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Saturday, September 28, 2013

26 "Male" Survivors Of Sexual Assault Part 1

This article highlights two VERY important issues. I will tackle each in separate (but equal) posts. In this post I will deal with sexual abuse and trans females.

Having recently written about how the impact of sexual abuse may or may not affect females desiring to transition, articles like these give definitive credence to the former, until accurate statistics emerge. Clearly many of these 26 "males" are in fact FEmales. And going by their own words, their sexual abuse occurred pre-transition.

There are many general commonalities between female sexual abuse symptoms/language and female
transition symptom/language:

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)-severe feelings of anxiety, stress, or fear.

Substance Abuse-using drugs and alcohol to self medicate.

Self-harm/Self-injury-cutting, burning, biting, hitting the body, pulling out hair, scratching. Transition itself is a form of self harm.

Eating disorders-Anorexia Nervosa, Binge Eating, Bulimia Nervosa.

Body Memories-stress of the memories of the abuse experienced by an individual take the form of physical problems or psychosomatic symptoms. With regard to the general trans female experience (non sexually abused trans females) this would occur post transition.

Depression-
  • Prolonged sadness or unexplained crying spells
  • Change in appetite with significant weight loss (without dieting) or weight gain
  • Loss of energy or persistent fatigue or lethargy
  • Significant change in sleep patterns (insomnia, sleeping too much, fitful sleep, etc.)
  • Loss of interest and pleasure in activities previously enjoyed, social withdrawal.
  • Feelings of worthlessness, hopelessness, or inappropriate guilt
  • Pessimism or indifference
  • Unexplained aches and pains (headaches, stomachaches)
  • Inability to concentrate, indecisiveness
  • Irritability, worry, anger, agitation, or anxiety
  • Recurring thoughts of death or suicide
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)-“is a serious mental illness characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior. This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and the individual's sense of self-identity.” This disorder has been brought to my attention many times from readers, as many of its symptoms aline with many transgender symptoms.

Suicide-Regular thoughts of killing one's self that go above and beyond the occasional really bad day.

Stockholm Syndrome-emotional bonding with an abuser.
  • Victim having positive feelings toward the abuser
  • Victim having negative feelings toward family, friends, or authorities
  • Abuser having positive feelings toward the victim
  • Victim supporting or helping the abuser
This also applies to every single female who has transitioned or considered transitioning. But the abuser exists on a much deeper and greater scale, i.e. patriarchy or more specifically internalizing patriarchal systems/misogyny to the point of identifying with them on extreme levels.

Obviously transition isnt going to cure any of the issues created from sexual trauma. It may however temporarily relieve them with feelings of dissociating from the body that they feel hurt them, as many/all trans females will transfer their hatred for the perpetrator toward their female body (if they werent weak females they wouldnt have been abused). Relieve feelings of weakness (mental and physical) as their bodies begin adding muscle from hormones. Relieve female rape/abuse fears as they begin to pass as the opposite sex. All these changes can be quite exhilarating, freeing and allow trans female sexual abuse victims to experience life in ways the abuse stopped them from experiencing through fear and feelings of female inferiority/vulnerability.

But like self medicating sexual abuse through drugs or alcohol, the relief derived from a drug high, an alcoholic high or a trans high, reality in between highs intrudes like a bright sun. But unlike drug or alcohol highs that can be achieved hourly/daily, transitional highs via transitional changes stop at a certain point. After a few years the horse eventually surpasses the carrot. Without that xmas morning feeling around each significant change, all problems from the sexual abuse return, along with many other mental distresses from the transition itself.

Transition does NOT cure sexual abuse traumas and should in no way shape or form be used as a treatment for sexual abuse.

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  1. I would like to make a few comments about the link attached to the article.

    Some comments in the blog section..

    "These poor men. Men can be victims just as much as women can..."

    http://www.buzzfeed.com/spenceralthouse/male-survivors-of-sexual-assault-quoting-the-people-who-a

    I disagree with the statement that "men can be victims just as much as women can". For the sake of argument, let's say it's true. Who are the perpetrators?

    Sex offenders are overwhelmingly white males. Nearly 99% of sex offenders in single-victim incidents were male and 6 in 10 were white (Greenfeld, 1997).

    http://sapac.umich.edu/article/196

    Depending on what statistics you look at, approximately 95 to 99% of convicted rapists and pedophiles are male. Not all males are predators, but statistics going back decades clearly show that most rapists are men. Males sexual assault and molest other males, particularly in places like men's prisons. This is nothing new. Whether the victim is female or male, it's still tragic.

    "Buzzfeed, would you please re post this without the gender binary touting sub heading? There are NO TWO GENDERS. You have trans* survivors right here in this collection of pictures. Using phrases like "both genders" is exclusionary and just not okay anymore. This is a beautiful and brave post and has the potential to be busting myths on various fronts. "

    http://www.buzzfeed.com/spenceralthouse/male-survivors-of-sexual-assault-quoting-the-people-who-a

    Here we go with the "gender binary". Some people are really into that term as if it holds some kind of special secret aura about it. Binary sounds cool, like in queer folk double speak. It's meant to impress, but doesn't match reality. I knew someone would eventually get around to the "gender binary"/queer theorist narrative not that I have anything against most queer identified people.

    When it comes to sexual assault and rape, what the reality reveals is not so much a 'binary' as a heirachy. Rape is all connected to the "binary", as in "gender binary". Binary can mean the binary system of math (0 and 1) or off and on. Binary refers to any system that uses two alternative states, components, conditions or conclusions. Characteristics, social customs, culture play no role because inherit in the binary system is the assumption that each is neutral, carrying no specific attributes. In binary math, 0 and 1 are simply 1s and 0s. We don't attach meaning, signifcance, values, stereotypes, culture, etc. to the binary.

    Hierachy is a system or organization in which people or groups are ranked one above the other according to status or authority. Even though rape statistics clearly show that he vast majority of rapists are male, trans/gender queer leaning people evoke the "gender binary". No, it's not a binary. It's more like a heirachy, and we know who is at the top of the heirachy, and we know who the victims are.

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  2. One blogger states,

    "Only two genders are socially recognised and there isn't an official third or other gender. Also male is biological sex, not gender, so really you should be requesting them to change it to men because transgender people can call themselves men or women, they are just not biologically the sex that usually accompanies that gender"

    http://www.buzzfeed.com/spenceralthouse/male-survivors-of-sexual-assault-quoting-the-people-who-a

    The response from another blogger,

    "Though at the same time, please remember that TRANS MEN ARE MEN. It's not misleading to include them under the heading of "male survivors" if that is how they identify. Calling them out as an example of non-binary gender isn't accurate."

    http://www.buzzfeed.com/spenceralthouse/male-survivors-of-sexual-assault-quoting-the-people-who-a

    I'm confused as to the statement, "Calling them out as an example of non-binary gender isn't accurate." Biologcial females are NOT male, and because FTMs are born female, their odds of being raped or sexually assaulted is about the same as other females. Statements like, "Calling them out as an example of non-binary gender isn't accurate." flies in the face of common sense, history, thousands of years of culturally sanctioned misogyny, and actual rape statistics which show that the vast majority of rapists are male. There definitely are a multitude of cultural factors at play. Not only is it misleading to include them under the heading of "male survivors", but it strikes me as an insult to the female sex as a whole. Although they might identify as men, they often grow up as girls, and live as women at least for part of their lives. Are we to believe that being born female, and living as a girl means they are never experience some degree of sexism and misogyny like all females. FTMs do NOT magically escape the violence and misogyny that all females experience.

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  3. Are we to believe that being born female, and living as a girl means they never experience some degree of sexism and misogyny like all females. FTMs do NOT magically escape the violence and misogyny that all females experience.

    sorry for the typos

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  4. To all the above comments .. Oh well such is life.

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  5. "Clearly many of these 26"males" are in fact FEmales. And going by their own words, their sexual abuse occurred pre-transition."

    This is just one of the many inconvenient truths that the trans narrative refuses to acknowledge. It's a perfect example of what people mean when they say ignoring the elephant in the living room. The old English metaphorical idiom for an obvious truth that is either being ignored or going unaddressed. It might be obvious to any rational person, but we are supposed to ignore it as if it never existed.

    It's not uncommon at all for girls and women to be molested, sexually harassed, or raped. I think the statistics are one in six. FTMs are still born female, and how is it possible for them to completely escape misogyny altogether, or the various forms of violence that are directed primarily towards females. They surely must notice it because nearly all females notice or sense it. After all, we see violence directed towards women in the media, on the streets, in our own families, down the block, and almost everywhere we turn. FTMs surely must internalize some of this because what female doesn't.

    If we listen to the last part of this brilliant video, the speaker talks about a girl who was horrifically sexually abused who now identifies as "he".

    "If I wasn't a girl"...at end of video

    http://deepgreenresistancenewyork.wordpress.com/2013/07/16/the-end-of-gender-revolution-not-reform/

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  6. In an article about Teena Brandon, the author talks about the inconvenient truth that no one is allowed to discuss.

    "She (Brandon) reported to therapists that, as a child, she had been a victim of years of sexual abuse perpetrated by a male member of her family. According to her biographer, she was diagnosed with "mild gender identity dysphoria," reporting to her friends that a sex-change operation had been suggested. I want to talk about an inconvenient truth. I want to talk about the fact the person who was named Teena Brandon was a survivor of incest. You won't hear this mentioned in Boys Don't Cry, and you won't hear it mentioned in the documentary "The Brandon Teena Story." You won't read about it in the current Wikipedia entry. It is, like I said, inconvenient.

    "Inconvenient" means "causing trouble or difficulties." The inconvenient truth of Brandon's incest history causes trouble because incorporating information about child sexual abuse into the narrative of Brandon's life pathologizes the transgendered identity adopted by Brandon and for which she has become an icon. "

    "Mental health clinician Deb Brodtke took over Brandon's case at the crisis center and continued to treat her for almost a year on an outpatient basis. Brandon is reported telling Brodtke she wanted to be a male, "to not have to deal with the negative connotations of being a lesbian and because she felt less intimidated by men when she presented herself as male." (Jones, 83) If this is true, what Brandon told her therapist was not that she felt like a man trapped in a woman's body, but a woman trapped in a world where it was dangerous to be female, and especially dangerous to be lesbian.

    As an adult, Brandon exhibited behaviors consistent with a diagnosis of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, a syndrome associated with incest survivors. Gender dysphoria has been clinically identified as a response to child sexual abuse and incest, and it is logical to question whether or not it was therapeutic in the case of Teena Brandon to diagnose transsexualism and recommend surgical reassignment in lieu of focusing on diagnosis and treatment of Complex PTSD. If healing from child sexual abuse and incest requires retrieval and assimilation of dissociated material, a strong case can be made that Brandon's transsexualism diagnosis served to enhance her dissociation, impeding recovery from the incest and enabling an escalation of high-risk behaviors based on a dissociated identity.



    http://www.triviavoices.com/the-inconvenient-truth-about-teena-brandon.html

    I don't think they consciously do it, but transitioning can be a way of escaping the fear and trauma of being a woman in a misogynistic violent society. It's not so much identifying as male as escaping being female, and all that it entails.

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  7. I was playing GTA V today and the radio station in the car I stole was playing this song called "Dirty White Boy". That made me LOL

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  8. @ 9:08 I still haven't transitioned and I'm not afraid of men. I once broke a man's knee for trying to steal my bike from me when I was traveling from one part-time job to the other at 1 am. And that didn't stop me from biking at night, I found that thrilling and an ego-boost. This whole website (and modern feminism in general) makes women seem a lot weaker and biologically inferior than they actually are. You are doing the job of the so-called "patriarchy" by supporting "victim mentality" and fatalism and other forms of weak thinking that just makes women bitter man-haters. If you want to be taken seriously as a woman than STFU and stop advertising your limits (something a MAN would never do.. that's why they succeed more than women) and TAKE WHAT IS YOURS. You can be who you want to be without boring people by talking about gender and shit. And stop trying to tell transpeople who they are and how to live their lives because you clearly don't have the power. Don't project your self-defeatism on those of us who have actual lives to live and don't have the time to fight you because you're not worth it. I would rather have an enemy that is strong instead of a bunch of corny butch lesbians who think this webpage actually makes a difference.

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  9. I'm so glad most "genetic women" aren't like you bitter, hateful feminists. Because then I would have no choice but to exclusively date transwomen (because they only make up 1% of the population). Thank Gawd!

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  10. @ 9:08 Fuck you for dishonoring the memory of Brandon Teena. I hope Karma allows someone to piss on your grave when you die.

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  11. Fuck you for dishonoring the memory of Brandon Teena.
    I hope Karma allows someone to piss on your grave when you die.


    Providing information taken from several sources that say Brandon was an incest survivor is not dishonoring her memory. Why is this such a sensitive subject? No one is saying that she was a bad person. Some question whether or not it was therapeutic in the case of Teena Brandon to diagnose transsexualism and recommend surgical reassignment in lieu of focusing on diagnosis and treatment of Complex PTSD. Since when does the treatment for Complex PTSD which, by the way, many females have, consist of the surgical removal of healthy female anatomy?

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  12. Breaking knees...thrilling and ego boosting...

    "I once broke a man's knee for trying to steal my bike from me when I was traveling from one part-time job to the other at 1 am. And that didn't stop me from biking at night, I found that thrilling and an ego-boost."

    This individual is proud of breaking a man's knee for trying to steal his or her bike. Bikes are more important than human knees.

    Get a good bike lock, use pepper spray, let your large dog run along, use self defense if attacked..

    No, just break the knees....ego boosting

    These people are truly scary...

    I have a feeling that this person is a male


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  13. If you want to be taken seriously as a woman than STFU and stop advertising your limits (something a MAN would never do.. that's why they succeed more than women) and TAKE WHAT IS YOURS.

    This sentence about sums it up. The secret is to TAKE WHAT IS YOURS. Are people supposed to do this before or after they break the guy's knees?

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  14. @ 9:08

    This whole website (and modern feminism in general) makes women seem a lot weaker and biologically inferior than they actually are. You are doing the job of the so-called "patriarchy" by supporting "victim mentality" and fatalism and other forms of weak thinking that just makes women bitter man-haters.

    The mutilation of healthy female anatomy is nothing new, and has at least a thousand plus year history. This definitely is supporting patriarchy.

    Since this person brought up the subject of "doing the job of patriarchy", erasing female identity certainly appears to be "doing the job of patriarchy".

    I've always said that females are brave, strong, intelligent, and capable of doing anything. FTM "transitioning" isn't about empowering women. It's about mutilating healthy female bodies, and erasing female identity. FTM stands for female to male. Please explain to me how FTM "transitioning" empowers the female sex?



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  15. @ 11:53 I'm ftm and I was defending myself against a man who was trying to knock me off my bike at 1am. I was never the victim of any crime because I don't possess a victim mentality. Instead of freezing up like most women who were raised to be mentally weak (from the mainstream media to feminist literature that has a masochistic obsession with rape) I resisted all of it and in the right situations possess the male aggression levels to protect myself -THANK GAWD!

    What did you do when you were raped? Make him a sandwich? ;)

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  16. Also, I'm not sure if I broke his knee but I did kick pretty damn hard and he fell.

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  17. @ 12:15 AM I never said FTM transition "empowers the female sex". How the Hell did you deduce that? I said "victim mentality" is what weakens the female sex and modern feminism is FULL of it with it's constant complaining, whining and victim-worship.

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  18. FTM transition has nothing to do with women so it doesn't empower or disempower them. It's about correcting a transsexual condition.

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  19. Those darn, bitter hateful feminists. If they would just leave women alone, we would all be better off. Women wouldn't have the vote without those nasty, bitter women.

    I'm so glad most "genetic women" aren't like you bitter, hateful feminists.

    Bitter, hateful feminists aren't the ones giving GnRH agonists (puberty suppressing drugs) to 12 year old kids. Trans activists push puberty suppressing drugs on children. Bitter, hateful feminists aren't the ones giving breast binders to teenage girls when they know darn well that breast binding can misalign the ribs and cause other health problems. Trans activists do this. Bitter, hateful feminists aren't the ones promoting "top surgery" (elective mastectomies with the surgical whittling down of areolas and nipples). Plastic surgeons and trans activists are the people pushing this on young women. Bitter, hateful feminists aren't the ones who promote the use of "T" (testosterone) for 16 and 17 year old girls.

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  20. Really amazing that, if a reader of that type of article isn't aware of the bait and switch tactic of lumping in ftms with men, the reader will believe the mens rights activist propaganda that there is an epidemic of women abusing men.

    So this type of article is the most blatantly dishonest, Stalinist propaganda. They have their talking points, and they brainwash the unsuspecting public with their lies. You have to read certain blogs llike this one to know how to read some articles.

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  21. I'm glad this person escaped harm, and kudos for fighting back.

    What did you do when you were raped? Make him a sandwich? ;)

    I was once attacked by a drunken man who tried to pull me into a bathroom. I fought like holy hell and screamed loud enough to wake the dead. He eventually stopped, and I escaped. Thankfully, I wasn't raped. I was shaking and frightened, but I fought back.

    Now, I carry pepper spray, and few people want to tangle with a full grown Rottweiller.

    I've always supported self defense for women. Dogs are good protection.

    September 28, 2013 at 10:38 PM

    "I once broke a man's knee for trying to steal my bike from me when I was traveling from one part-time job to the other at 1 am... I found that thrilling and an ego-boost."

    Note how this person says "trying to steal my bike", and found it "thrilling and an ego-boost"

    September 29, 2013 at 12:16 AM


    "I'm ftm and I was defending myself against a man who was trying to knock me off my bike at 1am"

    I didn't know that bike thieves usually knock people off their bike just to steal a bike. Surely there has to be an easier way to steal a bike. So, bike thieves go flying through the air, knocking people off their bikes. Damn! That is a bad neighborhood this person lives in. Thieves usually just break the bike lock.

    At any rate, I'm glad this individual wasn't injured. I mean this with all sincerity. I'm not sure about the incident with the bike though.

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  22. @ 1:09 Thanks, and kudos for fighting off a rapist.

    Dirt's page brings out the worst in me, probably because this blog is Evil in some ways.

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  23. FTM transition has nothing to do with women so it doesn't empower or disempower them. It's about correcting a transsexual condition.

    Biological females who "transition" (elective mastectomies with surgical trimming down of nipples, and routine injections of synthetic testosterone) has nothing to do with women.

    Humans born of the female sex are still part of the female sex by virtue of birth. Besides, some FTMs even get pregnant and have babies just like other women. Thomas Beatie, the pregnant FTM had three babies. What happens to females matter, and saying that FTM transitioning has nothing to do with women is being disingenuous.

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  24. Thomas Beattie isn't a transsexual man. He's transgender or TG. There's a difference between transsexuals and cross-dressing gender-confused/ genderqueer or autogynephile TGs who have been plaguing the transsexual community. They do not represent us despite all of their media attention.

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  25. I should also clarify that the person who tried to knock me off my bike was on a bike himself.. an inferior one. That's why he wanted mine. I kicked him right in the knee (heard a crack) and down that mofo went.

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  26. I'm done reading anything from radfems. Avoiding them at all costs.

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  27. To above radfems are scum and all ways will be...

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  28. Dirt's page brings out the worst in me, probably because this blog is Evil in some ways.

    I think sterilizing gender non-conforming children through the use of GnRH agonists followed by cross gender hormones at age 16 most definitely borders on a human rights abuse.

    In my opinion, if we are wrong about FTM "transitioning", it does resemble female genital mutilation. To me, "top surgery" (elective mastectomies with the surgical trimming down of areolas and nipples) appears to be a form of violence being carried out on the female sex.

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  29. FTM transition has nothing to do with women so it doesn't empower or disempower them. It's about correcting a transsexual condition.

    Before females "transition", don't they have the right to vote, access to education, and reproductive health care if they want it? Many FTMs still benefit from the tireless work of first and second wave feminists. Then, they have the audacity to deny they have any connection at all with the female sex, and they don't owe the female sex anything. These are humans born female from the womb of a woman.

    FTM transition has nothing to do with women so it doesn't empower or disempower them. It's about correcting a transsexual condition.

    There is no biological basis for a "transsexual condition". Primates don't change their sex, and humans are nothing more than primates. Primates are 99% genetically similar. Mammals don't even change their sex. There are a couple of species of fish that can change their sex, and slugs and earth worms are hermaphrodites. How genetically similar are fish to humans? Sex reassignment surgery in humans really doesn't change one's sex. We all know this, but it's politically incorrect to say otherwise. "Transitioning" (surgery and hormones) are largely a culturally prescribed cure for something that could or could not exist. For what ever reason, some people have always stepped outside the boundaries of traditional sex roles. They weren't always called transgender, and they always didn't get surgery and hormones, etc. At any rate, we know one thing for certain. Humans like all primates don't change their sex. Please don't bring up disorders of sexual development because this has been thoroughly covered before. DSD is NOT the same as transgender.

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  30. Do you realize how many homophobes say that people are only gay or lesbian because they were molested as a kid? I'm disgusted that you would assume someone is FTM because they were raped. I was molested as a kid BUT I knew I was in the wrong body for years before any of that happened. I knew when I was 3- once of my first memories is asking Santa to make me into a boy. I knew I was in the wrong body and it had NOTHING to do with the fact that I was molested 5 years AFTER that.

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  31. Do you realize how many homophobes say that people are only gay or lesbian because they were molested as a kid...I'm disgusted that you would assume someone is FTM because they were raped.?

    First of all, being gay or lesbian doesn't require any surgical or chemical alterations to healthy reproductive systems. As to the statement, "I'm disgusted that you would assume someone is FTM because they were raped.?" I'm astounded that this person is ignorant of thousands of years of history. Why are most anorexics female? There has to be something going on in the culture that makes women feel so uncomfortable with their bodies that they would literally starve themselves. Why are the majority of plastic surgery procedures carried out on females (it's around 90%)? Certainly there has to be something going on in our culture that tells women that they are inferior the way that they are. How society views women and the messages it sends to girls has a great deal to do with how they view their bodies. Cutters, girls and women who repeatedly scratch or cut themselves, often have a history of sexual abuse.

    There are numerous scholarly articles that point out that culture probably plays a role in why so many women flock to plastic surgeons, but culture plays no role whatsoever in FTM "transitioning". Apparenlty, FTM "transitioning" is the only thing that exists in a complete cultrual vacuum. Some of the same plastic surgeons who do breast implants also make money by doing elective mastectomies with nipple resizing.


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  32. I'm really late on this because I'm a sporadic reader, but I would just like to say that borderline personality disorder is completely different from being transgender.
    I have BPD myself, and have had it for years (obviously) and it's actually in true cases the result of overactivity or abnormality in the brain in areas related to regulating emotion. Most of this research was carried out by a woman (Marsha Linehan); that being said, on the other hand, I think it would be important for you to look into how BPD was originally a new term for hysteria and was and is still misdiagnosed and used as a tool to oppress women. For this reason many of us who truly have it are calling for the disorder to be renamed and for the criteria to be more inclusive of the way men respond when they have BPD (there are social differences as per patriarchy e.g. a man with BPD may be way less likely to self-harm and more likely to try and impulsively drive his car off a bridge to hurt himself which may be incorrectly interpreted as an antisocial tendency, and many men with BPD are never diagnosed because of the misogynistic history associated with psychiatry)
    Mental illnesses are very real and often neurological in origin but the subjective history of psychiatry as decided by white men intent on reinforcing their supremacy has led to abuses of power. Many young women have been both incorrectly AND correctly been diagnosed with BPD and suffered misogynist abuse at the hands of medicine

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