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Monday, August 26, 2013

Help Me-The Otherside of Normal

"Hot weather still. The children are running around bare. I had a letter from Daphne today, the first for a long time. What a strange world she must be living in! Her letter does not make sense...it frightens me, I can never see her getting better and living a normal life like myself. Poor Daphne. And she sends back the letter I wrote her, and has written the words Help help help at the end of my letter. As if I had to be rescued from a terrible doom. Poor Daphne. Naturally she means herself when she cries help help help." from the novel Owls do Cry by Janet Frame.

To frame this with a bit more context, the woman writing this journal entry is Chicks (a childhood nickname) and she is writing about her sister Daphne who is in a mental asylum. Chicks aspires to normality, and an escape from a background to which she was deeply ashamed. Ashamed of growing up poor, ashamed of having an epileptic brother, ashamed of her class, ashamed of having a sister in a mental institution, ashamed of her clothes, ashamed of her father's railway job-ashamed ashamed ashamed!

Chicks marries a well to do man and they live in the suburbs where she and her husband now rub elbows with doctors, lawyers and other professionals and their well to do wives. Suburbs consisting of well manicured lawns, BBQs, cocktail parties, playing children with clean clothes, PTA meetings, dinner on the dinner table etc, in other words normal. Men, women and children all functioning in roles long since outlined for middle class luxury or is it prison?

Daphne on the other hand sees clear through society's poser pretenses/masquerade, that is the IDEA that normal exists. A vision that has often got men and particularly women committed to mental asylums at worst and the outskirts of society at the very least.

Chicks writes to Daphne of her wonderful normal life, about the cocktails with her doctor neighbor and his pretty wife. About her children's good grades, about her husband providing her with all the modern convinces. All the things Chicks had dreamed about, stressed over and bent over in every conceivable and inconceivable position to obtained in the final hope of an achieved normality/happiness.

It the letter quoted above, Daphne returns the letter to Chicks with the word Help repeatedly written on it. Daphne's clear vision sees that Chicks desired, dreamed about and sought after normal is not only a trap, it is a death trap. A necrosis that makes the lunatic asylum preferable, where Daphne can exist and even grow without society's requisite pressures to consume, obey and above all else, conform aka be normal.

When Daphne looked at Chicks what she saw was not unlike what we saw watching the Exorcist, when Reagan uses her own body as a cry for help.

This is the EXACT cry of HELP that screams from the bodies of trans female after trans female:

HELP ME

HELP ME

HELP ME

HELP ME

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15 comments:

  1. Sounds like an interesting book. The part relating it to transpeople is crap, though.

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  2. Well done Dirt. It works, it's right. xxx

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  3. How good of you to show these boys with their marks of bravery..

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  4. How good of you to show these boys with their marks of bravery..

    Humans born female who undergo what basically amounts to elective mastectomies with the surgical trimming down of areolas and nipples is "bravery". How is the surgical alteration of healthy female anatomy "bravery"? The mutilation of female bodies in whatever form has only been going on for thousands of years. These aren't "marks of bravery". They are surgical scars. Loss of nipple sensation is common, and every now and then a nipple graft doesn't take resulting in a loss of a nipple or two. Unlike most surgical scars where there is a clear medical diagnosis/lab tests, etc., these scars are the result of a questionable and culturally influenced psychological diagnosis.

    People who battle cancer or heart disease are brave. To me, getting one's healthy breasts lopped off is down right sad. I don't sense bravery as much as a deep feeling of sadness and loss. It's loss for the female herself, and loss for the female sex as a whole. It's as if millions of ancient female souls are crying, whispering to me. It's hard for me to express this feeling of loss. Perhaps it takes far more courage and bravery for a female to feel secure and comfortable in her own body and to be proud of being female. In a world in which girls are devalued from birth, this is truly bravery.

    Sounds like an interesting book. The part relating it to transpeople is crap, though.

    I didn't get a chance to read the book.

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  5. The only person who needs help is Lynn Baker/AKA Dirt/AKA Dirty White Boi. She is a psychotic, nasty bigot who spends her life obsessing about trans men's lives. How absolutely appalling to use pictures of trans men's bodies to further your hate-mongering agenda. These men are beautiful and brave, unlike your ugly, mean-spirited and cowardly self. Also, nice job body-shaming these guys. Is it their fault they were not born with the cis male chests that they should have been born with? Who are you to judge and shame their transmasculine body contours? But keep sputtering in the wind as if the whole world is listening. Keep pretending like you are some kind of pseudo-intellectual or armchair philosopher when any women's studies 101 professor would laugh you right out of the classroom with your drivel and nonsense. Team Trans for the win!

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  6. "Trans team for the win"?

    Those who choose to vaporize their female past and artificially gain some male characteristics is in fact horrifying to many. It feels traitorous.

    Trans trending may be revealed for the narcissistic/money making exercise it is in the future. But the concern for females, of all generations around this trend is very real.

    Females are universally devalued, and that is challenging to encounter on a daily basis. It requires courage to live as a woman. I was lucky to be cut enough slack to be able to grow up a tomboy, study feminist theory, and eventually come into my own: a masculine of center woman.

    That said, I don't wish ill upon the decision that anyone makes if they are in a state of clarity, awareness and maturity.





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  7. Is it their fault they were not born with the cis male chests that they should have been born with?

    They are female not male and they have female reproductive systems (ovaries, uterus, vagina, etc.)

    Considering the fact that some FTMs get pregnant, calling them as male seems a bit ludicrous. Thomas Beattie, the "pregnant man", FTM had three babies AFTER legally changing her sex to male.


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  8. What, exactly, is the functional meaning of having xx chromosomes when you look like a male, get treated as a male, feel male, and have years of experience on this earth as a male? I dont think you people get it. I don't have any trouble accepting my chromosomes are xx. To deny that is delusional. What that can or should mean is entirely subjective. You really can't make it mean to me what it means to you, so why are you trying?

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  9. What, exactly, is the functional meaning of having xx chromosomes when you look like a male, get treated as a male, feel male, and have years of experience on this earth as a male?...

    What, exactly, is the functional meaning of having XX chromosomes...?

    This human wouldn't even be here without a female (XX). No human can exist without at least one X chromosome. X0 (Turner's Syndrome - only one X chromosome) is viable whereas there is no such thing as Y0 (one Y chromosome without an X)

    What, exactly, is the functional meaning of having XX chromosomes...?

    Mitochondrial DNA is inherited solely from the mother. It's not the sex chromosomes in the nuclei, but cytoplasmic inheritance comes from the mother.

    Please don't bring up disorders of sexual development or intersex because we have been through this before. Intersex is NOT the same thing as transgender. The vast majority of transgender individuals are either biological female or biological male without an actual DSD medical condition.

    Because it's so culturally based, there is no precise meaning to the words, "look like a male", or "feel like a male". Doesn't this individual mean how society says males should appear?

    What, exactly, is the functional meaning of having XX chromosomes...?

    Females exist whereas "gender identity" is largely culturally based. Whether they admit it or not, people who "transition" are often influenced by cultural and social factors. Shedding light on some of the social factors is not against the law.

    Since Anonymous August 28, 2013 at 3:08 PM says it more eloquently than I could, I'll just repeat what this individual said.

    "Those who choose to vaporize their female past and artificially gain some male characteristics is in fact horrifying to many. It feels traitorous.

    Trans trending may be revealed for the narcissistic/money making exercise it is in the future. But the concern for females, of all generations around this trend is very real.

    Females are universally devalued, and that is challenging to encounter on a daily basis. It requires courage to live as a woman. I was lucky to be cut enough slack to be able to grow up a tomboy, study feminist theory, and eventually come into my own: a masculine of center woman. "

    If we lived in a world completely free of all sexism and misogyny, I would be more willing to accept female "transitioning". No such world exists.

    I dont think you people get it. I don't have any trouble accepting my chromosomes are xx. To deny that is delusional. What that can or should mean is entirely subjective.

    This individual seems incredibly myopic in that she has no sense of history. Girls are universally devalued to the point that at least 163 million female fetuses have been aborted. The mutilation of female bodies has at least a thousand plus year history. Chinese foot binding went on for centuries and FGM still continues.

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  10. That said, I don't wish ill upon the decision that anyone makes if they are in a state of clarity, awareness and maturity.

    The word maturity is a joke because some children are called "transgender" at age five. At age eleven or twelve, they can be given GnRH agonists, and at age sixteen they can start cross gender hormones.

    Show me one mature five or six year old child. According to the mother, Coy, the six year old "transgender" boy, "has expressed herself as a girl since she was 18 months old." Rational people are called transphobic if they question this insanity.

    No one is allowed to question the motives or attitudes of the parents, or ways in which the parents might be influenced by everything they have read online from thousands of transgender blogs and websites. We are to take at face value that a child born male "has expressed herself as a girl since she was 18 months old." What does this mean at age 18 months?

    There was also a Washington Post video of a five year old "transgender" girl whose parents have already decided is "he" or "him". Apparently, their five year old daughter didn't like her sister's dolls, and preferred building blocks instead. This is all the proof the parents need.

    If parents constantly refer to a six year old biological male child as "she" or "her" long enough, he is probably going to start believing it. The same goes for five year old girls who are called "he".

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  11. I was lucky enough to be allowed to grow up a tomboy. I was taught to use power tools, encouraged to participate in sports, and mostly allowed to dress how I wanted. I became an ardent feminist in my twenties. I still hold feminist beliefs, though I will never believe that women are *only* victims. I still transitioned. Because I am trans.

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  12. "I still hold feminist beliefs, though I will never believe that women are *only* victims. I still transitioned."

    How exactly does feminism relate "top surgery" (elective mastectomies with the surgical trimming down of areolas and nipples)? In FTM "transitioning", female identity is lost. Please explain how losing female identity is related to feminism.

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  13. Dirt, you fuckin' rock. I wish I'd had women like you to look up to when I was a little girl. Keep fighting the fight against these profit-mongering, misogynist, eugenicist, Nazi sociopaths!!

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