Femmes apparently are no longer lesbians!

Yes, believe it folks. This is yet another sample of the ignorant garbage plaguing butch/femme sites/communities.

A young femme confused butch began a thread because she was further confused by the hetero-malecentric sway of the purported butch/femme site.
In struggling to understand exactly what kinda butch woman a femme desires, she was met with responses similar to the one I capped here.

How is a young confused insecure butch suppose to traverse misogynistic heterocentric binaried terrain such as this???? Its no wonder butches are regularly losing their way. For so long we treaded without benefit of compass, having to make our own way, our own paths. These days a compass is provided with its needle preset in one direction, true hetero-north!

Long ago we butches and femmes created refuges for ourselves. Certain bars, homes, places where we could come together to meet, converse, love, and be our unique selves. A place away from the straight world that shunned us, hated us, beat, raped and abused us.

Today we willingly invite that enemy into our private spaces because we're told if we're good lesbians we are to be "inclusive" and "accepting". We ignorantly complied. And we're ignorantly paying the price. The price is our own unique butch/femme lives, loves, histories, passions and prides!!! Butch/Femme sites are spilling over with disorder, and sexually dysfunctional straight women, using their straight privilege creating a specific hetero flavour to most butch/femme websites and communities everywhere.

Real Femmes are being silenced and real Butches are being shamed into giving up and over their beautiful womanhoods. If a wrench isnt thrown into the gigantic hetero machine soon, we're all going to be nothing but a memory.

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Fear and Hate of Butch women by the BF community at large???

Its a sad state of affairs when Butch/Femme sites are not even willing to have a discussion on the harmful misogynistic trend of "male-ID" women occupying BF sites everywhere and the Femmes who support this cataclysm!

Are Butch/Femme sites so chock full of screwed up straight women and mixed up butch women that Butch/Femme lesbian women are no longer a part of the BF online community???

Are there no out and proud Butch women anymore??? No proud Femmes who are attracted to and desire REAL Butch women???

I know I cant be the only REAL Butch on the net questioning this bullshit! This shit MUST change, and change soon, before more Butch women are damaged/mutilated beyond recognition!

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Whats so Butch/Femme about getting your breast hacked off??? Colour me confused!!!!

Seriously, WTF is going on with butch/femme sites these days???? A tips thread for women having healthy body parts removed???? I swear if you can believe it, all responses were of a congratulatory nature! Not one woman asking why??? Not one woman asking what can be done to help women who hate their femaleness so much they pathologize it to this. Not one!

How is it that supposed butch/femme sites are making allowances for misogyny on this kind of level??? Whats next "How to Best Rape a Woman" or maybe "Three easy steps to Murdering your g/f"??? I dont question how such a thread could get started as there are plenty of disturbed individuals in the world, but I MUST question why are threads of this nature left up for viewing/participation by site owners/maintainers???

Is membership so low these days they'll support this kind of insanity just to make a buck??? Why are Butch women and Femme women holding their tongues??? Are we in such a desperate need of community we're allowing the destruction and butchery of women to take place before our eye without uttering a single word to stop it????

If this "trend" of Butch butchery persists, keep in mind, there will not be a Butch/Femme community to be a part of!

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Butch/Femme role playing???

Sixty plus years into a Butch/Femme culture/community individual and seperate from the larger Lesbian community, and we're still no further into any true, accurate discourse on Butch/Femme sexuality.

Whether its an ignorant hetero community heteroising Butch/Femme sexuality or an equally ignorant Lesbian community doing likewise, either way its ignorant and uninformed of the actual lesbianism that transpires between a butch woman and a femme woman sexually.

I dont find there to be any binaried role playing involved when a Butch uses her natural inborn inclinations along with some added helpful gear to climb aboard a Femme who is willing to give herself over to said Butch. Or a Femme using her natural inborn inclinations to pleasure her Butch sans gear.

Both parties are women, both lesbians. A Butch geared w/cock is quite different and distinct from a man w/penis. This seems to often get lost on folks gay and straight alike. A Butch is a FEMALE before she straps, while she's strapping and after she removes her cock. The sexual power dynamic between a Butch and a Femme whether said Butch is sporting a cock or not is not even in the same ball park as the male/female power dynamic. There is a mutual give and take between Butch/Femme women because ultimately their power is equal, that never happens between men and women, because there still remains no equality between the sexes.

Just as men have not cornered the market on masculinity, some also seem to forget they also have not cornered the market on how to make love to a woman.

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Butch my ass!

This is capped from a butch/femme site regarding "trans-butches". WTF??? There isnt anything remotely "trans" about being a masculine (Butch) female. The shear internal/external misogyny screaming from this post is utterly horrific and shameful!

And to think this womans lovers answer to helping her feel better about going through menopause is "its okay cuz it has the word men in it"??? Are you fucking kidding me???? What do men know about periods or the end of periods? How is that validating a Butches masculinity while her FEMALE body naturally changes???

These heterocentric butch/femme sites are ever more proving themselves to be dangerous places, full of malecentric nonsense aimed directly at Butch women! There is no way to measure the harm these sites have rained down upon Butch women everywhere. But unless a new Butch women movement is set in motion to battle the malecentric bullshit that is currently being played out in butch/femme communities RT and online Butch will soon be replaced by strawmen.

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