THIS IS YOUR BRAIN AND BODY ON MISOGYNY
STOP THE MUTILATION OF WOMEN
FIGHT TO REMOVE "GID" FROM THE DSM
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Saturday, March 27, 2010
Dirt's Weekend Women's Day of Remembrance
THIS IS YOUR BRAIN AND BODY ON MISOGYNY
STOP THE MUTILATION OF WOMEN
FIGHT TO REMOVE "GID" FROM THE DSM
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Wednesday, March 24, 2010
Removing Gender Identity Disorder (GID) from the future DSM
Since I'm seeing more and more medical authorities vocalizing the removal of GID from the new DSM I'll start posting their reactions and reasoning's as I get them. I think in the short term the removal of GID is best, especially as it is being utilized to pathologize gender "roles" in or to eradicate homosexuality/lesbianism. This is why GID "treatment" began 60+ years ago and this is why it is still being employed by a homo/lezbo-phobic medical community today. This diagnosis sanctions the medical community to drug and mutilate homo/lezbo-sexuality from the patient, by deceiving both the patient and society that the patient can and will be heterosexualized through "sex change" treatments.
How many gay and lesbian lives have been lost to the ignorant sick homo/lezbo-phobic medical communities hetero-sexualizing "treatments"???? How many more will be lost????
If you are gay or lesbian this issues affects you! Because as/if "transgenderism" becomes mainstream you may find yourself pressured by friends, family , co-workers and society in general to become heterosexualized.
Remove GID from the DSM!
STOP THE MEDICAL MURDER OF GAYS AND LESBIANS!
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Tuesday, March 23, 2010
A Word on the Sexual Dynamic of the Capital B Butch
After a conversation yesterday with Femme Avenger (her comments can be read in the last post) regarding some comments left on my last post (too Butch too fuck) I wanted clarify and specify the unique (sexual) difficulties of the capital B Butch, who is who I write about/for.
I'm sure if you arent a capital B Butch or a Femme you're wondering what the hell is a capital B Butch? When I write about Butch I use a capital B to differentiate from lesbians who are butch persuasioned. While there may be a multitude of similarities and shared experiences between the two, they are essentially quite different and distinct. The capital B Butch is the Butch original, she is a born butch Butch whose romantic and sexual attractions/connections are strictly with Femme lesbians. She is the woman the term Butch was explicitly written and specifically defined. Granted among the post-modern-gung-ho-queer-theory-genderqueer nations "butch" has sadly been co-opted by anyone from softball dykes to jeans and T-shirt wearing Mtf men. This doesn't change the capital B Butch, but it does promote the invisibility of Butch women by diluting the Butch pool with imposters and posers confusing Butch to those outside Femme/Butch spaces. I mentioned there are some shared experiences between Butch lesbians and butch persuasioned lesbians. I post this not to deny any lesbian's experiences, but to hone in on the capital B Butch (sexual or lack thereof as the case may be) experience.
The capital B Butch sexual experience is quite different from the butch persuasioned lesbian experience because our primary sexual relationships are with Femme lesbians. It is a critical difference. The small b butch lesbian may share some of the capital B Butch body dysphoria issues growing up but usually for the small b butch those issues do not get magnified when she reaches adulthood and enters the lesbian community, magnified to greater degrees now since we have females IDing as some form of "trans" while other "non-trans" females have allowed themselves to be shamed out of IDing as female period. Small b butch lesbians usually couple with other small b butch lesbians by and large. These are usually the butch lesbians we see/hear IDing their sexual proclivities as "butch on butch". Some of these butch women have dated/slept with Femmes, but thats usually only while both parties pass each other on the road to their true sexual destinations, not because either has an affinity towards each other.
The sexual dynamic between "butch on butch" is quite different and much less troubling than Femme/Butch partnerships. The internalized misogyny isnt as out loud and present within "butch on butch" relationshipsattractions. These relationships arent built on hetero-patriarchal hierarchy pressures to the extreme that Femme/Butch couplings are constantly fighting. There is more of an equal ground within "butch on butch" that sexually scares the hell out of most capital B Butches because we have been shamed out of it. While there may be a top/bottom to the small b butch on butch relationship, there still exist a freedom to sexually explore those spaces without the shame of one's femaleness blocking the way. There is a greater freedom to be sexually vulnerable within "butch on butch" and other lesbian couplings that only with a great deal of love, trust and work have the possibility to exist between Femme/Butch couplings.
If there are these similar shared experiences and early/teen body dysphoria both small b butch lesbians and capital B Butch lesbians share why the fork in the road when it comes to sex? In a word-Femmes. Not Femmes in and of themselves or anything they do or don't do so much, but the dynamic of the Femme/Butch relationship itself complicates Butch shame, fear, sexuality and vulnerability. How can the type of partner we seek, desire with all our hearts and souls and pussy's even affect/complicate capital B Butches sharing those hearts and souls and pussy's? Because of the complicatedness of the Butch life (Butch invisibility/lack of Butch role models) amid misogyny and hetero-patriarchy.
A subject you will find on many a Femme/Butch forum/website is something to do with Butches and "feminizing touch". What is "feminizing touch"? Besides nonsensical, something quite real to many Butch lesbians. It is a Femme partners sexual touch. Touch that rarely is allowed with the same kind of excitement and zeal Butches freely touch Femme bodies with. Due to the small numbers of Femmes and Butches it sometimes seems a miracle when we meet, given that miracle one would expect that first time to be a crazy sexual frenzy of mutual kissing, stripping off clothes, licking, caressing, sucking, fingering and fucking. It should be, but sadly it isnt. Butches are granted all that usually, but there are negotiations that must be made before a Femme touches a Butch. These issues rarely crop up let alone dominate the sexual relationships of other lesbians, like they do for Femme/Butch couples. There are pathologically fucked up insane pressures/expectations put on Butch women in Femme/Butch spaces that hinder and sometime halt Butch sexuality altogether. Pressures and expectations of shame, with little to no one questioning those pressures and shame so they continue being perpetuated.
Despite the fact that both Femmes and Butches are WOmen, hetero-patriarchal sexism and misogyny have been dragged in and bragged about within Femme/Butch communities. Butch have been allowed and some Femmes have allowed Butches to employ hetero-male sexist mimicry with Femmes in order to feel some sort of delusional Butch pride based on male sexism and Femme objectification. So what happens to Femme/Butch couple in the dark then, with no one to perform hetero sexist behaviour for? Far too often what happens is...nothing. Butches fear they cannot sustain their Butch identity with a mutually sexual relationship with a Femme lover. Because the Femme's "touch" is being regarded through hetero-patriarchy that views all women as less then. So when Butch women stop seeing themselves as women(through lack of Butch role models/queer theory influence), their value of Femmes disappears. Therefore the equality within the Femme/Butch sexual dynamic gets blatantly skewed whereby Butches being at the high end of that skew cannot allow someone of a less than status (the lower end of the skew) to make love to them without intense shame afterward which leave both parties unsatisfied and ashamed.
I am glad small b butches and other lesbians can related to some of what I write, you are all important to me as lesbians, but when I write about Butch, I am writing from a capital B Butch position. Hope this post clarifies that.
STAY STRONG
BE PROUD
LOVE WOMEN
AND LOVE YOURSELF AS A WOMAN
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I'm sure if you arent a capital B Butch or a Femme you're wondering what the hell is a capital B Butch? When I write about Butch I use a capital B to differentiate from lesbians who are butch persuasioned. While there may be a multitude of similarities and shared experiences between the two, they are essentially quite different and distinct. The capital B Butch is the Butch original, she is a born butch Butch whose romantic and sexual attractions/connections are strictly with Femme lesbians. She is the woman the term Butch was explicitly written and specifically defined. Granted among the post-modern-gung-ho-queer-theory-genderqueer nations "butch" has sadly been co-opted by anyone from softball dykes to jeans and T-shirt wearing Mtf men. This doesn't change the capital B Butch, but it does promote the invisibility of Butch women by diluting the Butch pool with imposters and posers confusing Butch to those outside Femme/Butch spaces. I mentioned there are some shared experiences between Butch lesbians and butch persuasioned lesbians. I post this not to deny any lesbian's experiences, but to hone in on the capital B Butch (sexual or lack thereof as the case may be) experience.
The capital B Butch sexual experience is quite different from the butch persuasioned lesbian experience because our primary sexual relationships are with Femme lesbians. It is a critical difference. The small b butch lesbian may share some of the capital B Butch body dysphoria issues growing up but usually for the small b butch those issues do not get magnified when she reaches adulthood and enters the lesbian community, magnified to greater degrees now since we have females IDing as some form of "trans" while other "non-trans" females have allowed themselves to be shamed out of IDing as female period. Small b butch lesbians usually couple with other small b butch lesbians by and large. These are usually the butch lesbians we see/hear IDing their sexual proclivities as "butch on butch". Some of these butch women have dated/slept with Femmes, but thats usually only while both parties pass each other on the road to their true sexual destinations, not because either has an affinity towards each other.
The sexual dynamic between "butch on butch" is quite different and much less troubling than Femme/Butch partnerships. The internalized misogyny isnt as out loud and present within "butch on butch" relationshipsattractions. These relationships arent built on hetero-patriarchal hierarchy pressures to the extreme that Femme/Butch couplings are constantly fighting. There is more of an equal ground within "butch on butch" that sexually scares the hell out of most capital B Butches because we have been shamed out of it. While there may be a top/bottom to the small b butch on butch relationship, there still exist a freedom to sexually explore those spaces without the shame of one's femaleness blocking the way. There is a greater freedom to be sexually vulnerable within "butch on butch" and other lesbian couplings that only with a great deal of love, trust and work have the possibility to exist between Femme/Butch couplings.
If there are these similar shared experiences and early/teen body dysphoria both small b butch lesbians and capital B Butch lesbians share why the fork in the road when it comes to sex? In a word-Femmes. Not Femmes in and of themselves or anything they do or don't do so much, but the dynamic of the Femme/Butch relationship itself complicates Butch shame, fear, sexuality and vulnerability. How can the type of partner we seek, desire with all our hearts and souls and pussy's even affect/complicate capital B Butches sharing those hearts and souls and pussy's? Because of the complicatedness of the Butch life (Butch invisibility/lack of Butch role models) amid misogyny and hetero-patriarchy.
A subject you will find on many a Femme/Butch forum/website is something to do with Butches and "feminizing touch". What is "feminizing touch"? Besides nonsensical, something quite real to many Butch lesbians. It is a Femme partners sexual touch. Touch that rarely is allowed with the same kind of excitement and zeal Butches freely touch Femme bodies with. Due to the small numbers of Femmes and Butches it sometimes seems a miracle when we meet, given that miracle one would expect that first time to be a crazy sexual frenzy of mutual kissing, stripping off clothes, licking, caressing, sucking, fingering and fucking. It should be, but sadly it isnt. Butches are granted all that usually, but there are negotiations that must be made before a Femme touches a Butch. These issues rarely crop up let alone dominate the sexual relationships of other lesbians, like they do for Femme/Butch couples. There are pathologically fucked up insane pressures/expectations put on Butch women in Femme/Butch spaces that hinder and sometime halt Butch sexuality altogether. Pressures and expectations of shame, with little to no one questioning those pressures and shame so they continue being perpetuated.
Despite the fact that both Femmes and Butches are WOmen, hetero-patriarchal sexism and misogyny have been dragged in and bragged about within Femme/Butch communities. Butch have been allowed and some Femmes have allowed Butches to employ hetero-male sexist mimicry with Femmes in order to feel some sort of delusional Butch pride based on male sexism and Femme objectification. So what happens to Femme/Butch couple in the dark then, with no one to perform hetero sexist behaviour for? Far too often what happens is...nothing. Butches fear they cannot sustain their Butch identity with a mutually sexual relationship with a Femme lover. Because the Femme's "touch" is being regarded through hetero-patriarchy that views all women as less then. So when Butch women stop seeing themselves as women(through lack of Butch role models/queer theory influence), their value of Femmes disappears. Therefore the equality within the Femme/Butch sexual dynamic gets blatantly skewed whereby Butches being at the high end of that skew cannot allow someone of a less than status (the lower end of the skew) to make love to them without intense shame afterward which leave both parties unsatisfied and ashamed.
I am glad small b butches and other lesbians can related to some of what I write, you are all important to me as lesbians, but when I write about Butch, I am writing from a capital B Butch position. Hope this post clarifies that.
STAY STRONG
BE PROUD
LOVE WOMEN
AND LOVE YOURSELF AS A WOMAN
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