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Thursday, January 24, 2013

De-sexing the World Around Us

Should all the little externals such as clothings, toys, shampoos, make ups, colours etc be de-sexed? And would this de-sexing lead to the sexes traversing the current rigid Gender Straight Jacket paralyzing females and males?

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  1. Yes it would make a difference to me, i hate the things that are aimed at females, so much so that i once hated christmas and birthdays for having to unwrap something gendered. If gender roles were not as fixed as they are there would mbe more space to be ones self, the sex of the body might not become a problem. I know there was a time in my life where the sex of my body was not a problem, infact the sex of my body was less important to me then it was to others, i had less body issues then the average streight woman. But i had a very strong inborn contempt for gender roles from age 11 onwards. This never went away, i did not begin having gender dysphoria until around 25, that was the point where the conflict turned onto me. Its almost like i hate my female body because it has effected how i could live my life, i hit my breasts with my fists as io hate them and my so called pretty aspects others once pointed, less often today.

    I hated att the attention i got from men when young, and all the attempts women made to make me appear attractive to men, i hate the way women give each other approval based on how they appeal to men, i want to walk up the street like a man can and get women to admire me for the same reasons they admire men. I want to be rewarded for how strong and powerful i can be, rather then how trim and pretty i can be. I want my short hair to be seen as neat and practical rather then as my hair being missing. And i want lesbian to be seen as attraction to women rather then something to do with adversion to men.

    I want a square body, with square hips and flat chest, i hate the way the female body shape reflects a reproductive function. I dont want a bald head or a beard.

    If i had not grown up in a culture that focuses on these things above all else in women, then i do not know how i would feel.

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  2. @ 5:45 AM

    You sound like you could be non-binary, shading towards the masculine side of the spectrum. You may be able to get a squarer body shape by working out, but it'll be harder to maintain. The flat chest is possible also if you don't mind having surgery (and can of course afford/access it). Binding occasionally might help.

    Believe me, you're not the only person who feel like this. Biology can be just as much a strait-jacket as gender, if it doesn't match up to the way you feel. Given that society is unlikely to change any time soon, you can either live with your body, or change it. Of course, helping to change attitudes is always desirable, but you still have to live in your own skin, so whatever anyone else says, do what's best for you.

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  3. @5:45

    "You sound like you could be non-binary, shading towards the masculine side of the spectrum. You may be able to get a squarer body shape by working out, but it'll be harder to maintain. The flat chest is possible also if you don't mind having surgery (and can of course afford/access it). Binding occasionally might help."

    First of all, the "non-binary" comment was a dead give away as to how this individual thinks. As to the reference to the "the flat chest", females have breasts which are a natural part of the female anatomy. They aren't an accident of nature, a birth defect, or a source of shame, fear, or disgust. Yes, I imagine a "flat chest" is possible if a woman intentionally gets her boobs lopped off.

    FEMALES (XX) REALLY DO EXIST AND ARE A BIOLOGICAL REALITY. OTHERWISE, HOW WOULD THE HUMAN SPECIES REPRODUCE.

    Masculinity and femininity are socially constructed concepts that are essentially forced on all of us. That is, boys and men must act one way, and girls and women must behave and dress a certain way.

    Why would any female bind her breasts? Breast binding for long periods of time can mis-align ribs or cause other health problems. If anything, breast binding might extend or strenghten the body dysphoria surrounding the breasts instead of addressing it. Girls get in the habit of hiding their female anatomy as if it's a source of disgust or shame. I can speak from personal experience. I had a great deal of body dysphoria surrounding my breasts when I was a teenager, but I eventually grew out of it. It didn't happen overnight, but I finally came to appreciate and cherish my female body.

    Getting an elective mastectomy with areola and nipple grafting aka "top surgery" is permanent and major surgery. If you are going to suggest "top surgery", at least show her what it really entails. Loss of sensation is possible because the areolas and nipples are often cut off to be reshaped, then sewn back on. Although rare, sometimes the nipple graft doesn't take resulting in loss of a nipple. The breast size and skin elasticity usually dictates what procedure will be used.

    **Double Incision Mastectomy With Nipple Grafting**

    @anonymous

    " i hate the things that are aimed at females, so much so that i once hated christmas and birthdays for having to unwrap something gendered....I want to be rewarded for how strong and powerful i can be, rather then how trim and pretty i can be. I want my short hair to be seen as neat and practical rather then as my hair being missing. And i want lesbian to be seen as attraction to women rather then something to do with adversion to men. "

    You CAN do all this and still be female. Females are beautiful just the way they are.


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  4. If the link doesn't work, just copy and paste....


    http://www.surgerytheater.com/video/6423/Dr.%20Daniel%20Medalie%20performs%20FtM%20top%20surgery%20(double%20incision%20mastectomy%20with%20nipple%20grafting

    "Top Surgery" (Double incision mastectomy with nipple grafting"

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  5. @ 3:46 PM

    As to the reference to the "the flat chest", females have breasts which are a natural part of the female anatomy. They aren't an accident of nature, a birth defect, or a source of shame, fear, or disgust. Yes, I imagine a "flat chest" is possible if a woman intentionally gets her boobs lopped off.

    The anon I replied to said they wanted a flat chest. I gave them basic ways in which to obtain that goal, if they wished to do so. Because, you know, they are allowed to choose what they want to do with their own body to make it easier to live in. Maybe they'll keep their breasts and remain unsatisfied, maybe they'll pursue some form of transition. Maybe they'll come to terms with what they've got. It's up to them. I'm not going to shame them by saying it's wrong to want a male-shaped body even if they are mainly female-identified. That's your shtick, not mine.

    Being female is not some sacred thing, it's just biology, and if someone is unsatisfied with what nature has given them, they have every right to seek to alter it in any way that's available to them, if that's their choice. You people seem awfully keen on choice until it's trans/non-binary/genderqueer people doing the choosing.

    Perhaps, in an ideal society, the anon I replied to wouldn't feel the way she feels. But there would still be male-shaped people and female-shaped people, so who's to say it would be different for those who feel an incongruence between their biological sex and their sense of gender. 'Gendered' behaviour comes partly from biology. We are all shaped by evolution, designed to reproduce whether we choose to or not. Should we all then have children, just because that's what male and female bodies are for? By your logic, yes.

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  6. Deborah Orr
    The Guardian, Saturday 19 January 2013:

    http://www.guardian.co.uk/commentisfree/2013/jan/19/feminism-trans-women-female-enough#start-of-comments

    Feminism shouldn't be about telling trans women they're not female enough

    Here is one decent feminist who doesn't write transphobic screeds (unlike Julie Burchill). Someone who is actually trying to think what it must be like to be trans. Good for her!

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  7. http://unchainedaura.com/2012/05/07/for-those-who-still-believe-trans-people-support-gender-roles-and-choose-their-identity-warning-highly-triggerry/

    I am sick and tired of people making it sound like life as a trans person is a massive thrill ride of male privilege sunshine lollipops and rainbows. Most of the people who do so wouldn’t know the truth of transsexuality if it bit them on the ass. So I figured I’d try to tell my story so people can see what trans life is really like.

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  8. It's impossible to "de-sex" the world, and why would one want to? It would be like only being able to buy grapes at the store, when you hungered for figs, apples, plums and pears. Obviously, gender is a lot more complex than fruit - but life is all about choices.

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