The commenter claims to be in the same "boat" as me, despite the fact that she is clearly sinking in the Gender Straight Jacket ocean that is drowning all trans females. She wants to draw a line in the sand between a REAL trans female, who looks, speaks, walks, performs, acts, etc like a REAL man and trans females who merely transition but still act girly.
First and foremost, having male friends, working out and being ignorantly mistaken for a male by a society that views everything through a Gender Straight Jacket lens, doesnt a male make. Were that the case I or any Butch for that matter, instead of having beautiful breasts and equally perfect pussys would have a "turkey neck and gizzards", to use Esther Greenwood's apt description of male genitals, hanging from our person.We dont.
She goes on to speak about her fears of other trans "GIRLY" females who might "invalidate" her as a man because they continue "acting" girly after transition. She says these trans females are using "gender" wrong because they are draining "gender" of its meaning. Apparently she missed a day in Trans 101 class where postmodernism's queer theory was explained. Butler would be so disappointed in her! Gender per queer theory is ALL performance, not a set performance of specific sex roles/behaviour but ANY garbage heap you want to drop into its awaiting empty can!
She claims trans females who do not perform man in a very specific way, are putting a "black mark" on the REAL trans females! Behaviour is number one in being a "real" trans person in her mind and in the rules of much of the whole trans community. Trans doesnt exist until medically create hormones hit the blood stream. And after that, no matter the performance, the patient is now trans until they cease taking hormones.
In her best Gender Straight Jacketed accent she says that one can "act boyish" whereby she puts Butch in parenthesis. Butch has nothing to do with acting anything, let alone boyish. As a female, EVERYTHING I do, say, wear, think etc IS female. Carrying female down unmarked roads, roads we've had to hash out for ourselves, roads with centuries of signs saying DO NOT ENTER or FOR MEN ONLY, does not negate one XX cell in our female bodies, not one. And as a VERY domestic Butch, my love of cooking and a clean home does nothing to invalidate other Butch women who may love sports or live under the hood of a car.
Besides, per the mental illness bible, transition is suppose to be the treatment for gender dysphoria, NOT something with which to co-opt sex/sex roles.