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Friday, July 15, 2011

Trans Trending-Who is Transitioning

More from the endless supply of female self haters.

When are we going to stop hating ourselves, each other and fight the misogyny that is killing all women?

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  1. The one in the middle. Bieber much?

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  2. When are we going to stop hating each other? When we choose to listen to, respect, and value each others' truth and not re-interpret it based upon our own experiences and beliefs.

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  3. Dirt, once someone asked you if you'd put up pictures of proud butches instead of young trans men. You answered with something similar to "None of them said yes when I asked them if they wanted to be on my blog". Why do you ask these butches but not these trans men?

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  4. The other night my gf and I were at dinner. There was a table next two us with two apparently het couples. The man in one couple stared at me relentlessly - which I am used to, as a butchy lady, this is my life. BUT he then asked me if what I was drinking was beer. Mind you, it was in a glass that said Stella Artois on it, and it was beer colored. But he wanted to hear my voice to determine if I was female. I said "Yes, yes it is." He then leaned over to his lady partner and said "it's a girl."

    So, when you are viewed by other humans, they will look at you. This is what humans do. If you don't want your stuff on a website, don't put it there. This is my best mom advice to you.

    Life isn't bubble-wrapped for your protection, and the Internet surely isn't.

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  5. Elias,

    I never said that. I said if anyone knows any proud Butch women I will make a post about them. I have yet to hear back from anyone. It is difficult enough to find Butch women, more difficult to ascertain if they are proud.

    dirt

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  6. Dirt,
    You can post about me:) I'll send you a pic and all about me.
    Butchmystique
    p.s. love the BLOG and your Youtube

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  7. Hopefully you - or another of your readers - can help this young woman see the error of her ways before she starts poisoning herself with testosterone...

    http://paperwilderness.blogspot.com/

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  8. Kayzie-trans and proud-July 16, 2011 at 10:21 PM

    I don't get it... why do you dish on trans constantly?


    I agree that yes some do it for the trend and that anything you do to your body to change it can be dangerous, but some of them really can't stand being female.

    I think everyone who believes they are should go through a very thorough investigation to sort through them.

    A lot of girl these days see that man and women are right so some change their gender so being gay isn't wrong 'cause now they're a man.which I find ridiculous.

    But for a proud butch lesbian,who I'm sure faces enough hate,I'm surprised with you.
    You should be spreading love not hate. I understand you think its wrong but why spread -SOOO- much hate. you're pissing people off and making them feel bad for whom they are. I'm sure you get annoyed when someone dishes on you being a butch lesbian. Imagine hearing it all the time or having people calling you delirious and corrupted or gross or some other horrible thing.

    I think you should

    1.get facts right and up on here to show people.(with out facts its pointless)
    2. stop the hate and tolerate

    and 3. allow everyone to say what they want on here instead of deleting everything -you- don't like. I think it's childish.

    if you can't handle it stop dealing it. I think its stupid that you can't take it but you can sure give it.

    well, thats all for now.
    you deleted my last comment so I have no faith that you'll keep this one. I may have offended you or something.

    ;) bye

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  9. and 'Kayzie' was deemed wise enough to start her transition?

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  10. "I don't get it... why do you dish on trans constantly?"

    God! Just read the blog! Is it to hard for you?

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  11. "..some of them really can't stand being female."

    That's when they really should do some soul searching and figure out why!

    Dirt picks up some of her information from trans people themselves. She has screenshots to prove it but from my experience I have seen trans-people make some of those comments. Its funny though because when she says it, its automatically false but when around fellow trans people or allies its true......

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  12. to all those "anonymous" people.

    I have been accepted to do everything I can to transition but I am taking my time and talking about everything. Finding who I am and making the right choices not because I'm afraid not to be but because I want to be smart about it. Theres many different things I could do and I'm finding the right one for me.

    I respect what she has to say completely and yes I've read the blog. of course I have. BUT she seems to only mention the bad about trans. theres not all bad people.

    soul searching is a big thing for trans people who are not the trend of things. They think about it for a long time.
    I've been here on earth for 21 years and I've been soul searching since I was 8. I told my mom straight off that I was a dude at 8 and she did everything to show me that I was a little girl. so I soul searched still am. Probably always will be but as I've grown up I've determined a lot more about my self and what I want and need to be happy with who I am.

    Ok dirt, you get your information from trans people thats fine. but a screen shot can only tell you a little bit about the person...like what they look like and that they look like dudes. and the bad about surgery and T.

    Theres a lot of very attractive well achieved trans dudes out there though. I just think that focusing on the negative implies hate and to me thats wrong.

    I don't mind opinions and I do respect dirts and everyone elses, but a lot of trans people could view this as hate and hurtful words. the last thing we need is more suicides or hate crimes on trans or gays.

    I agree with you everyone should know why they want to transition and if it was something in their past.
    I personally have never felt right ever. Always awkward, always hiding, always chilling withe guys to be just like em and thats the only time I've felt comfortable with myself. But as I said no one should transition unless really thought through it and investigated. I could go out get T and surgery tomorrow if I wanted. It would be as easy as making an appointment since surgery in ontario is free and t is cheap but I don't. I know who I am and I know what I want. I want to be concidered as a male and I will be, but to put shit in my body and change myself I'm not sure as of yet. Would I like to yes then the outside would match the inside. Is it the best decision to scar myself and perhaps poison it then no. I'll see as life goes on.

    I am not a trend follower I am and I wwill be smart with everything I do.


    the more hate we spread the more likely our world will turn to shit....worse then it already has.
    thats all.

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  13. I am not a follower I am me*****

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  14. thanks for posting the URLs! Now I know which videos to go to youtube and click "like" to support them!

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  15. of course, the very bright 'Kayzie' just came up with this whole trans thing on her very own...

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  16. hey, if she 'chilled with the guys'
    then OBVIOUSLY she was born in the wrong body!

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  17. " BUT she seems to only mention the bad about trans."

    Because its a trans critical blog.


    "I told my mom straight off that I was a dude at 8 and she did everything to show me that I was a little girl."

    So how showed she that you are a girl??


    "Theres a lot of very attractive well achieved trans dudes out there though"

    So that some girls managed to look good as men is an excuse for forcing others to adress them in their favorite fantasy pronouns?


    "but a lot of trans people could view this as hate and hurtful words."

    Oh I forgot it's all about trans hate and so on. But trans people forgot everytime that they are spreading hate too.


    " Would I like to yes then the outside would match the inside"

    I often read this statement but I see no logic. What exactly is inside you?

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  18. An 8 yr olds idea of gender is based upon strict gender stereotypes. Trust me. I work with children. Boys and girls are nasty to each other if someone is doing something that is exact opposite of what they "should" do. Their ideas of gender is extremely strict. Any child that is feeling more comfortable with the opposite sex and enjoys things that the opposite sex enjoys gets utterly confused on why they are not like all the others of their sex. There isn't a clear answer other than you are who you are and that these stereotypes are just stereotypes. But I applaud anyone who wishes to go and soul search and figure out why and to improve their well being but for some people its just pacifying themselves and deep down they are still as unsure and unhappy as before. No, I'm not saying all trans people are miserable. I'm saying that BIID is tricky to suffer from and that until they figure out the source of the problem the problem will just exist. No different than some people who continuously end up at the plastic surgeon's office.

    Kayzie - I'm sorry you feel so awkward in your own body and around people. That is tough. 21 yrs of suffering is a long ass time to not feel comfortable.

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  19. " Boys and girls are nasty to each other if someone is doing something that is exact opposite of what they "should" do. Their ideas of gender is extremely strict."

    That's true! As I was a child there was a boy in the kindergarten who played with a barbie doll every day. It was the most precious toy he had and the other children laughed at him because of that. Now I know that the other children were deluded by that fucking stupid gender ideology I was deluded too. I felt like a boy because I loved all things boys I my age loved. I coulnd't relate to other girls. Because of this I'm so happy I've never met these insane gender cultists. I learned that neither me nor my body is wrong.

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  20. Society is more wrong than anyone's body.

    Children are very cliquish. Their ideas of gender is strict and very childish/childlike. Children socialize with gender. Gender is a social construct. Children socialize with toys, books, films, cartoons, haircuts, clothes, etc. It's either PINK or its BLUE. That's it! Boys group with boys. Girls group with girls. (Obviously there are exceptions) But when a member of that group does something else they will be isolated and forced to play with the other group. Why? Because that group refuses to lose gendered credibility over a member's "weird" behavior. They are gender police! They really stick to the rules over it. That's most non-conformists end up being the only non-conformist they know (which makes them feel awkward) and they end up playing with the opposite gender. (ei tomboy ends up playing with mostly boys because the girls refuse to play with her as if she has the black plague.)

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  21. she showed me in many ways just doing girly things with me, dresses barbies blah blah blah. the whole girly shibang.

    no its about HATE in general.

    I did not say I was bright or anything and to have you know Kayzie is my name real given at birth name.

    let people be who they want.

    on the inside is how I see myself. I do imagine myself as a male I always have. Have since I was young. I've changed a lot since then but that has always remains the same.

    I didn't say chilling with the guys is what made me this way. I don't know what did.


    I'm terribly shy to the point of my shaking problem. I uncontrollably shake now all the time and when I get nervous I turn into a vibrater turn purple(yes purple) and shut down. The only time I don't do this is when announced as male and such. I feel comfortable like that. I honestly have no idea why.

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  22. I was the anon 4:56

    "she showed me in many ways just doing girly things with me, dresses barbies blah blah blah. the whole girly shibang."

    I feel sorry for you. Your mother was also deluded by the gender ideology. Instead of showing that you can do anything she forced you into the made up stereotype role of a girl. I would have also rejected it. It was the same with my parents. Later they understood my feelings and didn't forced me anymore. A made up role has nothing to do with reality. I think future generations will reject these harmful ideas of gender.


    "let people be who they want."

    But only if people DON'T FORCE their identity upon others.


    "on the inside is how I see myself. I do imagine myself as a male I always have. Have since I was young."

    No wonder. Your mother wasn't helpful at all. What's better: being forced to do "girl stuff" or to be a boy and do everything you like without the stigma being a girl? That's why the gender ideology is harmful and dangerous.


    "I'm terribly shy to the point of my shaking problem. I uncontrollably shake now all the time and when I get nervous I turn into a vibrater turn purple(yes purple) and shut down."


    I know a girl who cries and is very angry when someone points put she is in fact a girl. That's a mental problem. I'm feel very sorry for you.


    "The only time I don't do this is when announced as male and such."

    No wonder. How many good memories of being a girl do you have?


    "I feel comfortable like that. I honestly have no idea why."

    Perhaps because you see no or less bad things in being male?

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  23. i have many memories of being a girl happy ones too. Nothing was ever bad and if someone refers to me as a girl(many do) it doesn't bother me not into tears anyway.

    My mom was amazing she did what she could. raised me up christian and took care of my brother and i even with how sick she was.

    don't feel sorry for me I had an amazing up bringing and I have a great life now.

    theres good and bad in both genders I find them equally as bad and as good but its how the person portrays their part that distiguishes how good or bad a certain gender is.


    so DONT feel sorry for me I may be a nervous person but that doesnt get in my way. my mom was amazing at bringing me up and I'm perfectly fine with myself.

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  24. You are fine with yourself? Then you will not mind when people call you a woman.

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  25. "Children are very cliquish. Their ideas of gender is strict and very childish/childlike. Children socialize with gender. Gender is a social construct. Children socialize with toys, books, films, cartoons, haircuts, clothes, etc. It's either PINK or its BLUE. That's it"

    Bingo. This is why the "I knew I was a girl/boy when I was a little kid" argument doesn't work for me- young children mostly define "girl" and "boy" based on gender stereotypes. It's not surprising that trans people often use little kid logic when it comes to gender, i.e. "I knew I should have been a long-haired-dress-wearing person when I was four."

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  26. Here is a better question for you Dirt.
    Why do you care so much? These people aren't your friends, or family. What difference does it make to you if they want to do whatever to their body?

    I get the whole "lets be proud butch lesbians" blah blah, if thats why you believe in... good for you! Stand up and be proud for what you think is right, regardless if the majority of the world disagrees. However, why not let these people do the same thing for what they believe in?

    The queer community as a whole is small, and I always find it disturbing when someone from the community starts spreading "their opinion" on other people. I also find that, and this is my opinion, but most animosity, is brought on by jealousy...

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  27. lesbianplusfeministJuly 19, 2011 at 12:54 PM

    "Here is a better question for you Dirt.
    Why do you care so much?"

    Yes, why would anyone care that there are womyn and girls in misery in the world who are wasting tax dollars/gutting their bank accounts to pay for dangerous, medically unnecessary modifications to their bodies after being misled by various members of the psychology community, choosing to live a life of lying and/or hiding and/or medical complications and/or long-term hormone dependence and/or shaming/bullying others into playing along with their delusions/pretending, all the while giving illogical reasons that are dripping with misogyny, without even fully understanding how misogyny affects people's choices in life? What's the big deal about all of that, right?

    Feminism 101 fail. Hell, humanity 101 fail. Not to mention blog-reading fail.

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  28. excellent, L+F

    but of course you must be 'jealous,' right?

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