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Thursday, February 9, 2012

A Visual in Female Self Hatred


Make no bones about it, the foundation for every image shown IS misogyny, coupled with the Gender Straight Jacket and performance for the Male Gaze. These images are painful to look at, the pain of each female is so blatant. A warning, to those of you who love women when viewing. Each picture was found through a blue of tears and leaves me to wonder, can female pride exist under patriarchy?

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  1. Looking at those pictures, I can't help but weep.
    Female pride? I don't know. I find some pride to the degree I am able to silence the little misogynist in my head. Sometimes I have to will the pride into being and shout it out over the constant barrage of criticisms coming from that internal misogynist. But it doesn't take the sting of those compulsive criticisms of the self away. It just keeps me breathing and it's just an individual solution. If I could love my sister into pride in being female, I would.

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  2. The word "sister" in that last sentence should be "sisters," plural. I don't have an actual biological sister.

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  3. Gotta say, while I personally don't care about being female - I mean, I'm neither proud nor ashamed of it - I don't like the idea of permanent modifications because people are ashamed of something they have no reason to be ashamed of. If you have a cleft lip or cleft palate people would understand why you want it changed... but the idea of modifying one's clitoris when it's normal is kid of appalling. This is the kind of thing I don't want to judge...

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  4. Can female pride exist under patriarchy? Yes. Yes it can. Know yourself, Love yourself and stand your ground. Be concious of the insidious cues that women are groomed to consume that are supposed to keep us in "our place". Combat this misogyny by loving and accepting yourself unconditionally and don't buy in to the gender straight jacket. Keep your grace and self respect under the societal pressure to conform to stereotypical female roles. Find your passsion in life and work at it, whatever it may be. Work on your inner life, find something to believe in. Once you do this you will worry less and less about what you look like on the outside. I do believe Patriarchy is prevalant in this society, but I also believe women can live powerfully and be proud of their own accomplishments. It took a lot of struggle and hard work, but I can truly say I am proud to be a strong woman! I have my own mind and I will not be manipulated in believing that their is something wrong with me because I am an autonomous, determined woman.

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  5. "Be concious of the insidious cues that women are groomed to consume that are supposed to keep us in "our place"

    Absolutely. These images of suffering appear to us every day, uncensored and unchallenged. In true '1984' style they are rebranded as 'empowerment' and we're told, cheer up love... grooming is exactly the right word.

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  6. it is HARD, so hard, in our porn and woman hate saturated society, to find a way to love your womyn's body. after a childhood of sex abuse, two horrific marriages and 5 children, I have finally come to love my body. it has given life to so much! this site: http://theshapeofamother.com/ has been SUPER helpful to me in terms of finding ways to love this body that isn't exactly playboy-ready but IS still beautiful. i sure hope any of your readers are able to use these images to help themselves find pride in the amazing power of the female body :)

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  7. Oh Goddess. Enough, women, enough. You are beautiful the way you were made, fearsomely and wonderfully made. You need not change a thing. "Cosmetic" surgery is not for anyone, absent a profound injury. Stop. Enough. Enough.

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  8. There is a much bigger picture then what we see with our eye. I truly believe its form of genocide. Trying to wipe out a community of people that some do not believed they deserve to excite. By any means necessary.
    Passion

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  9. If you control what people think of themself you control the people.

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  10. Ceera - interesting point. Although I'd like to point out that standards for what makes a clitoris "normal" were created by male doctors. Most likely white male doctors. Also, people with cleft lips or palates frequently need medical attention because those things can cause long term problems. They aren't typically cosmetic surgeries that are left up to "wanting" to change.

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  11. Its hard for females to have female pride when the biggest critisism they hear is from other females. Constantly women are putting down each other. Many people I know that have gone through plastic surgery was because of other women putting them down.

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  12. "Its hard for females to have female pride when the biggest critisism they hear is from other females."

    Red herring here. Like blaming mothers for the FGM or foot-binding they do/used to impose on their daughters. They problem was the CULTURE (i.e. what men said), even if the delivery of the cultural message was passed onto the women, to make it look as if it was OUR FAULT.

    Individualistic 'politics' (i.e. women make remarks, therefore it's their fault), rather than looking at the deeper issues, what is it about our society that women behave in that way (i.e., the patriarchy).

    "that standards for what makes a clitoris "normal" were created by male doctors."

    All those school biology textbooks, where if it was mentioned AT ALL, it was always described as 'about the size of a pea'. Any more broad beans out there? Plus what sort of pea (or bean)............

    Hence WHY feminist groups used to have sessions where women would look at their own genitalia with a speculum, and see what they and their sisters actually looked like, rather than what biology books said they looked like, or what porn expected them to look like.

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  13. " "Its hard for females to have female pride when the biggest critisism they hear is from other females."

    Red herring here. Like blaming mothers for the FGM or foot-binding they do/used to impose on their daughters."

    It's hard to tell if Anon was placing women at the root of the problem. I read it to mean that body criticism from another female can pack more of a punch as its harder to brush off as ignorance of the female body.

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  14. " I read it to mean that body criticism from another female can pack more of a punch as its harder to brush off as ignorance of the female body."

    Only solution is looking properly at the whole thing, but that is hard because you have to accept that much of what we think we are isn't true, just what society has made of us, as women or men.

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