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Saturday, September 8, 2012

Why be a Woman when you can be a Transman?

A regular reader linked me to this horrific misogyny from a trans female who claiming to be a "doctor", fitting given the Male Medical Machine's hatred of women.

The other day one of my school friends contacted me on Facebook and asked why I choose to change sex. I think I muttered the usual cliche about being ‘trapped in the wrong body’ or something. But as far as I can see the real question is ‘Why on earth are you still a woman?’
Because life as a woman was seriously weird. 
Things that were rubbish about being a woman.
  1. Make up.  I tend to cultivate stubble when I’m not at work, but it gets hopelessly itchy after a week. Anyway if you think shaving is bad, try having to slather some weird powdery stuff over your face every day. And get this  – it’s for no apparent purpose.
  2. Periods. Urgh. Why ?
  3. Dying in childbirth. Sorry but any species where 1 in 5 females die in childbirth unless they have medical (or veterinary) help is really seriously badly designed. More evidence that either there is no god or he is a misogynist.
  4. High heels. Again, why? What on earth is the fucking point?
  5. Breasts. Honestly you can’t really wank over your own breasts. Blokes think you can, and often some even think it would be good to have some. But seriously the sheer freakishness of them growing out of your chest  is just weird.
  6. The lack of women willing to have sex with you. 9 out of 10 women are just not willing to have sex with other women, which is really really depressing. When you meet an attractive woman you just don’t bother asking them out because the chances are they aren’t a lesbian.
  7. The feeling that if you have causal sex with strangers you are some sort of bad person. If you are a man that has casual sex with strangers (which lets face it is a perfectly good hobby when you aren’t in a monogamous relationship) you are thought of as ‘lucky’ or ‘a stud’. But if you are a woman you are a ‘slut’. This means if you are a woman you have to get into a relationship just to have a shag.
  8. Black tie events. Ok for men these are easy, just can wear the same outfit you wear for every event. But the bizarre rule for women is that you can’t wear the same outfit twice! How screwed up is that. Oh and when your friends get married you must go out and buy a new outfit. And people look shocked if you tell them it was from Primark. (You probably don’t need to tell them – Mrs Z) but why would you actually spend lots of money on clothes you’re only going to wear once? (One word: Accessories.  You never noticed?  See.  It works – Mrs Z)
  9. Hormones. Men have testosterone, this makes you want to have sex. Simple. Women have a variety of hormones that make you totally irrational at random times. I remember one day seriously wanting to end my life because it all seemed so hopeless. And the next day I had a period (which is repulsive) but then I realised that I hadn’t wanted to kill myself at all – it was all just hormones. There is something seriously weird about having hormones that out of control.
  10. Netball. Who on earth invented a sport where you can’t move with the ball or touch another player? It’s frankly the most boring sport ever. No one watches professional netball games. There’s a reason for that.
  11. Being rubbish at sport – because no one will let you play a proper sport once you turn 10 so you get worse than everyone else and instead expect you to like netball.
  12. The entirely weird relationship with your weight. If you are a fat man then it’s a bit annoying because you are likely to die of heart disease. If you are a fat woman you feel that you are worthless as a human being.
  13. The way that society makes you feel like you are going to be killed if you go out after dark on your own. It’s so nice to be able to go for a run though a deserted dockyard when I finish work at 10pm without people making me feel like I’m committing suicide.
  14. The entirely fucked up nature of societies attitude to child-rearing. Lets face it once you have had a baby you have suffered nine months of hell carrying it to term and then suffered the nightmare that is childbirth. You’d think that the logical approach to this creature that had done this to your body would be to give it to the father and tell him to get on with it.  But no, unless you give up your entire life to raising this creature that has already ruined your body and nearly killed you, you are a BAD PERSON.
  15. You get paid less than a man for doing the same work. Oh and women do more unpaid work in the home.
  16. Men keep trying to have sex with you. Less often if you are obviously a stroppy teenage dyke. Then they tend to go away.
So the real question is – why does anyone put up with being a woman? In this day and age if you are cursed with two X chromosomes you don’t actually have to go through the horror that is being a woman. I mean I’m glad you do – because I much prefer sex with women. But seriously: Why do you girls put up with this crap?

Ridiculously sick and sad all at once and regardless of any pseudo hormones or mutilative surgeries, this trans adult female is still very much a woman. Unfortunately her narrow Gender Straight Jacketed view is the norm for most trans females or females wanting not to be female. But rather than dismantling the Gender Straight Jacket binding them, they instead dismantle themselves. There is such a pathological fear of living as a woman outside the Gender Straight Jacket that the only way some can do so is by living female as a man. Woman is fast becoming the cancer of the huMAN race, and transition the scalpel with which to excise that cancer. 

 Dismember the GSJ and we end females developing the level of self hatred it take to want to transition

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  1. Dirt -- You see misogyny (it's there, no question), yet someone else will see dysphoria. The million dollar question is how does one reliably differentiate between the two? What separates genuine dysphoria from just run of the mill misogyny?

    I don't expect an answer, because we don't have one -- but someone should be working towards one.

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  2. The dysphoria develops BECAUSE of misogyny.

    dirt

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  3. "The dysphoria develops BECAUSE of misogyny."

    I think you're right dirt, it just makes sense; don't need tons of "evidence" to "prove" it, and really, how can you prove it? Trans narratives are the best evidence, and all the narratives I've heard point to this. The dysphoria is internalized misogyny like internalized homophobia in some gay people.

    I get that some FTM's don't hate women, they just hate & want to erase/reduce *their* femaleness = internalized misogyny. This shouldn't be ridiculed or shamed because it's a very sensitive thing, but it should be honestly talked about without jumping to the 'cure' of transition. I get that this is the remedy in this culture, and it makes some trans ppl happy, and that's all that really matters, isn't it? (Age of informed consent aside, which is a whole different thing). It does make me a bit sad to see beautiful, diverse women reject what nature so perfectly created. They think there's a mistake but I don't see one. Of course what I think doesn't matter because it's THEIR life and THEIR bodies, but as a lover of women and FTM's, this is how I feel.

    That said, a happy, confident FTM is more attractive than a self-hating lesbian/woman, so if that's what it takes, more power to you.

    This culture didn't develop overnight, it won't change overnight, and our lives are short. Doesn't mean we shouldn't actively be changing things, but it also doesn't mean we should sacrifice our happiness for a 'greater good', since profoundly unhappy people can cause a movement (and themselves) harm, as per your last post re. psychosis in rad feminism.

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  4. There are no "happy" trans females, thats what the trans narrative proves over and over and over again.

    And the notion of transition arrived in order to eradicate gays particularly, and lesbian secondarily, not to relieve dysphoria. Which again the trans narrative reiterates, transition only diminishes dysphoria for a brief period, it returns 10 fold and remains.

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  5. I can't imagine a drunk being happy!

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  6. Alcoholics arent happy, hence the reason they drink, same with drugs, whether thats shooting up heroin or testosterone.

    dirt

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  7. That list reads like joke but its not funny because even through 'transition' a female might never escape all those things. I'm thinking of the suicides of two FtMs I knew after years of T and surgeries.

    People don't just snap out of the shame and disgust that has been piled on them all their life for being female as soon as they start passing as male.

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  8. MNDR, your last sentence rings very loud and true.

    There was an FTM activist where I live who recently killed himself. He had spearheaded tons of trans initiatives/projects/educational programs. The irony of his death is cold and tragic, that on the one hand he did so much social and political work around trans, yet on the other hand he was going through so much (silent?) suffering. Of course not EVERY FTM goes through this, but enough do that it's a serious and pressing issue.

    We need to create SAFE SPACE to talk about this shit so that more people don't off themselves!

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  9. Oops, I meant your whole post rings loud and true, MNDR.

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  10. A transman will never be happy one way or another. They obviously aren't happy being a female for whatever reason and then they transition and they are not happy with themselves because they will never quite be a male. Its just the simple truth for whoever even if they want to deny it. For a transman with a lesbian they will always feel like they aren't seen as the man they want to be and if they are with a straight female they will always feel like they don't add up compared to any men she has previously been with. Transitioning is a lose/lose situation. You just end up in the middle somewhere...never fully a male and not able to go back to fully female. Your either a man without a penis or a female who has to shave her face and body...I'm not one for high heels or makeup but I'd prefer not to be an "it" either. I seriously considered transitioning at one point and even though I may not ever learn to love my female self I have accepted her as who I am.

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  11. Why did you delete my last 2 posts dirt?

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  12. Anon,

    Sometimes blogger tosses things into the spam folder which have to be released manually.

    dirt

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  13. I am a trans dude and I think that the so-called 'reasons' are bollocks.

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  14. From what I've seen/heard, FtM's don't have as much sex as Lesbians (I'm not including all their frantic masterbation). Out in public, it's easier for the rest of society to deal with an FtM who can be categorized as male(although usually a small, strange man)as to deal with a Lesbian. Because in Public no one cares what's in your pants, but in the bedroom they don't stand a chance.

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  15. FTM's don't stand a chance in the bedroom? LMAO! Tell that to my wife of 7 years. Been together for 13 years!

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  16. "So the real question is – why does anyone put up with being a woman? In this day and age if you are cursed with two X chromosomes you don’t actually have to go through the horror that is being a woman."

    To me, these sentences in the article that Dirt posted were most disturbing to me. It definitely is misogynistic no matter how one looks at it. Notice how this person said, “In this day and age if you are cursed with two X chromosomes you don’t have to go through the horror that is being a woman.” Well, if it weren’t for the “cursed two X chromosomes”, mitochondrial DNA wouldn’t be passed down to future generations. Indeed, there wouldn’t even be future generations of people.
    Why is it that in the year 2012 being a female is considered a curse? I thought this level of misogyny died out decades ago.

    One reader posted something to sit down and carefully think about:

    “Dirt -- You see misogyny (it's there, no question), yet someone else will see dysphoria. The million dollar question is how does one reliably differentiate between the two? What separates genuine dysphoria from just run of the mill misogyny?

    I don't expect an answer, because we don't have one -- but someone should be working towards one”

    I’ve been asking this question ever since I started noticing an increase in the number of women “transitioning” (surgery, testosterone). As to the question, “what separates genuine dysphoria from just run of the mill misogyny”, in all honesty, I don’t see how it is possible to completely separate culture from “gender dysphoria”. How can we do this? Humans by nature are social beings. In order to completely rule out any cultural influence, we would have to take a female child at birth, and then put her on an isolated island somewhere. Moreover, “gender dysphoria” really isn’t something we can quantify. Unlike a blood test or XRay, it’s not something we can pick up and examine. It’s a psychiatric diagnosis, and there is a certain amount of subjectivity involved whether want to admit it or not. Two different therapists or two different psychiatrists might have two different answers.

    “I don't expect an answer, because we don't have one -- but someone should be working towards one”

    Perhaps there is no answer because it is impossible to completely separate it from cultural influences. The very concepts of masculinity and femininity are socially constructed to a large extent.

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  17. http://youtu.be/2rrriiVNv8s

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  18. I think a more interesting question is where do you make the connection between misogyny and transgenderism.

    Ive come across many women who have claimed to hate other women, but that doesn't mean they want to be men.

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  19. "A transman will never be happy one way or another. ... For a transman with a lesbian they will always feel like they aren't seen as the man they want to be and if they are with a straight female they will always feel like they don't add up compared to any men she has previously been with. Transitioning is a lose/lose situation."

    Right, because no other kind of woman exists besides straight and lesbian, of course. Because we must all live our entire lives based on sexual relationships, not on who we are or what we want in life. Because no one is more than a set of genitals to a partner, and a set of false expectations based on those genitals. And lastly, because love is certainly not more powerful or imaginative than our human need to have everything fit into neat little boxes. I am sorry that you have not experienced true love. With the way you think, you may never be able to. Your complete lack of substance as a human offends me

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  20. Half of the shit on that list is utter bullshit, but I have to admit that some of it struck a chord.

    Does anyone on this list claim to enjoy PMS or find a good reason for it? The mood swings, despair, bloating, irritability, alienating friends and partners, only to have to apologize for half that shit a week later. WTF? I really, really want someone to answer this. Don't even try to tell me some spiritual shit about connecting with the Earth Mother or that I should take evening primrose. One week of PMS (conservatively) plus one week of bleeding per month. That's HALF YOUR LIFE. Then, after menopause, your reward for suffering through all that is memory lapses, mental fog, zero sex drive, and osteoporosis. SOMEBODY DEFEND THIS SHIT TO ME!

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  21. The writer of that blog also mentions netball.

    Netball is actually a branch off of basketball, the rules were defined in such a way that it made the game easier and less intensive for women.

    It restricts the players movements In such a way that the players aren't running too far and are less likely to come in to physical contact with other players.




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  22. "Don't even try to tell me some spiritual shit about connecting with the Earth Mother or that I should take evening primrose"

    LOL @ the evening primrose part.

    I don't LOVE bleeding, but I don't hate it either, and I DO feel more powerful when I am, and have connected on deeper and different levels with my wife at times of bleeding (not just sexually).

    No doubt our bodies go through some major and horrific things, including childbirth. I think there is a pay off though, which is strength (and the awesomeness of motherhood for those who choose this road). Look how POWERFUL our sex is to go through everything we go through. Isn't that HOT, a strong, proud woman?! Plus, it's just nature, the way things are. Hell, hyenas birth their babies through their long clits/pseudo penises which often rip during birth, so I'd say we're not doing too bad!

    Hating our bodies for what they go through instead of honoring and tending to their natural process is misogynistic, as is invalidating the powerful spiritual component of it all.

    I'm in my mid 30's and already have memory lapses, mental fog and low sex drive. I'm sure it would all clear up or improve if I went on T, but I am comfortable with my body as it is, for the most part.

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  23. "From what I've seen/heard, FtM's don't have as much sex as Lesbians"

    Are you kidding me? The transmen in my city, and in San Fran, New York, Chicago get more ass than a toilet seat.

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  24. Anon@ 3:11 I'm also not counting their fantasies. And it only counts as 1 partner even if you're seeing double or triple because of all the alcohol/drugs taken to get over the crippling dysphoria. I know several people who have "transitioned" and the older they get, the worse it all gets, trust me.

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    1. Wow. I'm also not counting fantasies...because I don't have to. I'm sorry that you have to live in dreamland to feel allright about not transitioning. I'm sorry that you felt you couldn't transition and have a partner. You were wrong, and you have wasted precious years of your life not being who you are out of fear. I had alot of hot sex with alot of hot girls after I transitioned, and more interest than I could deal with. Now, I just have one hot girl and we get busy plenty. Coming to grips with who you are is hot, and I guess people like it. Or they just like me. Either way, it doesn't sound like you've been very lucky in that respect.

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  25. lmao, I'm FTM and I haven't drank, smoked, or taken drugs since I was 15, I'm now in my 20s.

    I find it sad that people have to create this vision of what it must be like to live as the people they HATE.

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  26. God, WHY do female trans always have to regale us with tales of how much SEX they get, like some saddo adolescent teenage boy desperate to convince his mates that he's at it ALL the time............

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  27. 8:38 AM Because people are saying that women don't want us and that we can't make it in the bedroom.

    Go have a spot of tea sweetheart!

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  28. Anonymous said...
    Anon@ 3:11 I'm also not counting their fantasies. And it only counts as 1 partner even if you're seeing double or triple because of all the alcohol/drugs taken to get over the crippling dysphoria. I know several people who have "transitioned" and the older they get, the worse it all gets, trust me.

    What alcohol and drugs? I drank some as a teenager at parties or whatever. I'm in my 40's now and have been transitioning since I was 22 and have no regrets. I suppose you think that the older I get the worse it is for me? Nope! You're wrong! It only gets better for me.
    Drugs? Shit, most of the lesbians I know do drugs. It's like they are scared of being washed up and being has been's. They always talk about how they hate getting older because they don't feel like they will find anyone or whatever. They try going after baby dykes only to be turned down. In turn they do whatever drugs they are into.
    Don't even get me into talking about the local gay bar and all the drugs taken there!

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  29. Statement:

    "From what I've seen/heard, FtM's don't have as much sex as Lesbians"

    Response:

    "Are you kidding me? The transmen in my city, and in San Fran, New York, Chicago get more ass than a toilet seat."

    "God, WHY do female trans always have to regale us with tales of how much SEX they get, like some saddo adolescent teenage boy desperate to convince his mates that he's at it ALL the time............"

    Bragging about how much sex they get.....well, where have we heard that from? Men are always boasting about their sex life. It's usually the ones who brag the most who get the least. By the way, I've never heard a woman say, "get more ass than a toilet seat" in reference to a sexual relationship. That is the misogynistic way men describe their sexual conquests.
    As for me, I don't need to brag about my sex life. Deep romantic love is more than “getting more ass than a toilet seat”. Silly boys….

    “Drugs? Shit, most of the lesbians I know do drugs.”

    I’m a lesbian and I don’t drink or do drugs. I don’t even smoke. Yes, it’s easy to find all kinds of drugs at clubs if people really want them. I have known some lesbians who do drugs, but I've also known lesbians who have no use for drugs at all. In this regard, lesbians are no different than other people. I know some lesbian couples who have been together for twenty years. These women don't waste their lives with drugs or trolling skanky night clubs.

    It’s interesting that one would claim high drug use among lesbians when FTMs have to take testosterone for the rest of their lives. Indeed, FTMs are wedded to the health care system for their entire lives. All drugs including testosterone come with side effects. If people want to talk about drugs, let’s talk about all drugs.

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  30. "Half of the shit on that list is utter bullshit, but I have to admit that some of it struck a chord.

    Does anyone on this list claim to enjoy PMS or find a good reason for it? The mood swings, despair, bloating, irritability, alienating friends and partners, only to have to apologize for half that shit a week later. WTF? I really, really want someone to answer this. Don't even try to tell me some spiritual shit about connecting with the Earth Mother or that I should take evening primrose. One week of PMS (conservatively) plus one week of bleeding per month. That's HALF YOUR LIFE. Then, after menopause, your reward for suffering through all that is memory lapses, mental fog, zero sex drive, and osteoporosis. SOMEBODY DEFEND THIS SHIT TO ME!"

    No one is defending PMS or menstruation. A woman would be lying if she said she actually likes PMS or menstruation.
    Apparently, a life time of testosterone is better than PMS.
    Below are some possible side effects of long term testosterone use:

    *Increased red blood count - RBC count

    *Increased hemoglobin HGB

    *Polcythemia

    *Elevated liver levels

    *Suppression of clotting factors

    *Elevated lipid profile

    *High Blood Pressure

    *Acne

    *PCOS

    http://www.ftmguide.org/tandhealth.html

    As to PMS, can’t PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) be just as painful than PMS? This pain can make a woman double over. According to my research, transmen who take testosterone for years, but still have their uterus and ovaries are at increased risk of PCOS. Listen to what one transman has to say, then tell me how bad PMS is:

    “Doctors are retarded. They don’t know anything about FTMs, all their training goes out the window when I meet with them and I end up educating the doctors more than them educating me. I have the SAME problem u do. Started one day a month, pain gradually got worse, then started more often, then pain got early unbearable, and now I can’t even get off without being doubled over in pain the next 24 hours. “

    http://tboyjacky.wordpress.com/2009/08/03/pain-in-the-uterus/

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  31. PMS VS. PCOS AND PAIN FROM MAJOR SURGERY continued...neither is pleasant

    Some physicians recommend removal of ovaries and uterus within five years of starting testosterone. The problem is this. Many insurance policies won’t cover sex reassignment surgery. This is major surgery and is expensive if people have to pay for it themselves. There was a case in Canada in which an insurance company didn’t want to pay for a hysterectomy for a transman because they considered it part of sex reassignment surgery.

    PCOS affects from 1 to 5% of the natal female-bodied population; yet it is estimated that 25% of FTM people are afflicted with the syndrome. In 70% of PCOS cases, the condition is accompanied by elevated levels of dehydroepiandrosterone. In more than 50% of cases another adrenal androgen, 11beta hydroxy androstenedione, is elevated. These substances increase the risk of heart disease and hypertension…Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS) is a medical condition that may affect as many as 25% of Female-to-Male (FTM) transsexual persons. The symptoms of PCOS may include hirsutism (in the absence of androgen treatment), irregular or absent menses, dysmenorreah (painful menses), obesity, and, rarely, true virilization. However, many people show no obvious symptoms. Persons with PCOS are at increased risk for endometrial hyperplasia (overgrowth of the lining of the uterus), endometrial cancer, and breast cancer. Polycystic ovaries and uterine fibroids, which may or may not be related to

    PCOS, are common in FTM people and may be aggravated by testosterone therapy.

    http://www.shb-info.org/sitebuildercontent/sitebuilderfiles/shbmengea.pdf

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  32. PMS VS. PCOS AND SURGERY continued...

    Some FTMs deliberately choose to keep their ovaries and uterus so they can become pregnant later. This is more common than one thinks. If they keep their uterus and ovaries and take testosterone for years, there is an issue of PCOS. If they have their uterus and ovaries removed, they are infertile. Isn’t it amazing the way the female body is designed. Perhaps the female body wasn’t designed for large doses of testosterone for years on end.

    (1.) Any major surgery contains some risk, and when a surgeon takes a scalpel and removes both healthy breasts on a female the breasts are gone for good. Of course, all surgery leaves some scarring.

    (2.) Some physicians recommend hysterectomy within five years of taking testosterone because of the risk of PCOS and other health concerns. If sex reassignment surgery isn’t covered by one’s health insurance, then this is expensive not to mention all the post op pain.

    (3.) Because of the pain, repeated surgeries, and cost, many FTMs don’t go through all the pain associated with “bottom surgery” to surgically create a “penis” that will never function exactly like a penis on a biological male.

    “It is important to note that most phalloplasty procedures require multiple surgical visits as well as some revisions. The procedures can involve pain and discomfort, require significant recovery time, and often leave large areas of visible scarring. Because of the nature of using skin grafts, there is always a risk of tissue death and loss of part or all of the penis. Other potential complications include the extrusion of testicular or penile implants, the formation of a stricture (an abnormal narrowing; blockage) or fistula (an abnormal connection; leakage) in the newly constructed urethral passage, and infection. There may also be damage to the nerves of the donor area, resulting in numbness or loss of function. Erotic sensation may be changed or diminished. And the results may not be as aesthetically pleasing as one might like them to be. Also, one must consider the usual risks of any surgery, including bleeding, infection, problems from anesthesia, blood clots, or death (rare).

    Phalloplasty procedures also tend to be very expensive (between $50,000 to $150,000) and are often not covered by insurance.”

    http://www.ftmguide.org/grs.html#phallo

    Yes, PMS is never pleasant, but I've had only mild PMS symptoms. I can't see how PMS could be any more painful than anything I've described above

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  33. Marie-France LesageNovember 24, 2012 at 9:25 PM

    Despite a lifetime of PMS and challenging-to-difficult periods, there's not enough money on earth to buy my womanhood from me.

    If you said, "OK, I'll give you 10 billion dollars to transition..." and had the means to back it up? The answer would still be a resounding, "HELL NO."

    I think of testosterone as a dangerous poison that takes human beings and turns them into these really selfish, narcissistic, cold-hearted, dangerous creatures: men.

    I closely observe my sisters' husbands, my nieces' husbands, my friends' husbands, my male co-workers, my teachers, my employers, my school mates -- backwards in time and up until the present moment -- and there is not ONE of these people whom I'd rather be -- or who I wish I was 'with' in a relationship (and sexually, I'm a bisexual.)

    I love my breasts, I love my hips, I love my clitoris, all my womanly parts. I love my empathy, my sensitivity to the people around me, my awareness, my innate drive to find common ground, to be generous and kind -- especially to those weaker, younger, more frail. I love my collaborative creativity -- how I can harmonize and share and teach without denigrating the student. I love that my ego is engaged to HELP others, not to CONTROL them.

    Testosterone tends to make human beings arrogant, self-important, domineering, bad listeners, selfish in bed, driven to crush opponents rather than work cooperatively. Why would anyone want MORE of it?

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  34. Ok... Take that from one of the "trans female/female who don't want to be female/wathever you want to call me" : THIS is called dysphoria. It isn't caused only by misogyny. I just don't care about make up, I actually think it is kinda cool wearing some from time to time. But there are days I can't live with my breasts. YOU are fine with yours, fine. I am not. I am not because it doesn't fit, it has nothing to do on my body, it isn't me. I have panic attacks BECAUSE of my breasts and I don't want to "remove" my breasts because of panic attacks. I have insomnia BECAUSE of all the transphobia and not because I'm transgender. I feel bad BECAUSE of all the shit people I never met say about me and who I am and NOT because of who I am.

    Also, just occured to me that you are kinda amazing. I mean putting that much time and effort and energy SIMPLY in hating people and making them feel even worse than they do and denying their right to be who they are, it is quite impressive. It's funny how you make me think of all the homophobes who walked in the streets of my country four years ago. I'm French. In 2013 went the debates on opening marriage to gay couples. It was the first time in France people went in the streets not to ask for rights but to prevent other people to have rights. They were attacking us, isulting us, degrading us, calling us "abnormal" and "abominations", saying that our love wasn't love because it wasn't the "norm" and you are doing the exact same thing with trans people.
    Because of it, homophobia raised in the whole country for two years : kids were kicked out, gay and lesbian and trans people were beat up, more than before. These homophobes, they put all their time, efforts, energy into this. Just like you do. And guess what ? They failed. Just like you will.

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