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Monday, December 12, 2011

When Behavior Determines Sex, We need to Retrink our Perception of Behavior

A regular reader ran across this link on her FB friend's page and fearing liberal/queer attacks were she to respond there, she instead chose to comment here in a safe space. This is what she had to say about the article linked:

So its not socially acceptable for a boy to wear a dress but is becoming acceptable to suppress his natural hormones and have encourage surgery at 18 young years to fit into what our culture says is sexual/gender "appropriate"? And for everyone to pretend that he is a girl? He's male. Some boys are like this. Really. Some boys like Barbie and dress up and high heels. How about the culture deal with THAT? Cutting off his penis or even just pretending he's a girl will not change his sex. It does enforce strict gender roles. And getting him to buy into this all is brilliantly sad! Because it's not acceptable to like Barbie and fancy dresses as a boy we will all encourage him to become a girl? That's the progressive, brilliant choice? There is no such thing as being born in the wrong body. I swear. We are born into the bodies we are born into, and it's our job to deal with it, individually and as a culture. We are in fact born into a gender binary society! There is something wrong with our culture! What has happened to us all? Are we asleep? I do feel for this kid and his family family but cant help but protest the gender straight jacket we all getting behind. (Dirt, I've adopted the gender straight-jacket phrase!)

I was a kid that would have been called trans if I was growing up now -- in fact as a young adult I've been encouraged to transition many times in my life... I'm still wearing "boys" clothes, underwear. Never once payed with a Barbie. I wanted to be a boy. Wanted a penis, wanted to fuck girls, wanted to play boy sports... I've been wearing boys clothes almost exclusively my whole life... Never a Barbie or a baby doll have I played with. Its been a struggle esp in the last 15 years of trans glorification to resist the temptation for an easy fix. It seems like a pill (shot) you can take and start over from a different form factor. And wallah! everything is better.

Raising a little girl -- even in progressive San Francisco bay area -- watching gender being fed to her in so many subtle and not so subtle ways ... has made the gender binary system even clearer to me. (Although so many parents do not hardly see it) And honestly, she loves being a girly girl but its so obvious that it is enforced and rewarded... There is so little choice for GENDER expression in our culture. It's kind of a nightmare!

It's not about me, or my daughter, any individual though. It's about a progressive movement that is acting *super conservative* about gender. I've been upset about this for at least 15 years and its only getting worse and mainstream. There was not one thing in that article that was revolutionary about gender. It is so disturbing that so many kids are just trying to fit into whats acceptable to the culture in terms of gender. People are willing to hate their bodies and themselves in order to fit into society. As adults in this society, we must fight for all of our precious bodies and minds. We must learn to love our bodies. We must be clear where the problem lies.

It's so PC wrong to be saying all this but I can't just sit here and watch smart people encourage or applaud this narrow mindedness and call it revolutionary.

All hail gender transgression! Barbie's for boys! Princess dresses for boys! Freedom for girls.

We are not born in the wrong body, we are born in the wrong society! The brave dare to change their world, not themselves.

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18 comments:

  1. Forbid a child from something and they will either express an unusual fascination for it or feign disinterest in it to gain approval.

    No superstitious, mystical, 'gender' explanation needed!

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  2. Etch - ID as male - explained why I comment on previous post underneath this one - I <3 cats -


    What toys you play with and what clothes you wear doesn't make you a boy or girl.
    I wasn't born in the wrong body, I was born into this body and I want to change it so I like it more. It's my body, might as well do what I like with it.
    I prefer male pronouns and I like being male just like Tgirls like it the opposite way. I'm happier now than I was. Really what is most important when it comes to transitioning is what makes you happiest.

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  3. odd that some 'transpeople' like 'the etch' seem to refuse to question why they prefer being percieved as the opposite gender, almost as though such self-questioning is anti-transsexual, when these issues i would think should be worked out in the mandatory psychotherapy that i thought was required before gender reassignment... of course i realize most of the chosen therapists are chosen because they get the patient on the fast track to conformity without getting deep into difficult topics

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  4. I find it odd like arrogant people like the above anon 2:25 believes that they are owed any type of answer concerning any individual's life other than their own. As if they are some sort of god...

    That is what scares me. That you have truly warped your mind so to believe that you are deserving of any answer to validate the experience of another breathing human being. You are not deserving. You are not entitled.

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  5. Nice post but its just the tip of the iceberg. The really horrible thing is what conservative genderists and doctors do to the gender non conforming children.

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  6. @ the Etch, does your preference for male pronouns stem from your preference for a male appearing body (or vice versa) or are these two preferences totally independent of each other?

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  7. i do not think i am 'owed' anything
    but you certainly prove my point that any questioning is prohibited
    i think you're the same extremely victimized poster who has frustrated me before with all the misdirected 'privelege and entitlement' stuff- the one who thinks only transsexuals are allowed to even think let alone write about trans issues (and white people are forbidden from discussing non-whites)....
    -a breathing human being who finds that sort of mentality opressive and anti-intellectual (like most transist thought)

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  8. "We are not born in the wrong body, we are born in the wrong society! The brave dare to change their world, not themselves."

    so true. I wish I had the guts to say this out loud

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  9. Yeah, it doesn't appear as a coincidence to me anymore that the first (since the seventies), and still the *only* full-fledged Dutch "genderdysphoria-treatment-team", is also on the *only* Dutch (orthodox-)protestant university (other 17 are atheist/loosely catholic). It's also the *only* Dutch uni that doesn't provide "gender studies" - apparently changing your views is worser to God than deforming your body.

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  10. "What toys you play with and what clothes you wear doesn't make you a boy or girl. "

    SHAME then that newspaper accounts etc ALL use behaviours and dress as an indicator of how much a 'proper' girl some young male actually is. Over and over, long hair and princess dresses taken as a really reliable indication of how MUCH a girl someone is.......

    "I find it odd like arrogant people like the above anon 2:25 believes that they are owed any type of answer concerning any individual's life other than their own."

    This is SUPPOSED to be a discussion, if people don't want to ANSWER questions asked politely, fair enough. but as others have said -- this constant, you don't OWE them ANY explanation is just a blatant attempt to say, yet again -- we ain't gonna discuss it with you, you don't even have the right to ASK the question.............

    "That you have truly warped your mind so to believe that you are deserving of any answer to validate the experience of another breathing human being."

    And more bilge. We are all human beings, trying to understand ourselves and others in this society -- except the trans mafia doesn't want us to, it seems, we are just supposed to accept blindly whatever they have to say about gender, no matter how it effects the rest of us, or what we think about the matter.

    IF you saying that gender is innate and trumps biological sex, then that bloody well DOES effect the rest of us, trans or not, and we have a right to talk about it, whether or not the trans mafia wants to join in...........

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  11. I don't think the " trans mafia" is trying to stop anyone from understanding anything. Honestly I think trans people are just tired of trying to explain theirselves to people who pretend like they actually care to know. Probably tired of the disrespectful people who ask the questions. People are about as willing to answer things based on the amount of respect the question was asked. I personally would never disrespectfully ask anyone anything that has to do with their life. Especially if their life causes me no harm.

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  12. Prefer to be precieved as the opposite gender than born because that is what makes us more comfortable. We have to do what makes us happy. We are not living for anyone but ourselves.

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  13. I agree with anon regarding not bothering with those or issues that have nothing to do with us. The Gender Straight Jacket, Misogyny, Homophobia, the Male Medical Machine, Feminism, Anti-Feminism, Queer Theory, Post Modernism to name a few of the properties of the trans disorder and its unsuccessful brutalizing "treatment" do affect me as a female, a lesbian, a Butch and a basic human being.

    dirt

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  14. "Prefer to be precieved as the opposite gender than born because that is what makes us more comfortable."

    Except I disagree with gender full-stop, so obviously puts us in opposition.

    Gender makes me very 'uncomfortable', so whose comfort comes first?

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  15. BD,

    The trans sect doesnt truly believe in "gender" either or they would spend so much time and money trying to change their SEX. If they truly believed their "gender" were male they would simply live as a different kind of male, proudly. Rather than ashamedly struggle to make their body a sad approximation of an actual male which requires constant legitimization.

    dirt

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  16. "sad approximation of an actual male which requires constant legitimization. "

    Bitter butch lesbian jealousy at its finest.

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  17. "Bitter butch lesbian jealousy at its finest."

    Laugh? I nearly wet meself!

    JEALOUS of such surgical and hormonal mutilation? Dream on, O deluded one.

    Yes Dirt, the NEED for alignment between the supposed brain sex/gender and the sex of the body/gender (fuck knows, gender and sex become continually twisted and intertwined and finally almost meaningless in trans land!) is the elephant in the room.

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