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Saturday, February 18, 2012
Gender
As gender has been redefined through post modernism/queer theorist from sex indication to indicating mental sex (gender is not whats between your legs, its whats between your ears), what are the characteristics of those who are "male gendered" and how do those characteristics completely differentiate from those "female gendered"??
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Thursday, February 16, 2012
Dysphoria Does NOT Equal Trans-A Reminder
Reminding readers, feeling dysphoria about your body, parts of your body, in no way, shape or form is any indication that you are trans. It is impossible NOT to feel unhappy or dysphoric about your body in some way in our female hating society which solely measures females on how our bodies arose men's genitals.
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Wednesday, February 15, 2012
More Demands for Silencing From the Angry Trans Community
Its pretty sad the lengths the trans community will go to try and silence any sound voice, especially when that voice is female and worse, lesbian! It broadly illustrates just how deep the misogynistic substructure that is the foundation of the trans disorder really is.
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Trans Trending-Who is Transitioning
http://www.youtube.com/user/MisterJaycobsJourney
http://www.youtube.com/user/kaybaybay23
http://www.youtube.com/user/transpectacular
http://www.youtube.com/user/Contiboy360
http://www.youtube.com/user/MrCallumsWorld
http://www.youtube.com/user/TransBrosTV#p/u/2/cMAxC5hgOGk
http://www.youtube.com/user/MrZombieNate
http://www.youtube.com/user/MrJayswizzy
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aCObVkfZo64
This is what happens in the absence of a lesbian feminist community. Young women/lesbians are internalizing misogyny at levels never dreamed. Levels burying them in so much self hatred, they're choosing not to be legal women/lesbians altogether!
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Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Even in the Lesbian Community Misogyny is King
A Femme whom I have known (online/phone) for several years and believed was a good friend, abruptly severed our friendship today, via maturely, unfriending me on FB. I suspect it has been a long time coming. Since I have known her, she has been in/out of an abusive relationship with a self hating Butch. The Butch's self hatred has taken the form of drugs and alcohol abuse to verbal and later physical abuse ("she spit on me, hit me and said nasty things to me") of said Femme. When the Femme was spit on and punched in the face by this abusive Butch, she ended the relationship. The Femme told me in detail what transpired, told snatches of what happened to a few friends, but kept silent otherwise. Being not merely a good friend, but an avid feminist and a Butch to boot, I advised her the best I could, with love but also with harsh truths about abusers.
I told her she could call me day or night, because even if abused, lets face it, breaking up is hard to do! And it plain old fucking sucks. Needless to say after hearing from her frequently, she suddenly stopped writing/phoning. I surmised she went back to her abuser. I was right. Some months later she emailed telling me as much and telling me with much shame. I informed her, that I only hoped for the best and her going back to her g/f was no reason for us not to talk. But clearly whatever friendship we had, it was seriously strained by my knowledge of her abuse. It went beyond shame, to (I suspect) fear of me saying something out loud about the abuse since she was so tight lipped about it (her family knew nothing).
I watched saying nothing when she moved her and her children in with her abuser, watched and said nothing. During this time she took some big steps back from talking to me/commenting on FB updates etc. Some months after this she emailed and phoned me because things werent working out, there was a lot of verbal abuse and she was daily walking on "eggshells". She was worried there would be physical consequences if/when she officially moved out. Thank god there were none (that I know of). She hoped putting some distance back into the relationship would change things for the better. Since then she has stopped emailing/phoning me and has literally become a stranger.
This morning I commented jokingly to her on her FB account, her abuser (who has never spoken to me before) got snide, I made a simple truthful comment back. The Femme at that point unfriended me, which I said earlier I believe she has wanted to since telling me about her being spit on and punched square in the face. The whole situation is incredibly sad to me, not just over losing someone I really thought was a friend, but what it says about misogyny in lesbians and the lesbian community.
I dated a Femme who volunteered for a lesbian abuse center, I have lesbian friends now who do the same. I have long known lesbians can and are physically and emotionally abusive to one another. We're all subject to the constant barrage of misogynistic messages imparted by patriarchy. But as lesbians, we glean deeper insights into patriarchy than our hetero sisters, who swallow those insights for the love of men. As lesbians we do not have to ignore patriarchal realities to couple, and yet far too many of lesbians do.
Whenever a lesbian chooses to be abused by a woman over being loved by one, she ignores every misogynistic insight gleaned from being a lesbian! And whenever other lesbians stand silently by, we too ignore those insights and the patriarchal heteroistic status quo of abuse continues, even in our lesbian community. A community that has not only lapsed into the same silence lesbian abuse victims are living in this very minute, but a community that if we're being honest, no longer exist.
How are we to teach young lesbians to love themselves when many lesbians are ignoring their own abuse and worse, removing any person around them who might remind them of the abuse they're in?If you are a lesbian in an abusive relationship or know of one, please feel free to email me if you want to talk. I am ALWAYS here to help a lesbian sister.
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I told her she could call me day or night, because even if abused, lets face it, breaking up is hard to do! And it plain old fucking sucks. Needless to say after hearing from her frequently, she suddenly stopped writing/phoning. I surmised she went back to her abuser. I was right. Some months later she emailed telling me as much and telling me with much shame. I informed her, that I only hoped for the best and her going back to her g/f was no reason for us not to talk. But clearly whatever friendship we had, it was seriously strained by my knowledge of her abuse. It went beyond shame, to (I suspect) fear of me saying something out loud about the abuse since she was so tight lipped about it (her family knew nothing).
I watched saying nothing when she moved her and her children in with her abuser, watched and said nothing. During this time she took some big steps back from talking to me/commenting on FB updates etc. Some months after this she emailed and phoned me because things werent working out, there was a lot of verbal abuse and she was daily walking on "eggshells". She was worried there would be physical consequences if/when she officially moved out. Thank god there were none (that I know of). She hoped putting some distance back into the relationship would change things for the better. Since then she has stopped emailing/phoning me and has literally become a stranger.
This morning I commented jokingly to her on her FB account, her abuser (who has never spoken to me before) got snide, I made a simple truthful comment back. The Femme at that point unfriended me, which I said earlier I believe she has wanted to since telling me about her being spit on and punched square in the face. The whole situation is incredibly sad to me, not just over losing someone I really thought was a friend, but what it says about misogyny in lesbians and the lesbian community.
I dated a Femme who volunteered for a lesbian abuse center, I have lesbian friends now who do the same. I have long known lesbians can and are physically and emotionally abusive to one another. We're all subject to the constant barrage of misogynistic messages imparted by patriarchy. But as lesbians, we glean deeper insights into patriarchy than our hetero sisters, who swallow those insights for the love of men. As lesbians we do not have to ignore patriarchal realities to couple, and yet far too many of lesbians do.
Whenever a lesbian chooses to be abused by a woman over being loved by one, she ignores every misogynistic insight gleaned from being a lesbian! And whenever other lesbians stand silently by, we too ignore those insights and the patriarchal heteroistic status quo of abuse continues, even in our lesbian community. A community that has not only lapsed into the same silence lesbian abuse victims are living in this very minute, but a community that if we're being honest, no longer exist.
How are we to teach young lesbians to love themselves when many lesbians are ignoring their own abuse and worse, removing any person around them who might remind them of the abuse they're in?If you are a lesbian in an abusive relationship or know of one, please feel free to email me if you want to talk. I am ALWAYS here to help a lesbian sister.
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Monday, February 13, 2012
Transmen and the Male Brain
If you are a transman and truly believe you are born in the wrong body, would you be willing to finding out truly, if you have a "male brain"? Looking for at least 200 participants. Answer only if you seriously are interested in taking part of a university medical study which will prove 100% with out a doubt whether your brain is male and you are not merely suffering from a mental disorder.
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