girls i liked to like me back. so i was doing what i thought they wanted by being more like a girl. but i realised that all this was nonsense and i needed to do what i wanted to do with my life and forget trying to be what others want.

    i was sitting there hating the world, thinking that if i was just born male all the things i am good at i would be even better at and all the things iv been killing myself over won't matter, after all if your a boy you don't have to spend hours a day trying to make yourself like a girl. because its ok to be a boy if your a boy, and its ok to have facial hair and pecs and a penis… so long as your a boy.
    so i typed in i wish i was a boy, a picture of a guy named Balian Buschbaum came up… said something along the lines of him being born female. and i stared in disbelief going clearly thats not right, he doesn't have any boobs at all. and facial hair.. soon after i learnt about the results in todays society about changing gender. i became obsessed , and since that day i have progressively been becoming more like a male ever since, and i feel more like the kid i was trying to change and get rid of. i moved away from my family, i have short hair, i wear a binder, i work out, and i havnt been mistaken for a female in about a year. and the thought of what i would look like as fully grown male(after HRT) is generally exiting.

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  36. iv learnt a lot on my ventures. iv learnt that masculinity and femininity are on a scale. obviously just because you play soccer and armys doesn't mean you should get a sex change, its irreversible and you should think long and hard before you make decisions.
    . but for me it went beyond playing a masculine role, which you can easily do in a females body, its about wanting the built male physique the one i pretended to have as a child, its about being competitive with other men and not wanting them to be stronger than me. and having scruffy stubble, and even though i won't ever have it, to know what it feels like you have my penis inside my girlfriend. instead of pretending.. i want to actually live my life… and these trans men have the closest thing that exists in this world to having it,

    i feel for the trans community who cop shit from anyone, i "pass" very well and wish it was this way for everyone who wanted this. because i completely understand the desire to be the gender that your not..
    and on this site you constantly refer to trans men having there breasts hacked of and a bunch of skin sewed onto there female pubic region.. this is extremely offensive, and the surgeries that go wrong are sad and scary for people like myself.
    but do you expect us not to try just because it might not work. there is a list of cons but the list of pros is so much longer on my part.

    i will never be a man, and i will never have a penis. but i will never stop wanting to have male features.
    and i live as a male now, secretly from my family, so what should i do? wait for my next life ( because i have no tolerance for suicide)
    I'm curious as to what you,s think given your all very anti trans, what is the best option for a PERSON like me? in your opinion.

    i want to live how i am now, but i also want to look like I'm a grown man instead of a 15 year old boy, (makes it hard to run my business as they think i have no experience),and i don't want people to think my mrs is my mum(I'm a "15 year old boy" and she's 28), and i don't want her to get embarrassed about dating a "female who looks nothing like a female" which affects her lesbian identity.(which i completely support, but i thought she was straight given she was married to a man when i me her. nvm lol) i want to go swimming and take my shirt off and not have a chest that looks slightly female. and i want to stop the substance abuse that iv had since i was 14 and have confidents and make friends. I'm juggling so many different lives here that i can't afford to let anyone in without telling them I'm trans which is extremely hard for me.

    so what would you's suggest i do.
    id like for dirt to answer this directly because I'm trying to understand what it is exactly that you gals don't understand about people who take hormones and surgery.
    and i would like to know specifically how dirts life and childhood are similar to mine…. suggesting that were bot butch lesbians..apparently

    enlighten me J

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  37. Seriously, “do your own work” is the best advice I can give, and I mean it in all aspects of life. There’s no way you are men trapped in women’s bodies – you are just unhappy women, probably each with her own reasons why. I noticed these videos all pretty much focus on the face, and we very rarely get a glimpse of true female form these young women have, until they get top surgery and in the “reveal” video we see how wide their hips are and generally out of shape they look. About what you’d expect from depressed young women who spend too much time online comparing themselves to others.
    I've spent a lot of time at the gym, especially in my 20's and 30's, keeping myself as toned as possible and it definately works off stress and builds confidence.
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  38. germany, you didn't really answer my question. iv clearly done lots of work and thinking about my life, and i have embraced all things i possibly can, feminine and masculine.
    that "mans" voice in my head is always there... and now i get to just be a man openly at times, rather than just in my head.

    J

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  39. J - I wasn't answering you, when I wrote that I hadn't seen yours. I will read yours and answer.
    Germany

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  40. J - I wish you good luck.
    I don’t know about other countries, but in Germany we have “transgender workshops” where people go and learn how to basically mimmick the opposite sex (which they think they are) and I attended one out of curiosity about 10 years ago, with an ftm friend. There was a male doctor giving one of the lectures, and he started by saying how he’d been thinking about how he knew he was male. And he said he only knew because somebody told him he was when he was little. I think that’s why so many transition, because someone tells them they are trans. Otherwise they would just go through life as they were supposed too, whether it seems a hard road or not. As you get older, you won’t care so much what society thinks and in general people mellow out, so don’t do anything drastic to yourself.
    For sure it’s no fun being a girl attracted to other girls growing up, and it doesn’t seem fair. I don’t believe you have such a thing as a “man’s voice” or a man’s brain.
    Germany

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  41. J, I wuah you luck too.
    It's your life and you choose what to do with it. If you can only be happy as an FTM, then go for it.
    As long as you're aware of the risks and other options, it's your life.
    I grew up pretty much like you and I'm now 52 and a happy woman. Things do get better in time when you're an adult. I identify as female, but I act mostly "male". I don't give a shit about how others see me and there are many people who love me for that. I managed to keep my inner child alive. :)

    You do what's best for you.
    This blog is important to make people aware of other voices since becoming an FTM is popular and trending. Most FTM's aren't suffering from gender dysphora, but I do believe that a very few do.
    Choose your path, but choose wisely.

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  42. J, I think your story sounds like you were a girl who didn't like the gender roles our society pushes on people. You liked boys games and hanging out with boys. You started to wish you were a boy and that only got worse when you fell in love with other girls and found they wanted a guy.

    The first thing you should do, in my opinion, is get help stopping drugs. Transitioning does not fix your problems. Work on your issues in therapy and wait on making physical changes. Read about detransitioners and people who don't think transition works. Give yourself time.

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  43. J, nobody can tell you who you are. You don't sound delusional and you are very thoughtful and measured about your choices. You won't find many transpeople who feel comfortable trying to define you or encourage you to physically transition. We all know the benefits, risks, joys, and hardships in our own lives.

    Two things I know for sure: you cannot trust the advice of people who are suffering. Anyone who tries to tell you who you are lacks boundaries and does not have your best interests in mind. They will take your decisions personally and they have far too much of themselves invested in what you do. These people are usually are not comfortable with themselves. They do not have what they need, in general.

    The other thing I know for sure is that transition will not solve all the problems of the human condition for a person. You still need to learn and grow in all the ways that humans do. The more you stay with yourself emotionally, the better prepared you are to deal with all of life's other trials. Certain people want you to believe that fighting the urge to transition will make you a strong, proud woman someday. Others may believe that only through transitioning can you become "who" you are. I don't buy either story in their entirety.

    The older I get, the more I believe that transition is a non-issue. There is such drama and alarm about it, and such waste of time and energies fighting about it. Compared to all the things we could be doing with our time, changing our bodies to present the way we want should take up very little space. Do it or don't do it but make sure to give of yourself to the things in life that really matter.

    Good luck! You are doing a very good job.

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  44. "If someone removed your brain from your body as an infant and put it in the body of a man, what would you do? Would you thoroughly enjoy the male experience and being male?"

    WTF does this mean? This is a rather ghoulish thought. "If someone removed your brain from your body as an infant and put it in the body of a man." Who would ever do this in real life? Then again, GnRH agonists (puberty suppression) that can make children infertile is rather ghastly to me.

    Incidentally, the special "trans brains" theories are not sound science for several reasons. (1.) There is no gross anatomical region of the brain called "trans". Get out an anatomy book and look at the brain. (2.) Prior to transitioning, there is no reliable scientific way to distinguish between the brain of a transgender identified person and a person who doesn't identify as transgender. We can't do brain scans of millions of people. (3.) People can and do change their gender identity. There are too many examples to list in this blog. Google "detransitioning". Detransitioning is basically the opposite of transitioning in that people are going back to identifying with the sex they were born into. Does the brain magically change? We are told that people have special trans brains, but apparently these trans brains can miraculously change. (4.) Although we see it all around us, many people refuse to admit that social and cultural factors could be influencing the decision to transition. Every now and then some intrepid person comes around and speaks honestly about cultural/social factors. For example, in an article entitled, "Socialized Trans", this individual states,

    "One way to describe part of my experience is to say that I was socialized “trans”. That is, people assumed I was trans and treated me how they thought a trans person ought to be treated regardless of how I identified myself at the time. This treatment over time began to effect how I saw myself, helped to instill a trans male identity and encouraged me to transition. "

    http://crashchaoscats.wordpress.com/2013/08/09/socialized-trans/

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  45. I just want to point out that just because you only prey on teens/young adults, that by no means proves that less "older" people are transitioning. Maybe that's the case on youtube, where you hunt for young FTMs just like a drooling pedophile with a hard-on for preteen boys, but in reality there are actually MORE people of all ages transitioning. The funny part is that you're so far gone into your youtube obsession to realize that this is a battle you can't win.


    Oh yeah-when referring to female mammary glands, the word to use when referring to both of them is BREASTS. Breast is a singular term, unless you're talking aboyt the white meat on a chicken.

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