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Friday, August 30, 2013

Killing HER-The Dream of Transmen

This screencap comes to us via this tumblr, a young woman's angry, miserable and sad "ftM journey".

Like EVERY female transition before and after her, her journey begins with a deep hatred of the circumscribed role/expectation of girl/woman, viewed everywhere she looks. A view she also cannot identify with. A hatred that over time is internalized to such a degree, trans females want to erase all "traces" of female from their body. And by traces, meaning any visible signs of female emphasized by males/the Male Gaze, that illustrate softness, sex or weakness. In other words, anything that isnt visibly male or manly.

As I have been writing here for years, transition is a form of murder, a living death. And the violence of transition, regardless of whether transitioning toward female or away from her, IS its own form of Violence Against Women! Woman isnt something we can violently cut ourselves into, anymore than she is something was can violently cut from ourselves.

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  1. My thoughts.

    A deep hatred of the circumscribed role/expectation. It has harmed her, and limits her. It has harmed and limited her mother. Women are treated and abused abominably. No wonder she would seek to escape her female sex through escaping her social status as a woman/girl, in this female hating murdering raping suffocating society.

    Transition does not eradicate disphoria which is directly related to the "female role" ( thinking of ur last post). Transition does not eradicate bullying, only helps her "escape" the female role when passing as a man.

    Women are treated and abused. Tranisiting is her "treatment" by the male medical machine. The same abuse. She elects to mutilate her body, and the medics are standing ready and prepared with their scalpels.

    Again, thinking of your last post featuring Poly Styrene Identity, it is crucial we provide information and visible role models of those women who dare to speak/act/walk/succeed beyond the confines of the gender straight jacket.

    It used to be that we insulted as "masculine", now we are insulted with the false belief that we actually ARE men (trans theory) which is just enabling this escapism, multilation, and misery. Just the same as drugging the pain away, cutting the pain away, yet transition seeks to "murder" the female role/expectations as well as punish the body.

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  2. How sad. How horribly sad. I hope she opens her eyes as I have. "Wedding dress shopping", "the birth of her first child..." those aren't necessary to be a woman, you know? Just be you, don't mutilate yourself to be what you perceive others want you to be to fit well in a neat, horribly small and patriarchally made gender-box.

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  3. No, *you* are not a man. This ftm is. If you could get over your self-involved bullshit, you could get some peace maybe. Grow up.

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  4. Woman isn't something we can violently cut ourselves into, anymore than she is something we can violently cut from ourselves.

    True, and well said.

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  5. I wish people could just be a person without all the oppression of gender.

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  6. If people take the time to read this blog that dirt has linked to, this individual seems so sad. The deep sadness almost leaps off the page.

    Humans born female can't completely rid themselves of the fact that they are female. It's not going to happen, and all they can do is change their outward appearance to conform to some gender based stereotype.

    Females are strong and beautiful, and it's okay to be gender non-conforming and still be a woman.

    I wish this individual all the best, and I hope she gets some unbiased counseling from someone other than a FTM "gender therapist".





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  7. You were privileged to be born into the body you have. Some people weren't. If they choose to do something to improve their quality of life, who are you to tell them they are wrong. No two people are the same transgendered or not, so please stop posting that all trans start this way or that. You have something wrong with you. Full of hate. Did a transman break your heart?

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  8. I wish people could change their sex/ gender without it being a problem (politically and psychologically) for others.

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  9. Did a transman break your heart?

    For me, ALL 'transmen' break my heart; it's the most tragic thing going right now. It sure doesn't make me hate anybody though. It does make me hate what society is doing to these women though, with its rigid gender roles that so many are embracing and which I mistakenly thought we were moving away from.

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  10. You were privileged to be born into the body you have. Some people weren't.

    What exactly does this mean, and who is this person addressing? People who are born with physical handicaps struggle every day with their disabilities.

    I'm sorry, but I can't see why female children born with perfectly healthy bodies need to be injected with GnRH agonists (puberty suppression) at age 12 or 13 and cross gender hormones at age 16. To me, "top surgery" (elective mastectomies with the surgical whittling down of areolas and nipples) resembles a form of violence being carried out on the female sex.

    Did a transman break your heart?

    It's not individual transmen per se. It's what society/culture/medicine are doing to these young women. GNrH agonists, breast binding, "T" (testosterone), "top surgery" (elective mastectomies with the surgical trimming down of areolas and nipples), and "bottom surgery" (6-8 inches of skin grafts sewn onto the public area, urethra lengthening, etc.) are surgical procedures and medications that are given to people. It's something that is happening to females, and the manner in which all this is carried out is influenced by cultural factors and everything children and parents see and read online. Children as young as age 5 or 6 are "diagnosed" with "gender dyshporia". Five year old girls who don't like playing with dolls are labeled "transgender". Transgender and "transitioning" are just cool, trendy, modern versions of enforcing the same, tired old sex based gender roles.

    I agree with e who said it better than I could.

    @e

    "For me, ALL 'transmen' break my heart; it's the most tragic thing going right now. It sure doesn't make me hate anybody though. It does make me hate what society is doing to these women though, with its rigid gender roles that so many are embracing and which I mistakenly thought we were moving away from."

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  11. Trans"men" do not deserve anyone's pity. They're misogynistic gutless cowards. Morons who can't cut it as either women or men.

    Once they get their imagined male privilege they then proceed to act like what they hated. And why won't they leave women's spaces? Oh, I know, they're afraid of actual men.

    It's pretty funny though when these idiots de-transition and become soccer moms. It looks so good on them.

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