Euthanasia: The Ultimate in Trans Regret

I recently wrote about Belgium using its legal Euthanasia program to senselessly kill a trans female in regret. The post was written anticipating/fearing future trans regret deaths via state murder, but I had no idea another trans regretter would join Nancy Verhelst so soon. Apparently Nacny's close friend known as "Dora" age 53, a trans male who transitioned 32 years ago has (I'm told) already signed legal papers to be put to death by Belgium's Euthanasia program. The reason given for "Dora's" wanting to die is he is tired of being rejected. Life is full of rejection, and while some are more difficult than others to deal with, they are certainly NOT something a living human being should be put to death over!

Where is the medical community's responsibility, medical ethics and above all motto to "first do no harm" when transgendered men and women regretting their transition/how their transition didnt meet their expectations, are being put to death??? While studies on the suicide deaths of post trans women and men are few, they do indicate that trans deaths from suicide are higher among post transition peoples. There arent however even minute studies of post transitioners whom have attempted suicide, which is likely to be higher than those who actually were successful in their suicide attempt.

Belgium's including trans regret as a valid reason to be executed under the Euthanasia program is opening up a trans flood gate similar to Thailand's once profitable sex change industry before transition became so accessible/profitable everywhere else. I predict Belgium will become the new trans destination hot spot by regretful trans people all over the world seeking death as their next answer, just as they had once sought transition as the answer before that.



  1. When Euthanasia was brought to light back in the late 60,70 and into the 80s, the purpose was to ease the suffering of TERMANALLY ill patients. Those that were beyond the help of modern medicine, those where the treatments had failed and they were suffering physically, and their pain was in the limitless range. That I know of, there were none who simply suffered from “regret” or “rejection.” Those would have been patients that would have been suggested to go into an intense psychological program where they could get the appropriate help they needed. Death was not an option, at this point in time, for mental illness and emotional distress no matter how severe.

    While I do agree with assisted suicide, or as they are calling it Euthanasia, I only agree with it when it is a means to end physical suffering where modern medicine has reached its limits. I do not agree with it based on rejection or regret because these are emotions that with intense therapy, one can learn to deal with them, and LIVE with them.

    As you said, life is full of rejections, as it is full of regrets. Mercy killing isn't a new concept and has its supporters, but this Belgium allowing it based on rejection is insane, and reckless. It is not that these people need Euthanasia, it is that they need intense, long psychiatric help to deal with the consequences of their decisions.

    We all have to deal with consequences of actions we have made, but Euthanasia isn't one of the ways it should be dealt with. We as a people fight all the time to keep others who want to commit suicide over these emotions alive, and yet Belgium is saying they are a valid reason to die. This act should be reserved for those who are medically beyond any other help, in so much physical pain that this would be the only way to end their suffering. This is just a travesty.

  2. Another sad story.
    I agree with the poster above me, euthanasia shouldn't be available in these cases. It's so dramatic, like the choice to transition.
    Transition is dangerous because there's no way back and the expetations are not always real.


  3. Horrible beyond words. This kind of euthanasia has to stop.

    Dirt, the Swedish study found that people who had transitioned had a higher suicide rate than people their age in the general public. They did not compare people with GID who had or had not transitioned.

  4. @Big

    Didn't you say you read Dutch? Isn't the link to a Dutch news article?

    Would you be kind enough to interpret parts of the article?

    Another sad story.

    I agree with the poster above me, euthanasia shouldn't be available in these cases. It's so dramatic, like the choice to transition.
    Transition is dangerous because there's no way back and the expectations are not always real.

    I agree, especially the part about "transitioning" (surgery, etc.) not being something that is easily undone. Also, people who are already emotionally depressed and vulnerable are pushed into "transitioning".

  5. @October 15, 2013 at 10:27 AM

    This is an extremely depressing tragedy no matter how we look at it. I also agree that euthanasia should be reserved for the terminally ill. According to everything I've read, this individual had no serious medical condition. I can see euthanasia for a ninety year old person hooked up to life support, or a cancer patient with six months to live.

    As to sex reassignment surgery, Nathan/Nancy was disappointed in the outcome, and stated that it looked like the grafts were being rejected. Was she, rather, he afraid of more surgery? No one knows what went on in this individual's mind. It should be clear to anyone that SRS failed miserably to heal this poor, unfortunate soul.

    No amount of surgery can magically heal an emotionally wounded person. It's not a magical panacea.

  6. Dirt, the Swedish study found that people who had transitioned had a higher suicide rate than people their age in the general public. They did not compare people with GID who had or had not transitioned.

    It's true that they used random population controls. This was a long term study that looked at mortality and morbidity. People who underwent SRS had higher mortality and morbidity rates compared to people in the general public.

    I'm confused as to the statement, "They did not compare people with GID who had or had not transitioned."

    First of all, I don't believe it's called GID (gender identity disorder) anymore. I could be wrong, but I believe the term that most people use is gender dysphoria. Perhaps some people still use GID. At any rate, I've always argued that it's impossible to completely distinguish between cultural factors and "gender dysphoria" or GID. How do we go about doing this when gender is so tied into cultural norms and standards of how society views "masculinity" and "femininity"? Girls who don't buy into the Barbie doll image that society forces on girls and women must really be trans. They can't be girls. Twenty years ago, these fifteen and sixteen year old girls would just be called tomboys. Now, they are slapped with a label of "transgender" and told that they need to "transition". How much is actual "gender dysphoria" in a ten year old child and how much can be attributed to everything that parents read online at thousands of transgender websites? There are a multitude of subtle parental and cultural messages at play. It's becoming so Orwellian that it frightens me. When five and six year old children are "diagnosed" with GID, no one is allowed to look at the family dynamics or even acknowledge cultural influences such as everything these parents see and read online.

    "Transitioning" is a socially prescribed cure for those who don't fit neatly into sex based stereotypes. This reality is becoming all too clear. All we have to do is look around us.

  7. And yet, none of this would be happening if we, as society, could change the way we look at gender and gender stereotyping. I once read somewhere on another blog a great quote that I wish I could remember verbatim. It went something like this, “we need to realize that there is really no set norm as to body shape and appearance, except those created by the media.”

    Case in point...In another post on here, one commenter said men do not have breasts, and that was a point as to why they wanted to have their breasts removed and live as a male. In reality, men do have breasts and can have female body shapes. Not all men look like a Calvin Klein model, not all women look like a Victoria's Secret angel. Just the reality of it.

    People, men or women come in a variety of packaging. Some men have breasts and curves, just as some women are thin with no curves and tiny to no breasts. We are not all like the media perfect norm, and never will be no matter how much we take off, or put on. When anyone resorts to plastic surgery to fit within society's norm, it places us all firmly within the grasp of the media/medical machine.

    When someone who wants to transition, places these perfect body images into their head, and expects them to become reality, they are setting themselves up for disaster; both physically and mentally. You WILL NOT look like that Calvin Klein model, and you will NOT have functioning body parts. You can set yourself up for painful subsequent surgeries, further body hate, and you are setting yourself up for failure/depression when things do not turn out as you have set in your mind.

  8. @anonymous - I used the term GID because the Swedish study did. Because they have national health insurance, they have records of all Swedish people diagnosed with GID and all who transitioned. They mentioned excluding all who did not physically transition.

    I mentioned that the study compared them to the general public because I thought Dirt's article was suggesting that the suicide rate was higher for transgender people who had transitioned than transgender people who had not. We don't know how the two groups compared in this study. It might not be a meaningful comparison anyway because people who did not transition could have been less unhappy with their birth gender or might have been screened out by doctors because they had anorexia or something.

  9. @Big

    This was the link I was talking about.

  10. @October 16, 2013 at 9:50 AM

    Excellent post....

  11. I read that article in Dutch, it's old news and Dirt wrote a blog about that story.

    It says that Nancy's mother loved her brothers but didn't want a girl. Nancy start acting boyish as a teen and that felt better. She dreamt of a sex change and when she finally got that in 2009, she was very disappointed.

    Before the euthanasia she gave an interview to a news paper.
    Nancy was very unhappy after transition and had a deadwish.
    A professor helped her ending her life.


  12. I stumbled upon this after googling "trans regret." Thanks for sharing.


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