The Top Ten Signs You are NOT a Transman FTM

1) You felt like a "boy" as a child.

2) You disliked "girl" clothes, "girl" toys and "girl" things in general.

3) You had a preference for "boy" clothes, "boy" toys and "boy" things in general.

4) You felt wrong (shameful) having to use the "girls" bathroom at school.

5) When playing pretend games you often (always) imagined yourself in the "boy's" roles.

6) Your preferred playmates were often (always) boys.

7) When puberty began you felt depressed because you felt as though your body had betrayed you.

8) You wanted to die or disappear the first times you had to (buy) wear a bra.

9) Even if athletic, you felt a sense of physical weakness (inferiority) because your body wasn't changing the way males of similar ages around you were.

10) As a teenager you felt more and more alienated from your body until you began feeling a mind/body split.

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Misinformation and the FTM Trans Community

This screen cap was sent to me last night, a screen cap from a well known and well populated ftM forum. While the person who sent the cap didnt send any comments along with, they did say there were about two dozen, all of similar opinion and agreement. See screen cap here:

Frightening though this may be, this is just a drop in the bucket of the misinformation being bred in trans forums, websites, email lists and real time groups across the globe. This girl (I'm assuming girl as she sounds positively young) doesnt even have the first clue about human biology let along how her own body works!

These misinformation's are made worse by those who are informed but choose not to disseminate truthful info because the truthful information is counter productive to the notions/goals of transition. There is a HUGE pathological need found among most of those who are seeking transition or have transitioned, to the extents that they can, to have everyone they know/encounter to buy into their trans ideas of themselves. Dissent is intolerable! Therefore truthful information and those broadcasting it become intolerable as well. Think Pro-Ana (anorexic) spaces if you need a close comparison. (not surprisingly anorexia is a regular guest among ftMs-but that's another post)

So with regards to this particular post and any misinformation generated from posts like these, in the name of TRUTH and DISSENT some basics about human development and basic female biology.

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"Queer" Campus Groups and a College Near You

Having the emailer's permission I wanted to share a recent email I received that covers the "queer" (queer meaning not gay, not lesbian but anything else) trend taking place at colleges across the states and across the globe. A trend that began in the early 90's when "queer theory" and "gender studies" began eradicating Lesbian Studies (which no longer exist) and Women's Studies (which are on the verge of extinction).

Sadly this young lesbian's voice and experience has become the trend among college lesbians seeking a home with other lesbians on campus's within the campus GLBT group/s, but instead of a home they find themselves alienated from the dominant group/group discourse. The tragic part of this, besides the co-option/erasure of lesbians by the hetero-privileged "queer women" reigning supreme over the lesbians within these groups is what happens to the lesbians these "queer women" have convinced to transition? These "queer women" who after they've turned in their cap an gown are going to simply graduate back into hetero-patriarchy and be married/married with children by the time they reach their thirty's. The fact is were they then to run into a single one of these transitioned lesbians on the street they will proceed as if they had never laid eyes on them before, despite having held their hand through the removal of both their HEALTHY breast.

On one hand they are no different than the 4 year lesbians of yesteryear, on the other much worse and much more dangerous because in the past a lesbian was merely left with a broken heart, today she is left drugged and mutilated into a monstrosity along with that broken heart. Take heed young lesbians, take heed.

I am receiving more and more emails along these lines, some who like this young woman who have allowed me to share her story with you and others too afraid of being "slandered", "attacked" and called "transphobic" to have their stories made public. What are your GLBT campus experiences as a lesbian? I would like to hear and like others to hear these stories, stories that have become the norm rather than the exception. Please email me at dirtywhiteboi67@yahoo.com if you would like to share/vent. And specify if I may utilize your story publicly here for the good of other lesbians going through similar and as a warning to lesbians considering joining campus lesbian groups.

I am thinking about creating a space for lesbians who are being pressured to transition, thoughts?

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