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Monday, June 15, 2009

Chastity "chaz" Bono ftMing it? Wha?

Sent to me a few nights ago from an anonymous Butch. (thank you)

For as much as I'm against mutilating the mentally ill, for every good attained and every truth brought to light there must be sacrifices, "chazy" here is just such a sacrifice. Now where to find an alter large enough to accommodate her! But I digress...

While the change of Chastity's "change" may not be a watershed, the subtle wave created publicly by this ripple may replace the wrongful Butch face on ftMism with the more precise face of our dear mentally ill "chazy". For it is your typical overweight softball dykes (like chazy) who are the dominant disordered females seeking "sex changes", NOT Butch women!

Remember all those softball dykes dating each other you would see year in and year out at your local pride fests? Remember when year after year you began to see less and less of them at pride you wondered where did they all go? Remember asking yourself later why do so many ftM women date other ftM women? Thats where all those softball dykes went and that's why so many ftM women date each other.

But while this has the potential to set the ftM record dyke so to speak, there is also the dangerous possibility of it further harming and invisibalizing Butch women. For far toooooooo many years the Femme/Butch community in all its forms has been over ran with softball tweener dykes whom by their shear numbers have buried the face of Butch women beneath their chassis's, giving rise to a false visual of what Butch look like, not to mention a false idea of what Butch IS! Therefore when people think Butch what they're really thinking is dyke, and when people think female sex change or ftM they're thinking Butch though in their minds eye it is dyke which they are actually seeing.

It is assumed that the real threat to Butch women has been and remains "the binary", wrong. The real threat to Butch women has been and IS, invisibility! For the plethoric differences that distinguish Butch females from males, to the casual observer caught within the binary net, those differences appear silent and inconspicuous, Butch women "pass". Dykes on the other hand do not "pass" and cannot casually appear to "fit" neatly into the binary, it is for these women that the binary seems truly perilous! And this has as much to do with the number of dykes "transitioning" as does each their personal familials.

While I lightly jested about "chazy's" weight early on in this post, weight does play a large roll in the dykes who occupy Femme/Butch spaces, which in turn plays a large roll in those same dykes later ftMing it, it is a progression. It is no coincidence that the reduction patriarchy has made to the female cage in the last 50 years has greatly impacted how we all view patriarchy's "femininity" construct and how that construct is applied to women and in turn how women apply that construct to themselves. After a certain dress size, pants size or number on the scale through the limited lens of the male gaze hetero women consider themselves "ugly/unattractive" regardless of whether they are or aren't. But what has happened in the lesbian community is once dyke women reach that special size or number some of them default to "butch"!

Currently in most modern societies, patriarchy deems the fat women of those societies, unfeminine. Actually what is happening is patriarchy is making it near impossible for any woman over a size 12 (height unimportant) to appear patriarchally "feminine" approved with the present multitudinous demands placed on women's appearances. Given these demands, pressures and expectations it is impossible for the softball dyke NOT to see herself as some form of "manly", just as society views Butch women. And so miss dyke slides herself over to butch, believing herself to be Butch.

Once miss dyke enters the gates of the Femme/Butch community she quickly notices she isn't the Butch she sees here. Yet in her mind and patriarchy's strict gender constructs for men and women, surely she must be butch. She retrieves her Butch list from her granny pack: 1) unfeminine-check 2) ugly by hetero male standards-check 3) more comfortable in clothes made for males-check. So there it is in black and white, 1 2 3, bing-bang-boom-Butch. The list may check out for her but none the less miss dyke KNOWS she's not REALLY a Butch woman. There may be some things about her that are butch, but the fact is she isnt one of them!

Something happens though when one is around a specific group with which one isn't a true member, over time one adopts, poses and convinces one's self they are the company they keep! And so the progression begins, the dykes in Femme/Butch space quickly learn they cannot compete with Butch women. Not that they have to mind you. But when one is struggling to keep up, competition ensues. These are the "butches" who readily brag about participating in such nonsense as "binding" and "packing" in hopes of trying to out butch the Butches. (guess what girls, Butch women know the difference between HOT role-playing and self delusion!) But in doing so they have butched themselves right into a full blown mental disorder and male mimicry! From there its a small journey to ftMism. All the while STILL not attaining Butch, because being isn't something that can be acquired through any means.

But it is at this mistakenly assumed point that since many ftM women are coming out of the (if only they would stay the fuck out!) Femme/Butch community Butches are the majority of women who are "transitioning". The Femme/Butch community online and RT is chock full of Chastity Bono's, both before and after "T". Maybe her "coming out as trans" will finally displace Butch as the face of ftM, because far too many people have seen her on several reality shows to clearly tell she's no Butch. It may also have the public wondering why would a woman (who isnt manly) want a sex change and why would the medical establishment give her one?

As I said it could go a few different ways, we can only hope for the best.

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  1. Dirt, you have me in stitches, especially this line: "in doing so they have butched themselves right into a full blown mental disorder and male mimicry!" Thank you for your articulate and hilarious analysis of trans trenderism -- enlightening and entertaining!

    I applaud you for helping empower women (maybe some men too?) who are suffering from self-hate (hard not to in this culture) and thinking about going under the knife or hormones. Voices like yours need to be heard; you cut through the thick, loud fog of bullshit loud and clear.

    In self-loving solidarity,
    NJD

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