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Thursday, July 21, 2011

Transition-The Belief that Biology IS Destiny!

Like so many other contradictory aspects of transition, those in the never ending state of transition constantly claim that "biology isnt destiny" while proving every day of their trans lives that they in fact really believe that it is. Whenever one does something as the perceived sex that they didnt do as their actual sex, they put into practice the misogynistic notion that "biology is destiny".  

If you change your manner of dress after transition, you believed biology is destiny.

If you seek out employment as the perceived sex that you didnt as your actual sex, you believe biology is destiny.

If you use a restroom as your perceived sex that you didnt as your actual sex, you believe biology is destiny.

If you go topless as the perceived sex and you didnt as your actual sex, you believe that biology is destiny.

If you receive straight male privileges that you didnt as your actual sex, you believe that biology is destiny.

If you expect entryway into certain spaces AFTER transition that you didnt expect before, you believe that biology is destiny.

If you act differently as the perceived sex that you didnt as your actual sex, you believe that biology is destiny.

If you were afraid of doing something as your actual sex that you arent as your perceived sex, you believe that biology is destiny.

If you socialize more with one sex as your perceived sex that you didnt as your actual sex, you believe that biology is destiny.

If you expect to be treated differently in any way as the perceived sex that you didnt as the actual sex, you believe that biology is destiny.

Do not be fooled by double speak, transition reinforces what ISNT possible for each sex, rather than working to expand what is possible for the gender that we are. 

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  1. yeah, i posted about this a while back when i first discovered this blog:
    i remember an episode of 'this american life' in which one of the segments was about 'transmen' (i'm sure you can find it) - they were talking about having to relearn behaviors in order to be more like men - eye contact with women being one example, & i said to my friend hey! i thought tbey already WERE men, just trapped in women's bodies, in which case they'd have been exhibiting that 'male behavior' the whole time, no? seemed a very clear ever-present contradiction to often-stated beliefs.

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  2. this whole post is a contradiction to what you've been saying, but that's nothing new.

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  3. C, please explain?

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  4. well they're not really changing their biology are they? just their chemisty and appearance. it's only extremist role-playing.

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  5. why so so so so so many youtubers or 'fuck yeah ftm-ers' then posting about how to pass and how to behave? (probably even more so with the mtf's)

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  6. Because they just want to be seen as male. It's more about looking and sounding male (with the depth of your voice) then it is about "acting male".

    It's like when your artistic, but no one sees you as an artist. It's frustrating. You have to show them.

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  7. yes for 99% it's all about how one is perceived by others-
    to me that is narcissistic nonsense, and all about conformity.
    (i was just reading your blog, 'Extrospection' and want to stress that i'm by no means a 'radfem.'- just totally against outdated notions of male and female that make people like you unhappy with their natural bodies/selves)

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  8. I agree with some of your posts but I don't think this one is very logical.

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  9. "I'm officially done with this train-wreck mental midget-ran blog."

    Then LEAVE crybaby.


    Dirt I agree with you. People who think Biology is destiny are just deluded.

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  10. "People gain knowledge"

    So then when will you finally learn that you can't force your identity upon others?

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  11. "So then when will you finally learn that you can't force your identity upon others?"

    Then why force straight people to accept that you are a dyke or gay??? It get's shoved down our throat all the damn time!

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  12. "Then why force straight people to accept that you are a dyke or gay??? It get's shoved down our throat all the damn time!"

    We were born lesbian. It would be ridiculous to treat a "furry" as though they were a real squirrel.

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  13. Brilliant!

    Because yes, in trans world a woman must present as feminine, and femininity represents subordination and masochism. She enjoys the trappings of femininity (long hair etc).
    But a man is free NOT to perform femininity

    People who reject the trans ideology believe the opposite. We believe that born women can present as non-feminine, and that born men can present as feminine or masochistic or whatever they like. After all, who cares anyway what people wear? Why does wearing this or that MAKE YOU A MEMBER OF THE OPPOSITE SEX.

    Gah! Teh Stupidity of it all is starting to get to me.

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  14. "We were born lesbian. It would be ridiculous to treat a "furry" as though they were a real squirrel."

    A while back on some topic there were people on here who said that being a lesbian was their choice.

    Being a human being is totally different than being an animal by far. Bad comparison!

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  15. What I find ironic is all the feminists who fight so hard for the freedom to abort a fetus - when that is removing a healthy BODY from your own... and carried risks to the mother as well... but they want the right to do with their body as they please. Yet, at the same time, telling me I shouldn't have the right to do what I please with my own. Funny.

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  16. Hah, great point Extrospection.

    I defy any one of these lesbian rad"feminist" women to claim that they are in ANY way pro-choice.

    They are not. They've proven it completely.

    They only want "certain people (women/people that they don't live to 'critique'" to have the right to do as they please with their own bodies.

    Folly and childishness. Hypocrisy, manipulation, bullying, and smoke and mirrors. That is how these people think.

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  17. No one is telling you that you don't have the right to do what you want.

    We're simply displaying the fact that you don't think about WHY you're doing it. WHY do you feel that being a man is better than being a woman? Is it simply because society see men as superior to women? Are you trying to indulge in the male privilege perks that you were not born with? Transitioning is so much easier than expanding what is possible for a woman.

    You'd rather be looked in the eye as a man than looked down upon as a woman.

    Most wouldn't admit to such reasons because it would reveal their own reasoning and own self hating misogyny.

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  18. a bad argument

    i never make people address me as a lesbian
    i don't care if everybody or nobody knows that i like girls

    far different from pretending you're a man, trying so hard to redirect nature with outside forces

    my gayness requires no work no doctors no meds no deception

    how is this belief childish?
    if anything the trans belief is built on a very immature understanding of gender

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  19. Being trans has NOTHING to do with thinking "being a man is better than being a woman", Scribe.

    This is why it is common knowledge that none of you need to be speaking on this. Because you have not the slightest notion of what you're talking about. Why is this? Because you are not transsexual.

    Your 'critique' is based on bitter misconception. Your blinded by an attempt at looking out for feminism but in reality it is not the case.

    Call the kettle black, Scribe, and stop defending this ignorance. You are always trying to come to its rescue and dull the blade of hatred that Dirt has CLEARLY sharpened for the pure purpose of "dismantling" the lives of people she has yet to meet, speak with, or attempt to understand.

    You truly know nothing. You know absolutely nothing. And that is okay. Be okay with that! Just do not take your lack of knowledge and empathy and use it as a tool to smear the intent of the movement of feminism.

    You know nothing about me, Scribe. Neither does Dirt and her followers. Please stop this fraudulent belief that you do.

    Stop BELIEVING you understand and know better.
    Start TRYING to understand and learn something.

    ASK QUESTIONS. Instead of ignorantly assuming. TREAT OTHERS THE WAY YOU WOULD LIKE TO BE TREATED.

    Come on...they teach this in pre school. This is just basic human etiquette.

    And most importantly: please address what Extrospection said at 12:20pm. That is black and white clear cut hypocrisy and you know it.

    -L

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  20. The religious right tries to compare a ball of cells to a human baby, and now the trans crowd tries to compare removal of a ball of cells to removal of healthy female organs.

    Abortion is SAFER than pregnancy, abortion is SAFER than birth, and for gawds sake, the abortion procedure doesn't remove the entire uterus in some deluded idea that if you don't want THIS baby, then you must really be a man, and let's take out the whole shebang................

    Yeah, self-determination over your own body sounds fine, but don't forget that it isn't SELF surgery is it? That surgeons are involved, and it's for the safety of us all that surgery isn't a capitalist free-for-all, whatever you want on demand.

    Hippocratic oath anyone?

    Even if it were that, that still doesn't stop someone else from commenting on the fact that they think you may have made a slightly bad decision, that perhaps you should think a little more.

    Letting people do what they want with their bodies is one thing, but expecting everyine else (including the surgeon) to agree with you that it is the BEST thing to do, and that they have no right to SAY otherwise -- who is trying to silence who here?

    Who's being childish? I KNOW what I WANT and I want it NOW, and you're being MEAN if anyone dares suggest that it might not be the best thing to do.................

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  21. <>

    Which number is this one on the list?

    <> Uh, yeah, I'd expect some mature people around me to pull me up when they think I'm making a daft choice and vice versa. I expect others to acknowledge my right to speak, and my right to disagree and challenge.

    Just shouting -- you're ignorant, shut up! when anyone dares to disagree -- rather childish again...........

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  22. "This is why it is common knowledge that none of you need to be speaking on this. Because you have not the slightest notion of what you're talking about. Why is this? Because you are not transsexual. "

    The quote got dropped. See previous.

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  23. transition compared to abortion?
    that makes no sense at all
    is the woman having an abortion (which is by nature a tragic event- even she would agree) claiming to be some kind of creature unable to bear children afterwards?
    and yet again the assertion that non-transsexuals are not allowed to address the issue... in that case transsexuals are only allowed to discuss/think about their own kind

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  24. High school gossiper much, R?

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  25. no, i was not a gossip in high school, nor am i now
    why would you say that?
    out of valid pro-trans arguments already?
    (not that i've ever heard any)

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  26. Babies are aborted beyond the "ball of cells" stage. And for the record, I am pro choice, however, it is still a chosen medical procedure that requires a physician or surgeon, involves medication and/or surgery - it still ends a viable life, and puts the mother in danger AND has been shown to affect future pregnancies in rare cases. But it's YOUR choice and I would support your right to choose. Elected abortion is not a natural procedure - it can and DOES cause harm in some cases, even psychologically.
    My point is still - why should I have to answer to you or anyone else on what I choose to do with my body any more than you should have to answer to me or explain yourself should you choose to do something unnatural to YOUR body by choice? Of course I am not saying abortion is the SAME as transition. I am saying both involve medical intervention, both involve choice, both involve potentially harmful, unnatural procedures, and both have deeply personal reasons and are the choice of the person involved. You want the right to one while wanting to deny the right to the other. Hypocrisy at it's finest.

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  27. You don't have to answer to anybody, Extrospection
    You are making the choice to come here and defend your behaviors
    And we don't have to accept the falsehood that you are a man as truth, just because you sort of look or sound like one through medical intervention.

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  28. Scribe said: "No one is telling you that you don't have the right to do what you want."

    ACTUALLY... I've seen more than one person here, the blog author included, state that these medical procedures/medications should not be allowed - therefore, yes, you are basically telling me I shouldn't have the right...

    Also from Scribe: "We're simply displaying the fact that you don't think about WHY you're doing it."

    And you KNOW me well enough to know what I think... hmm. Interesting. Psychic much? I spent two years in therapy and countless years of soul searching to come to the determination that the life I am living now is what is right for ME.

    WHY do you feel that being a man is better than being a woman? Is it simply because society see men as superior to women?

    I don't feel that being a man is better than being a woman. I have many strong, powerful women in my life, including two feminist daughters who I am very proud of. That is where you're wrong, this isn't about men being better than women. I know you radfems would like to believe that. It's about my body being my own, and my right to have it look how I want it to.

    Are you trying to indulge in the male privilege perks that you were not born with? Transitioning is so much easier than expanding what is possible for a woman.

    I do not indulge in male privilege - I actually do everything I can to expose it for what it is - especially when I speak at universities. Male privilege certainly exists but not all men - bio or otherwise - enjoy it and/or seek it out. And easy? That's a joke - transition isn't easy, it would have been much easier to cave in to all the lesbian man haters and hide who I really was. I'd still fit in with the community and not be treated by some as an outcast. Being true to yourself regardless of how you'll be treated is much more difficult than just blending in and going with the flow.

    You'd rather be looked in the eye as a man than looked down upon as a woman.

    I *NEVER* felt looked down upon prior to transition. I came from a wonderful matriarchal household, and can't recall one time in my life when I felt like anyone was looking down on me as a person - until this wave of radfem trans bashers anyway. And I don't get into the whole macho, looked in the eye as a man thing. I've had women co-workers talk about how much more "manly" their husbands were because I don't hunt or fish, go out with the boys, talk shit about my wife, etc. I cook, clean, scrapbook and enjoy lunch out and shopping with my wife and daughters.

    Most wouldn't admit to such reasons because it would reveal their own reasoning and own self hating misogyny.

    This just goes to show how little you actually KNOW. You assume a lot - and you project a lot, but you know so little about transition - and NOTHING about me. I don't hate myself at all - never hated myself. I am living a life I chose and worked hard to achieve and I relish in it. I love my life and wouldn't change a minute of it.

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  29. Transition is like aborting one's female self? Yes I see what you mean Extrospection.

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  30. L,

    You off into this self righteous rant of how we "don't know anything" without really countering anything I've said cohesively.

    "Being trans has NOTHING to do with thinking "being a man is better than being a woman", Scribe."

    How is it not, L? Honestly, I'm looking for that answer. I know if I choose something over the other, it is because I feel what I've chosen is better. What are YOU saying?

    I used to be deeply passionate about queer culture and an all inclusive environment, especially when I first came out. However, I have always asked questions about EVERYTHING, and all the answers I have ever received from the queer culture always pointed to: support, don't question. If I questioned anything at all, I was automatically deemed "transphobic" and shamed.

    Why didn't I date the MtF who asked me out? She and I were the only lesbians in our particular group, so obviously I'm transphobic if I refused to date her. The same goes for any transman who asked me out before.

    I was deemed transphobic by both because supposedly my preference depended on what was between the legs and not the ears. Is that to say that men and women are identical mentally and behaviorally? But I digress.

    I have constantly seen the hypocrisies and injustice in the queer culture when concerning the trans movement and women in general. People are blindly supporting something they think they should without seeing the cultural consequences.

    I had been suffering with my guilt of thinking "something's not right here" before I met Dirt. Why did I feel guilty? Because it's almost a queer sin to have an opinion that doesn't jive with what's popular.

    Trans people are constantly ranting about being oppressed and discriminated against, but that really isn't the case within the queer community. If anything, trans people are the "cool kids" that everyone wants to be or be with. Thus come the trans trending and trans fetishizing. Who suffers because of this?

    Women. Women are expected to be the main supporter of anything trans. We give up our spaces to include transwomen we feel unfamiliar with and the transmen who are still staying in their comfort zone (though still saying something is wrong with being a woman).

    Like with all of human history, we're expected to be nurturers of trans people in their new journey. Nurturers, not a priority. It's gotten to the point where we can't even ask for a space of our own without being called something hateful. We can't even have a fucking t-shit (http://www.bilerico.com/2011/07/anti-trans_company_producing_pflag_merchandise.php) to show our pride without being punished.

    You're right L, I don't know and neither does Dirt, just like you don't know me or Dirt. If you did, you'd know Dirt doesn't hate anyone. Yes, there are trans-haters who lurk here in the comments, but Dirt isn't one of them.

    You say that I don't know anything. Because I'm not trans, I can't possible know what it's like to be you. But that's just it, you're just talking about you and how everything we say affects YOU.

    I say you don't see what I see. I'm not trans, so I'm looking in a different angle. I see the consequences that you don't. That's not black and white; it's a whole other picture entirely.

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  31. "why should I have to answer to you or anyone else on what I choose to do with my body "

    Because (well I hope not!) you can't do it on your own. Society sees fit to restrict access to certain substances, and surgery requires a surgeon, nurses etc, who should have some ethical standards they operate under. And the question of medical ethics is something that society as a whole should have an interest in.

    As regards the rest -- welcome to society! Other members of society are perfectly free to discuss the various choices that various people make, and are also perfectly free to state that they DISAGREE with some and why they disagree. And to siit around on blogs going on at great length about why they disagree.

    What's so new about that? You make your choices, how does other people discussing and disagreeing with your choice prevent that?

    Which makes it all sound rather clinical -- but the reason for me is rather personal. I have a friend who seems to have decided that she wants to transition. I think she is making a mistake, and i'm trying to understand why I think that, and what is behind her decision that it is what she wants. Do you always agree with everything your friends say they want to do or are going to do? Especially when it is something as serious and irreversible as major surgery. I know she is unhappy, but I think she has misunderstood the reasons why she is unhappy, and misunderstood the possible choices she has.

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  32. ACTUALLY... I've seen more than one person here, the blog author included, state that these medical procedures/medications should not be allowed - therefore, yes, you are basically telling me I shouldn't have the right...

    I can't respond to this cohesively without a reference.

    And you KNOW me well enough to know what I think... hmm. Interesting. Psychic much? I spent two years in therapy and countless years of soul searching to come to the determination that the life I am living now is what is right for ME.

    Again, as I referenced in my previous comment, it's all about YOU. Do you really think there are no transmen who think this way?

    I don't feel that being a man is better than being a woman. I have many strong, powerful women in my life, including two feminist daughters who I am very proud of. That is where you're wrong, this isn't about men being better than women. I know you radfems would like to believe that. It's about my body being my own, and my right to have it look how I want it to.

    And your female body/female role wasn't good enough? Can you explain in great detail WHY it wasn't good enough?

    I do not indulge in male privilege - I actually do everything I can to expose it for what it is - especially when I speak at universities. Male privilege certainly exists but not all men - bio or otherwise - enjoy it and/or seek it out. And easy? That's a joke - transition isn't easy, it would have been much easier to cave in to all the lesbian man haters and hide who I really was. I'd still fit in with the community and not be treated by some as an outcast. Being true to yourself regardless of how you'll be treated is much more difficult than just blending in and going with the flow.

    How are you being true to yourself by going through extensive changes from what you really are? If you feel "masculine" in a woman's body, you're actually doing everything you possibly can to blend in with society by transitioning to a male instead of being a "masculine" woman.

    I *NEVER* felt looked down upon prior to transition. I came from a wonderful matriarchal household, and can't recall one time in my life when I felt like anyone was looking down on me as a person - until this wave of radfem trans bashers anyway. And I don't get into the whole macho, looked in the eye as a man thing. I've had women co-workers talk about how much more "manly" their husbands were because I don't hunt or fish, go out with the boys, talk shit about my wife, etc. I cook, clean, scrapbook and enjoy lunch out and shopping with my wife and daughters.

    This just goes to show how little you actually KNOW. You assume a lot - and you project a lot, but you know so little about transition - and NOTHING about me. I don't hate myself at all - never hated myself. I am living a life I chose and worked hard to achieve and I relish in it. I love my life and wouldn't change a minute of it.


    Again, it's all about you. There couldn't POSSIBLY be a transman in the world who didn't feel inferior as a woman, right?

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  33. BD: No, I don't always agree with what my friends choose to do - the difference between you and I though, is I realize none of us have an all knowing, the difference is, I don't judge my friend for their choices, nor do I see fit to tell them what is right for them or belittle them for their decisions.

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  34. Scribe - no it isn't all about me and I'm sure there are people who have transitioned because they felt inferior before. I can't speak for them though - I can only speak for myself in trying to break down some of the prejudice.
    And of course you weren't transphobic for not wanting to date a transperson - I am not attracted to men, if I were single and one asked me out I would say no first and foremost because he's male - I don't hate men. If someone into BDSM asked me out, I'd say no first and foremost because they were into BDSM. I have no issues with the fact that they're into it, but it isn't for me.

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  35. It's obvious that all these people seething over trans people are the ones with some serious issues. I suggest you look inside yourselves and figure out what it is, that causes you to judge other people and belittle people you don't even know in an effort to be RIGHT.

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  36. First, Ex, thank you for saying that that I wasn't transphobic in that scenario. That did mean a lot.

    But, can you please stop playing the victim card and actually answer what I've asked you? It feels like you're being coy, like as though you don't have an answer. But I know better. Saying that "we" are the ones with issues couldn't possibly be a smoke screen, could it?

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  37. * I was born a female
    * I had severe issues with being born female
    * But I don't hate females or other women.
    * I just could never in my life live as one.
    * I'd rather live my life as male.
    * No, I don't hate myself!
    * I just hated my female body!
    * No, I'm not my body.
    * But I feel more comfortable changing it.
    * But again women are cool with me.

    We've all heard these statements. Some of us have made these statements. Some of us have not heard or made these statements. But they are out there. Think about it. Change female/women to a particular race or religion. Then you will see that there is an error in some of this logic. I don't mean to post this to put people down because I don't mock people's pain. I find GID to be serious. I find the treatment one-sided. But I think some of the logic has gone down the shitter.

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  38. "These people constantly make hurtful comments and childishly badger anyone who is either trans or a trans ally."

    Notorious bully? constantly? I've only been here a couple of days and made a few posts!

    Hurtful comments? Grow up! If all us women had to put up with was a few hurtful comments, I'd think I was having it easy. If the fact that some women disagree with you has that much effect, then it doesn't say a lot about your certainty as regards your own position. WHY do you need everyone to AGREE with you to validate your own choice? Goodness, I do loads of things that I know a whole load of people disagree with, but it doesn't faze me.

    What DOES hurt is the prospect of a friend doing something so distructive to her own body because she has come to believe the crap the trans lobby spouts. She can't deal with wanting to sleep with women and not be feminine, because that little voice in her head put there by the patriarchy tells her that's not how REAL women behave. Yes, she does seem to believe that biology is destiny,and if she wants to do those things, then she must really be a man, because then she's still obeying the rules. So she sucks in all that nonsense about a male brain trapped in a female body, and is now prepared to consider surgery in the hope that that will solve all her problems.

    I've looked at the neuroscience data. I actually work in medical image analysis, so I KNOW how crude our current methods ARE. Hey, this little bit of brain here seems a bit larger, there's a bit more white matter here, correlates with measurements on male brains better than it does with female, and from that some people think the whole male brain in a womans body thing is true! Let's not worry that we only had SIX subjects and some well dodgy controls, throw in a few p-factors about the statistical validity and we're away. And let's ignore the apparent links between trans and autism spectrum disorders, and possible developmental causes, because after all we can do the surgery SO WELL and it looks like a dandy fix. If they insist they're men, we can do a quick cosmetic job...........

    O, and let's IGNORE the data that it doesn't really make them much happier afterwards (sorry, 2010 or 2011 study from the Netherlands I think, can't find the link now).

    Sorry, but in the face of this sort of tragedy, a few hurtful comments and a bit of badgering is small potatoes if it can convince SOME women that surgery isn't the only course, and that there are other alternatives.

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  39. Scribe in future just ignore Ex, she clearly hates herself very deeply and is in misery, but rather work through her issues, she just seeks to turn her self hatred towards others, others she doesnt even know.

    dirt

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  40. Extrospection what made you decide to detransition and stop shooting T?

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  41. Gallus, in future will you refrain from commenting to Ex. She has proven herself a troll, here and elsewhere, therefore her comments are not welcome.

    dirt

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  42. Sorry Dirt- I just thought it was strange and hypocritical that she defends her "maleness" when the truth is she has gone off T and is detransitioning.

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  43. Nothing to be sorry about GM.

    dirt

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  44. Extrospection,



    Why would women "fight so hard to abort a fetus" as you so eloquently put it?

    Could it be that men are sticking their dicks into women who don't want to bear their children hmm?

    You mean in 2011 MEN are ACTUALLY impregnating women who HAVE NOT expressed a desire to risk their life by carrying their children?

    This is how backward society is. THis is how far we've got to go.

    Men need to finally realize that CREATING A LIFE with a woman who DOES NOT WANT TO CARRY A CHILD is bordering on human rights abuses.

    WHen are men going to get it?

    When are they going to understand that they should only impregnate women who have explicitly EXPRESSED A DESIRE FOR A CHILD.

    Nuckledraggers...

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  45. I've just read that Ex is a troll.
    I will not respond further.

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  46. Bad Dyke - that it hurts. You captured it there. FTM and TMates and queers see it as hate. But it's not. It's hurt that too many of our females think transition or trying to live as a guy or having their gf call them by male pronouns and ignore loving their female bodies is the only way to deal with being lesbian and / or not "properly feminine."

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  47. It's more the comments that are propelling my reply than the blog itself. The blog is fine with me, because I think gender is what it is. The nice progressive side has been trying to convince me gender is a "state of mind" and an "identity" for years.

    The thing about both trans and reproductive choice issues is nobody actually is denying that either can be done, but it must be understood that people get to feel how how they want. Really, nobody has to embrace elective pregnancy termination either--not if they don't like it. Anyone is free to dislike it and say so if they want; a woman's right to choose does not take away from that. Same with this. Or anything. Before anyone makes a jump: Did I say I was pro-choice? No (nor did I say I wasn't). No one gets to say I'm advocating one over the other because I haven't said my opinion on the matter to anyone outside my partner since the 80's. For all you know I might be pro-life.

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  48. I fail to see how you people think that someone is now deemed a "troll" because they are arguing THEIR side to your provoking statements...

    If that's how you people see others, commenting their opinions. Well.... then this whole blog should be stamped with TROLL

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  49. "Then why force straight people to accept that you are a dyke or gay???"

    Since when are lesbians forcing people to adress them with fictional pronouns??? Show me a lesbian that's going around saying: "Call me [insert pronoun] or your're a homophobe."

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  50. @BadDyke
    " I think, can't find the link now."

    There it is:

    http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2004/jul/30/health.mentalhealth

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  51. Good to know that, even by Dirt's standards, I don't believe biology is destiny.

    I always wore masculine clothing, and after transition I still wear skirts sometimes.

    I want a job. Right now any job. Pre-transition, any job. Money is money.

    Used the mens' room pre-transition, use the mens' room post-transition. Just more often, because women dislike men in their space.

    Never went topless pre-transition, don't go topless post-transition. Transition didn't take away my risk of skin cancer.

    Don't receive straight male privilege - I'm gay.

    Don't expect entry into any space. In fact, some pre-transition spaces, I will now no longer go into, because they are for women, and I am not a woman.

    Act like I always did. Don't consciously drop my voice, not use my hands, or act like an asshole. Skip occasionally. Run around a lot. Giggle. No behaviour is the preserve of one gender or other.

    So there we go. Biology isn't destiny. At least, not for me.

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