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Tuesday, November 19, 2013

The Seed-A Guest Post

When I first saw this web site I didn't understand it and I was not ready to hear its message, especially not delivered this plainly. I first found out about it from a detransitioned friend who was upset by it, as she felt protective of a young transitioner she knew whose youtube was featured here, and who did not like finding it in this context. 

I now understand that Dirt's labor here is one of love, and that she's willing to say the truth as she sees it, despite the fact that it might upset the transitioners whose videos end up here--because she's trying to do everything in her power to address their actual needs.

My internet presence is mostly about making room for and connections with other detransitioned ftms. Dirt's project is a lot more audacious, and consequently much more of her readership and commentariat consists of "hate-followers." But I've spoken to enough detransitioned ftms to know that even when they're "hate-reading" here, a seed is planted.

When I started transitioning in earnest, I cut everyone out of my life who wouldn't go with the program and allow me to define their reality for them--except for one woman. This one friend told me that she did not experience me as male, and that pretending to felt like the living with the kinds of lies she'd grown up with in an abuse context. She spoke her truth to me, and while I spouted back some parroted nonsense and distanced myself in some ways, I could never quite discount what she said. She'd planted a seed. It stayed with me. I pushed it to the back of my mind, but it stayed, and when I was ready, it was there. 

Because she had not auto-piloted her response to me, I trusted this friend more than others who had held my transition in contempt without any real understanding, or else had just gone along to be "polite" or "correct." (And certainly more than those who had fetishized it, for whom I was finally worthy of interest by virtue of having an avant garde enough expression of self-hate.)

As with most other people in my life, this one friend found what I was doing novel and unfamiliar. However, she didn't react with a knee-jerk "ick," but as a fellow gender-noncompliant woman (in her own definite way, even though she is straight) who had her own rightful stake in the conversation about this phenomenon, in addition to showing concern for me as her friend.

When I really began to understand what transition had meant to me--and why, even though I-dentity was supposedly this sacrosanct individual matter, I seemed to recognize so much of my story in so many of the ftms around me--I saw this blog in an entirely different light. I saw that Dirt was trying to be, to the community at large, the same kind of resource that my good friend had been to me.

I'm writing this to show my appreciation and support for Dirt. Take care, Dirt. I hope for a quick and complete recovery for you. Thank you for never giving up on women like me. Thank you for continuing to look us in the eye, and for respecting us enough to name what you see.

-moira from redress alert

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22 comments:

  1. there are more than a few of us that have had seeds planted by your blog, dirt. i keep meeting/coming across detransitioned females that used to hate-read your blog (truthfully, myself included), and eventually came around to see the message of loving oneself that you're actually putting out. keep it up.
    also, moira, you're fantastic. love your blog. love your web presence. i keep myself somewhat removed from online discussion these days because it is so emotionally taxing but i appreciate the things that you do.

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  2. Brilliant and insightful...

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  3. Get well Dirt. You are a true peace activist by helping women make peace with their own bodies.

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  4. I came upon your site quite accidentally. My first reaction was one of shock, then disgust. I find you to be ignorant. You are as extreme and hateful as those you accuse of hating women. Yes, there are people who have no business transitioning who do it for the wrong reasons. You share the hate and reinforce the negative image women have. Being transgender is no about being sexist or self-hating. It is something one is born with and cannot change as much he/she wants to. Nothing I will say can change your views, nor can yours change mine. You are spreading hatred, and ignorance. You should no gender goes deeper than sex. Welcome to the world, it's not as black and white as you think. Grow up and get over it, stop being a hypocrite and worse, a stereotype.

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  5. To that guy:

    Are you aware that your posting this to a guest blog?

    BTW The guest blog is about planting a seed and that just happened. :)
    I can read in your post that this is a first reaction to this blog. I had the same reaction when I first saw this blog. I was disgusted too and shocked. I couldn't understand why Dirt was so against transtrenders, but after a couple of months, I changed my mind.
    Now I see what's going on and how many youngsters choose a path that's not theirs.
    Transexuality is a very rare disorder and people who sffer need help. Most transtrenders we see today aren't suffering from htat disorder, they follow a popular trend.
    We shouldn't care if it was harmless, but we all know how dangerous and irreversable it is. People have the right to get warned.


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  6. Redress Alert, excellent blog..

    I especially liked the article from Clownfish Redux. I think deep down people sense this is happening, and has happened, but are too timid to discuss it. In many ways, FTM transitioning is a response to the trauma that most girls and women experience. It's an escape from the crushing misogyny that is imprinted in the minds of women.

    http://redressalert.tumblr.com/

    This article about Teena Brandon sheds light on this issue.

    "Teena Brandon is remembered today as the female-to-male, transgender victim of a brutal murder motivated by transphobia. When she was eighteen years old, three years before her death, she had been admitted to a crisis center as a result of a drug overdose, which may have been intentional. At the time, she was seriously underweight from an eating disorder and taking seven showers a day, with seven complete changes of clothing. She reported to therapists that, as a child, she had been a victim of years of sexual abuse perpetrated by a male member of her family. According to her biographer, she was diagnosed with "mild gender identity dysphoria," reporting to her friends that a sex-change operation had been suggested. I want to talk about an inconvenient truth. I want to talk about the fact the person who was named Teena Brandon was a survivor of incest. You won't hear this mentioned in Boys Don't Cry, and you won't hear it mentioned in the documentary "The Brandon Teena Story." You won't read about it in the current Wikipedia entry. It is, like I said, inconvenient."

    Carol Gage

    http://www.triviavoices.com/the-inconvenient-truth-about-teena-brandon.html

    @November 21, 2013 at 9:16 PM

    Start listening and reading...

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  7. @Big

    History is littered with examples of medical fads and trends that seemed right at the time, but turned into ghoulish experiments people would rather forget. Will the drugging and sterilization of children through GnRH agonists and cross gender hormones go the way of lobotomies?

    @that guy

    "Yes, there are people who have no business transitioning who do it for the wrong reasons."

    If people, especially young people, are transitioning for the wrong reasons, and some people have no business transitioning, what are you going to do about it?

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  8. @ Carol Gage,
    Interesting what you tell about Teena Brendon, that gives the story a new perspective. I never knew that, but it doesn't surprise me.
    Thanks for sharing.

    @ anon 1:11,
    Somehwere in the future ppl will talk about the giant medical mistake made in the early years of 2000. Ppl will shake their hesads and wonder how the hell that could have happened.
    Maybe shrinks and doctors try too hard to be openminded and modern, some day it all will change, no doubt about it. The shame will come over them. It's all too sad for words.


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  9. No seed planted here. I can't wait to transition and for the world to make sense. How others perceive you is just as important as how you view yourself. And if misogyny didn't exist (and if men were considered the "second sex") I would STILL transition to male.

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  10. why would you think that 'transitioning' would suddenly make the world make sense! you're bound to be disappointed. did you tell your therapist that this is what you expect??

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  11. ' How others perceive you is just as important as how you view yourself. '
    It seem like you don't want to be 'perceived' as a woman. What does it mean exactly to be perceived and thereby treated as a woman? Somehow I don't think that it means respected or treated as an equal by males. How do you know how differently you would feel in the imaginary misogyny-free world you propose?

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  12. dirt please make a post for this ---https://archive.org/details/AH-out_here_in_the_redwoods_season_2_ep2

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  13. after reading over some of your posts, all i can say is that you are the most ignorant person i have ever known of.

    ~sincerely, a happy and transitioning FtM, or as i like to call it, Female to ME

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  14. @November 26, 2013 at 3:35 PM

    No amount of surgery or hormones can turn you into something you are not.

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  15. @November 26, 2013 at 2:18 AM

    I watched that video before, and I thought it was amazing. It takes a tremendous amount of courage to speak the truth as you see it.

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  16. @that guy

    "Yes, there are people who have no business transitioning who do it for the wrong reasons."

    November 21, 2013 at 9:16 PM

    If people, especially young people, are transitioning for the wrong reasons, and some people have no business transitioning, what are you going to do about it?

    November 22, 2013 at 1:11 AM

    STILL NO ANSWER FROM "THAT GUY"

    SOME PEOPLE HAVE NO BUSINESS "TRANSITIONING" (THE BELGIAN WOMAN WHO WAS EUTHANIZED AFTER BOTCHED SEX REASSIGNMENT SURGERY IS ONE EXAMPLE), BUT "TRANSITIONING" STILL GOES ON...

    "Yes, there are people who have no business transitioning who do it for the wrong reasons."

    Still, transgender activists plant the idea of "T" and "top surgery" in the minds of 14 and 15 year old girls.


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  17. Young trans kids *seek* the fucking information. We are not all professional victims like you.

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  18. "No amount of surgery or hormones can turn you into something you are not. "

    Doesn't matter, he's still perceived as male by society and that's all that matters to us.

    "But.. kroma-zones!"

    You can't see them! And they only make up 2/46 or 4% of our DNA. So what? Go make me a sandwich.

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  19. Clearly it does matter anon, or you wouldnt be here and the trans community wouldnt be legally changing their sex and demanding others address them as their disordered "gender".

    dirt

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  20. ***Please answer the question.***

    PEOPLE ADMIT THAT SOME PEOPLE HAVE NO BUSINESS TRANSITIONING (SURGERY AND HORMONES). THE PERSON IN BELGIUM WHO WAS EUTHANIZED AFTER BOTCHED SEX REASSIGNMENT SURGERY IS A PERFECT EXAMPLE. YOU HAVE TO BE REALLY DEPRESSED TO ASK A DOCTOR TO EUTHANIZE YOU. SRS LEFT THIS PERSON MORE DEPRESSED.

    "Yes, there are people who have no business transitioning who do it for the wrong reasons."

    If it's true that some people have no business "transitioning" (surgery and hormones), why are transgender activists, plastic surgeons, "gender therapists", doctors who write prescriptions for hormones, etc. still promoting "transitioning"?

    IF A MUTILATED AND EUTHANIZED FEMALE BODY DOESN'T WAKE PEOPLE UP, I DON'T KNOW WHAT WILL.

    DOES REGRETTING GETTING YOUR BREASTS LOPPED FALL UNDER THE GENERAL CATEGORY OF "THERE ARE WHO PEOPLE HAVE NO BUSINESS TRANSITIONING". HOW ABOUT GIVING HORMONES TO KIDS UNDER THE AGE OF 18.?

    "Dr Richard Curtis, who was born Vanda Zadorozny, but had a sex change in 2005, is being investigated by the General Medical Council, after at least three separate complaints

    The London-based GP is accused of prescribing sex change hormones “to several patients” that were not appropriate and also ignoring restrictions placed on his practice.

    In one case reportedly under investigation by the GMC, the doctors’ regulator, a woman complained she regretted undergoing treatment, which included having a double mastectomy and taking hormones.

    In another case, it was alleged Dr Curtis, 46, prescribed sex change drugs to patients under 18, without the specialist knowledge or skills to do so.


    http://www.telegraph.co.uk/health/healthnews/9784545/Dr-Richard-Curtis-transsexual-doctor-faces-investigation.html

    Young trans kids *seek* the fucking information.

    Do they really, or is it more likely that "transitioning" is being pushed on these vulnerable, immature, and often confused kids.

    "The allegations include commencing hormone treatment in complex cases without referring the patient for a second opinion or before they had undergone counselling, administering hormone treatment at patients' first appointments...He is also accused of administering hormones to patients aged under 18 without an adequate assessment, and wrongly stating that a patient seeking gender reassignment had changed their name... and referring patients for surgery before they had lived in their desired gender role for a year, as international guidelines recommend. "

    http://www.theguardian.com/society/2013/jan/06/transexualism-gender-reassignment-richard-curtis







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  21. Doesn't matter, he's still perceived as male by society and that's all that matters to us.

    Perceived is NOT always the same thing as reality. Isn't "perceived" just an admission that it's not true? Besides, I wouldn't be so sure about the phrase "perceived as male by society". Deep down most people know that it is impossible for a human being born female to become fully male. We just go along with the elaborate fantasy for fear of being branded politically incorrect.

    WTF? CHROMOSOMES MAKE UP ONLY 4% OF OUR DNA? THIS PERSON WOULD FLUNK HIGH SCHOOL BIOLOGY.

    You can't see them! And they only make up 2/46 or 4% of our DNA.

    QUESTION: WHERE DO 22 PAIRS OF AUTOSOMES COME FROM? WHERE DOES THE ONE PAIR OF SEX CHROMOSOMES COME FROM?

    THEY COME FROM THE MOTHER AND FATHER. SO, MALE AND FEMALE DOES MATTER.

    Does this person really believe that chromosomes in humans make up only 4% of our DNA? What is this person referring to? Is this individual talking about sex chromosomes? There are 23 pairs of chromosomes in humans. One pair of chromosomes is the sex chromosomes. Is this where the reference to 2/46 or 4% comes from?

    Sex does matter because: (1.) ALL PRIMATES REPRODUCE SEXUALLY. ONE COPY OF EACH CHROMOSOME IS INHERITED FROM THE FEMALE PARENT AND THE OTHER FROM THE MALE PARENT. (2.) MITOCHONDRIAL DNA IS INHERITED SOLELY FROM THE MOTHER

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  22. @ Anon at Nov. 25th, 10:49 - Seriously, transition isn't going to fix everything. It usually reduces gender dysphoria, but it does not fix any other problems. It's really important to not have expectations that are too high - high expectations are one way to end up regretting transition. It's good to work on any other issues before you transition.

    @Anon on Dec. 2, 12:54 a.m. - I think it's important for anyone who is transitioning to be ready for the possibility that society won't perceive you as the gender you want to be. I'm not talking about radical people, I'm thinking of ordinary people outside of academia.

    In any case, biologically, transmen and transwomen are different from other men and women in terms of their hormones and their physical characteristics. We don't have the capability to really change someone's non-DNA sex.

    It's a shame you think telling women to make you a sandwich will make you a man. Not the kind of man I would want to be around.

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