Dysphoria-Hatred and Uncomfortableness with the Female Body

Bombarded with millions of subliminal and overt messages before we even exit the womb, its not exactly news that females have issues with their/our bodies. Messages informing us we're too fat, too tall, too short, too pretty, too ugly, too small breasted, too saggy breasted, our pussy's are too tight or too loose or too smelly, we eat too much or eat too little, we're too hairy, we pass gas, our feet are too big, we're too "manly", or too brash, we're bitches, we're cunts, we're sluts, we're whores, our nose is too big, too small, too crooked, our teeth too yellow, too crooked, too buck, too gappy, our nails too dirty, too short, not painted or perfectly manicured, our hair too dirty, too oily, too shiny, our hips too wide, ouur skin too dark, or too pale...basically an infinite list of whats wrong with our bodies.

No female escapes this, no female doesnt have moments of body shame and insecurity they have to work through. Some have greater shame and a greater self hatred, one that leads to feelings of dysphoria. A feeling that over time if not dealt with creates a feeling of disconnect, and body betrayal. A shame so deep it can limit and halt sexual pleasure and sexual intimacy with a loving partner.

If you have suffered some form of dysphoria, what helped you most to overcome it?

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The Trans Body-Pathological Performitivity

One of the the many "trans-academic" lists I'm on posted this recently:

 

Even trans academics admit and as indicated here are now teaching that trans individuals are "performing" there chosen sex rather than actually be BORN trans. Actually according to trans academics"performing" trans(male/female) is the same as those who "perform" animality, species modification,(and) racialization. Meaning there is no difference between a person who uses drugs and cosmetic surgeries to perform being a white person to that of being black, a human to that of being a lion or a female to that of being a man. It is ALL a PERFORMANCE! The body then is used as a stage to exorcise mental illnesses and utilizes the male medical machine for props in order to bring about some realness to the character being performed.

If the smartest of the smart, trans "intellectuals" admit that their idea of themselves as "man" or "woman" (or beast) is nothing more than a stage act, what does this mentally diseased performance have to do with gay and lesbian rights, gay and lesbian spaces or gay and lesbian lives?? Lives which do NOT require mutilative props or mind and body altering drugs to half approximate who and what we are? The trans community's attachment to the gay and lesbian community along with the trans performative life reinforces to the general public that gay and lesbian too are nothing more than performances, nothing more than sick choices. Is it any wonder we're a second decade into the 21st century and most states still do not support gays and lesbians marrying? Yet interestingly trans performers legally performing their chosen sex can marry their same sex partner. Hmmm.....

As a lesbian, what stride, what legal hurdles has the trans community helped us to achieve??

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Trans Trending-Who is Transitioning

 

Like ewes to the slaughter...

Stop the Self Hatred

End Misogyny!

Our female youths need female empowerment! That begins with every woman reading this, that begins with YOU!

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The Male Medical Machine and the REconstructions of the Female Body

Labiaplasty-Another female mutilative "procedure" encouraged by men, performed by the male medical machine that we can add to the long list of "fixing" whats "wrong" with the female body. The misogyny and sexism aimed at the females body by the male medical machine is astonishing, and with the unnecessary mutilative surgeries such as "top surgery" and now "labiaplasty" which are prime examples of the open frontiers patriarchy views as his male privileged right to level or build upon. Constructions going so far back we cannot pinpoint exactly where they began, constructions that if we do not put our "bound" foot down will clearly continue.

Are these recent mutilative "procedures; like the hyper sexualization of the female body right down to toddlers and queer theory's emphatic devotion to the gender straight jacket part and parcel of the backlash against feminism? We would have to be living with our heads buried in the sand not to answer with a resounding YES!

What do you feel are some of the unnecessary physical and mental "procedures" that females have endured because we have been convinced we need "fixing"?

Dirt's Introduction to Great Women

Today's great woman is Helene Cixous, a notable french feminist writer and philosopher. One of her most notable feminist writings is The Laugh of the Medusa, within which Cixous challenges women to challenge patriarchal language by getting in touch with our female bodies and writing ourselves anew.

Some passages from Laugh...

"She must write her self, because this is the invention of a new insurgent writing which, when the moment of her liberation has come, will allow her to carry out the indispensable ruptures and transformations in her history, first at two levels that cannot be separated.

a) Individually. By writing her self, woman will return to the body which has been more than confiscated from her, which has been turned into the uncanny stranger on display – the ailing or dead figure, which so often turns out to be the nasty companion, the cause and location of inhibitions. Censor the body and you censor breath and speech at the same time.
Write your self. Your body must be heard. Only then will the immense resources of the unconscious spring forth. Our naphtha will spread, throughout the world, without dollars – black or gold – nonassessed values that will change the rules of the old game.

To write. An act which will not only “realize” the decensored relation of woman to her sexuality, to her womanly being, giving her access to her native strength; it will give her back her goods, her pleasures, her organs, her immense bodily territories which have been kept under seal; it will tear her away from the superegoized structure in which she has always occupied the place reserved for the guilty (guilty of everything, guilty at every turn: for having desires, for not having any; for being frigid, for being “too hot”; for not being both at once; for being too motherly and not enough; for having children and for not having any; for nursing and for not nursing ...) – tear her away by means of this research, this job of analysis and illumination, this emancipation of the marvelous text of her self that she must urgently learn to speak. A woman without a body, dumb, blind, can’t possibly be a good fighter. She is reduced to being the servant of the militant male, his shadow. We must kill the false woman who is preventing the live one from breathing. Inscribe the breath of the whole woman.

b) An act that will also be marked by woman’s seizing the occasion to speak, hence her shattering entry into history, which has always been based on her suppression. To write and thus to forge for herself the antilogos weapon. To become at will the taker and initiator, for her own right, in every symbolic system, in every political process.

It is time for women to start scoring their feats in written and oral language.
Every woman has known the torment of getting up to speak. Her heart racing, at times entirely lost for words, ground and language slipping away – that’s how daring a feat, how great a transgression it is for a woman to speak – even just open her mouth – in public. A double distress, for even if she transgresses, her words fall almost always upon the deaf male ear, which hears in language only that which speaks in the masculine.

It is by writing, from and toward women, and by taking up the challenge of speech which has been governed by the phallus, that women will confirm women in a place other than that which is reserved in and by the symbolic, that is, in a place other than silence. Women should break out of the snare of silence. They shouldn’t be conned into accepting a domain which is the margin or the harem.

Listen to a woman speak at a public gathering (if she hasn’t painfully lost her wind). She doesn’t “speak,” she throws her trembling body forward; she lets go of herself, she flies; all of her passes into her voice, and it’s with her body that she vitally supports the “logic” of her speech. Her flesh speaks true. She lays herself bare. In fact, she physically materializes what she’s thinking; she signifies it with her body. In a certain way she inscribes what she’s saying, because she doesn’t deny her drives the intractable and impassioned part they have in speaking. Her speech, even when “theoretical” or political, is never simple or linear or “objectified,” generalized: she draws her story into history".

The full text of this piece is in the link provided above. Hope you enjoy and think about the deep rift male language, which is the language we all used, has separated women, not only from other women, but from our own bodies. It is never too late to heal/seal the gulf lying between us and our body, making us whole again.


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Workout/Dieting Questions Post

Please address all your exercise and dieting questions here, that way other posts can remain on topic. I will do my best to answer all questions. And if there are particulars you want to see in future workout posts, please leave your suggestions here.

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Manhood, when Anorexia fails Females

Since Twiggy first hit the run way and the cover of ladies magazines everywhere, anorexia has sky rocketed! According to wiki, Twiggy's "career quickly took off.^[19] She was 5'6" tall (short for a model), weighed a mere 6½ stone (41 kg, 91 lbs) and had a thin, boyish 31-22-32 figure". By today's standards Twiggy would be a cow as her weight wouldn't dangerously put her in close proximity with death's door like today's top models. But what happens when today's anorexic models, aren't thin enough?

When models like the late Isabelle Caro are asked to lose 10 pounds? Why then you simply get a MAN to do the less than adequate job female models arent able to perform due to their biology. Enter Andrej Pejic, a biological male whose male biology (tall, lean muscled, naturally low body fat, no pesky periods to maintain body fat for and tiny male hips) is being utilized to model designer female clothes that female models cant starve themselves into.

What kind of message is this sending to females, particularly young females easily influence by high and pop culture? That if they trade in their womanhood for manhood they too can be superior to the inferior female creature? Is it a mere coincidence that anorexia and other eating disorders run rampant throughout ftM communities everywhere?

If we look at the big picture confronting us, this is yet another kick in the face of all women, of all races, everywhere.

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Today's Dirt Workout Tips are for the Biceps

Whether you are looking to tone up your upper arm or build a nice set of guns (yes-ladies can build muscle and no you do not need steroids or T to do it), here are some choice bicep exercises to aid you in your upper arm needs.

Close-grip-ez-bar-curl-For toning I suggest 3 sets of 12-15 reps with a mild weight, for building I suggest 4-6 sets at 6-8 reps with a weight that taxes each set.
Barbell Burl-For toning I suggest 3 sets of 12-15 reps with a mild weight, for building I suggest 4-6 sets at 6-8 reps with a weight that taxes each set.

Dumbbell Bicep Curls-For toning I suggest 3 sets of 12-15 reps with a mild weight, for building I suggest 4-6 sets at 6-8 reps with a weight that taxes each set. Alternative dumbbell bicep curls may also be used.

Preacher curls-For toning I suggest 3 sets of 12-15 reps with a mild weight, for building I suggest 4-6 sets at 6-8 reps with a weight that taxes each set. These can also be performed using one arm and a dumbbell.

Concentration curls-For toning I suggest 3 sets of 12-15 reps with a mild weight, for building I suggest 4-6 sets at 6-8 reps with a weight that taxes each set. This exercise is a great exercise to round off your bicep work out with.

Some bicep stretching exercises.

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