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Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Lesbian Children are NOT Girls-How Hetero-Sociology Ignores Lesbians (part 1 of 3)

In my post last week I discussed how linking the symbol for Female with another symbol for Female does not equal Lesbian, it merely denoted two Females of any sexual orientation together:
Taking the next step in this post, I'll discuss how the HETERO sex categories of Girl and Woman have lead to centuries of discomfort, dysphoria, pathology and transition (Trans Trending) for Lesbians.

A well known, but until now unexplained commonality among Lesbians (no matter the variety) is feeling different from our earliest memories. Something that goes well beyond not merely fitting in with kids our own age. Our different is SO different, that as children (teens/adults even) we cannot locate ourselves anywhere. We are told we're girls, but nowhere among girls do we exist. This is often something that is pigeon holed as only occurring among Girls who are tomboys or baby Dykes or baby Butches, but the truth is, it occurs among ALL Lesbians, even the girliest of Dykes.Why? The simple answer is because we're Lesbians, but what does that really mean beyond attraction?

The very thing that makes us Lesbian is discussed somewhere between rarely and never and that thing is our brain, singular. We do not need two females or even two Lesbians, to be Lesbian. Lesbian isnt an action, Lesbian is a noun. Our Lesbianism was mapped out as soon as our father's sperm met our mother's egg. And based on that gene map, our Lesbianism, with each trimester created us accordingly. Thats the dry clinical simplistic breakdown of Lesbian, but how does that translate in the world as we know it for Lesbians?

One does not have to be a child psychologist to know that behavioural differences among general heterosexual males and heterosexual females is recognizable in infants/babies. As Lesbians, we've all been told childhood stories by our mothers/fathers and other family how we werent ever like normal girls. How we were more action oriented than Girls, more interested in how our toys worked rather than the toys themselves. Not doll or baby doll crazy. Crawled/walked before our sisters or girl relatives. Were either fine with playing alone or preferred it. More maverick than mainstream. Mrs Dirt for example, preferred girly little dresses, but her maverick behaviour for climbing trees or over barbed wire fences forced her mother to put her into pants more often than she would have liked. Girliness or lack there of (per heterosexual norms) does not define the Lesbian, but having a Lesbian brain does Re-define/unhinge girliness or lack thereof  (per heterosexual norms) in Lesbian children. 

It is this doing Girl differently that sets Lesbian children apart from Girls. We as Lesbian children know we're different and once around Girls our age, we know they know it! Usually by age three, Lesbians (no matter the variety) do not comfortably identify with the category Girl. Girls may resemble us, Girls may even dress like us, but we know they are not us. Girls do not simply confuse boys, Girls confuse Lesbian children as well, a pattern of behaviour that doesnt change as Girls age!

Some general but accurate early observations every dyke has noticed about Girls by age five at the latest:
  • Girls generally get upset quite easily.
  • Girls seem always to be upset about something.
  • Girls are catty about other girls.
  • Girls often tattle to authority figures.
  • Girls are indirect about their feelings.
  • Girls get horribly jealous over friendships with other girls.
  • Girls act silly or odd around boys.
And all this up to a decade before puberty generally hits. Lesbian children are often stumped/confused by the odd (to us) behaviour of Girls and most of us by school age do not feel we are Girls-because we effectively after all, are not-we are Lesbians.

Some general but accurate truisms about Lesbian children:
  • Lesbian children are not easily riled.
  • Lesbian children miss a lot of spoken and unspoken messages/rules Girls apply to other Girls.
  • Lesbian children do not often confine their friendships/interests to Girls or Boys. 
  • In the same token, Lesbian children feel they do not fit into  either category of Girl or Boy. 
  • Lesbian children say what they mean and mean what they say.
  • Lesbian children lack adequate language for their feelings and behaviour. 
  • Lesbian children tend to be more independent. 
  • Lesbian children often question social rules/concepts or outright ignore them.
When Lesbian children do play with Girls, we are often (no matter the girliness of the dyke) asked to play an action role by Girls rather than a passive role. Even in a group of new Girls, Lesbian children are often regarded by Girls as someone who is a helper, and when Boys are not present, even with Girls we do not know, Lesbian children are expected to play the role of Daddy/Husband. This relegation to male roles (husband/helper/helpmate) increases Lesbian children's confusion and discomfort with the category Girl.

It also signifies to Lesbian children that we are in fact NOT Girls:
  1. Because Lesbian children know the category Girl does not adequately describe us/fit us. 
  2. Because Girls never fully accept Lesbian children as one of their own.
  3. Because Girls view/treat Lesbian children as alien or other.
This wrongful identification, lack of understanding and blind heterosexual assumption of Lesbian children, beginning with parents/legal guardians set Lesbian children squarely in the locomotive path of confusion. Lesbian children are born with an intrinsic Lesbian esoteric sense of self untranslatable into language, since all known languages are heterosexually created/driven. Despite language's lack or absence, for natural purposes of survival, Lesbians can recognize each other. Our innate ability to pick out/pick up on other Lesbians/Lesbian children (mirroring) is another chapter in Lesbian children not seeing ourselves in Girls. In the same token, Girls do not see themselves in us.

It is a gargantuan disservice to label Lesbian children Girls. Girl implies much more than simply the clothes worn or toy preference, it specifically delineates heterosexuality and the schema that goes along with. Lesbian children are NOT heterosexual, therefore Lesbian children by nature are not Girls. Girl is the first (in a long line) of experiences Lesbian children undergo with mental and some cases physical discomfort. An uncomfortableness that is nameless, because as Lesbian children we are nameless.

This is the first post in a three part series I am writing to help Lesbians be better understood, to help Lesbians better understand themselves in a heterosexually dominated world and to give a voice to the namelessness that begins in Lesbian childhood and is now haunting Lesbians into transition rather than inspiring Lesbian survival as had in previous centuries.



Thursday, January 12, 2017

Mrs Dirt Put In Harms Way By Psycho-A Warning to ALL Bloggers

Yesterday on Twitter (out of seemingly nowhere and not for the first time) Mrs Dirt was Tweeted to by a new/faux Twitter account harassing her yet again about her real name/work credentials. Clearly someone who has an axe to grind most likely with me and rather than directly confronting me for whatever her gripe was, in heterosexual/STRAIGHTBIAN style she blasted Mrs Dirt's work name on Twitter publicly for anyone to see.

For a fuller report see Mrs Dirt's post here: Why I Use A Pseudonym. (Not That It Is Anyone’s Business)

Having Mrs Dirt's work name it is easy enough to see based on her long history with law enforcement as to partly why Mrs Dirt kept her name close to her breast and partly on another more serious case I cannot and would not reveal here. My point being, given Mrs Dirt's previous work that endangered her life every single day for more than a decade, our faux Twitterer cared more about pissing me off than potentially getting my wife murdered.

Fortunately due to some deep respected friends in high places the faux Twitterer isnt quite as anonymous as SHE believed SHE was/is. While we do not have a name at this point-(we will soon we're promised) we do have the IP address/origin of the Twitter ID for Mary Sue@realbaddeeds:
If ANY Bloogers see this IP addy on your blogs, BEWARE. I or Mrs Dirt will keep readers abreast of this ongoing situation as it may affect hundreds of Feminist Bloggers.


Saturday, January 7, 2017

Double Female Symbol-Not Lesbian-Then or Now

Between researching, ruminating and writing on the vast expanse that is NOT Lesbian, I also have to call out Lesbian symbolism as well. Symbolism, that like so much else NOT Lesbian, began with Radical (lesbian) Feminism in the early 70's. In their (RadFem) pursuit/recruit of lesbian aka sisterhood through collective female heterosexual angst/anger and hatred of men in some cases, RadFems needed something to symbolize their lesbian pride. This is what they came up with:

RadFems took the symbol for female and put it together with another symbol for female and voila, the symbol for LESBIAN was born! NOT! This symbol perfectly defines what RadFems and general society see as Lesbian. Any two women together and/or who kissed or where some sort of sexual relations have occurred at least once. Lesbian whether among RadFems, Feminists, Gender Critical, LibFems or the general public never exists on its/our own. Lesbian always has to be accompanied with another female (and by female I mean any "woman-identified woman"-Lesbian biology not required).

In the Sisterhood of Radical lesbian Feminism, BEING a Lesbian wasnt/isnt a requirement, and in fact BEING a Lesbian was/is often unacceptable. BEING a Lesbian, thinking with a Lesbian brain, functioning with a Lesbian body, threw a HUGE mannish wrench into RadFems groups/politics (we were/are accused of acting like men to silence us), so whenever a Lesbian spoke her mind (as we generally do), Lesbians were quickly excised from RadFem groups/political platforms. However, our biology (Lesbian) and the prime symbol associated with Lesbian continues to be used/abused by RadFems/Feminists/straight queers/STRAIGHTBIANS/pornographers/the tv/film industry and countless others.

Unfortunately the popularity of this
UNLesbian symbol trickled down into our once healthy Lesbian drinking water, poisoning generations of Lesbians to accept the hetsplained IDEA that Lesbian is any two women together, whether even they themselves call their relationship Lesbian. While according to the other side of their face-Lesbian on its own does NOT exist until we reach sexually maturity and then act on our sexual feelings.
RadFems version of Lesbian-ANY "woman-identified woman who does not fuck men. It does not mean compulsory sexual activity with women".

Youth Trans critical Professionals and Gender Critical Professionals version of Lesbian-wait and see until the Lesbian is old enough to know she's a Lesbian (kinda like voting or drinking) and then support her if she chooses to transition or not to. 

The general public's version of Lesbian-Any two females doing anything together that might turn a male on.
In short:
This is the first of a short series of posts on Lesbian Biology-Lesbian as Individual.

See also Lesbians Need A New Symbol by Mrs Dirt.



Sunday, January 1, 2017

January 20th 2017

Since the horror of the November presidential results, aside from shock, sadness and anger some unnameable fog sifted over our daily lives. Even those happy with Trump seemed dispirited this Christmas. And despite all those I personally know, including myself and my wife, as much as we struggled to feel some sort of Christmas spirit, that spirit evaded us through old time Christmas songs, Christmas decorations and even our beautiful white Christmas tree that we with hearts full, married in front of last year. I could not shake this feeling anymore than I could name it, till last week.

While standing in line at our local grocery store it hit me, September 1st 1939, a poem by W.H. Auden and the date of the official beginning of World War II. While waiting my turn to put my groceries on the conveyor belt I thought: "I sit in one of the dives/On Fifty-second Street/Uncertain and afraid/As the clever hopes expire/Of a low dishonest decade". Thats it! Once home, I flipped through my collected Auden and read the poem in full. I read it to Anna later, both of us in tears. I felt compelled (or guided) by Auden to write something updated from September 1st 1939 to January 20th 2017, when Trump will be sworn in as US President. I dont find it a coincidence that January 20th marks the anniversary of the Wannsee Conference in 1942, where Nazi officials decided the Answer to the Jewish Question-the Final Solution.

January 20th 2017 

I sit huddled, muddled in my apartment
on a dreary New Years Eve 2016,
wavering between worry and fear.
Contemplating a rising angst and ire
threatening the icy December air.
Something we carelessly thought
dead and buried long ago
has now been unearthed,
Biology once again speaks
its historical truths, the numbers
cannot hide their racial and feminine dearth.

Between Google and Wikipedia
we can excavate whats what.
From Madonna until now, pop
culture and pansy liberalism has
driven the US impotent and daft.
The Papa paradigm that began in Queens
shaped a sociopathic toddler to
be our next President elect.
And not All the Kings horses and All the Kings men
can repair what occurs in childhood
damaging the brain.

Wise common sensed Santayana knew
where suicidal Sylvia's black car 
of Lethe rode,
Where our Ipod History
stays always on repeat.
Where Today is all there is
and Yesterday never exists
Preventing lessons to be learned.
Where Hate goes on hate
while War holds hands with grief
and nothing ever changes, and no catastrophe is ever too great.

Trump Towers dot the calm skyline
Postiche over nature is
Collective Man's ruse.
The Earth has become a dime-store, where
each of our necks hangs in Consumerism's noose.
But happiness has no price tag.
And Love has never been for sale.
Utopia disappears in a landfill 
drowning in tons of polystyrene.
Global commerce has made us no closer
it merely masks our global wail.

Standing in the grocery line
chatter assumes all will be okay
But the faces betray their words
and gloom has its way.
Make believe only works for children
we cannot birthday wish for change.
Hope evaporates with every
dyke, nigger, faggot and jew.
Yesterday, that was never gone
returns with a vengeance.
Prejudice takes a breath and lives on.

The Iron Curtain takes a bow
But this is not the Ballet Russes
This is the United States!
What Janis Joplin said is True
about real Love.
Performing for thousands on Instagram
Facebook or Youtube may increase
the friends list of every man, women and child,
But what Social Media cannot do
is replace the interconnectedness
of the real face to face.

A minute past midnight and
New Year's resolutions start their moan
I will eat less and exercise more-
I'll be a better person and start going to church.
While in a few months time our resolutions
like dust, litter the floor.
Rote soon resumes its power at home, at work
and at play. While politics change by the hour,
who can keep up with who to hate or why?
The First Amendment has been impeached-
Some will fight, but most stay silently resigned.

If freedom of speech is removed
do I still have a voice to speak?
I refuse the Trumpeter's declare
that the Individual is dead and we are
all one State. If citizenry now means silence
I'll die with raised fists squeaking my squeak.
Death is not merely the Great Equalizer-
He proves with each and every death
That living, we are All alone.
Take it as proverb or as koan
But no matter, rich or poor, without Love we All die.

With blue pilled prescriptions in hand
Eros, erect bleats.
Some where between Caligula and Nero
the Hour Glass loses her sand.
And while certainly All will not be lost,
For now, Philistines rule our playground
while Hate and Ignorance play dodgeball with our lives.
It will take decades to figure out the cost.
On your feet or on your knees,
does it really matter?
When an impertinent toddler has been give the keys?


Wednesday, December 28, 2016

Trans Trending-Who is STILL Transitioning










  • There is but one cause of human failure. And that is man's lack of faith in his true Self-William James
  •  The great thing, then, in all education, is to make our nervous system our ally instead of our enemy-William James
  • Man can alter his life by altering his thinking-William James

Wednesday, December 21, 2016

Womens Liberation-Recruiting Lesbians-When the Political Went Personal

Please also see Mrs Dirt's companion piece: Lesbians Do Not Want A Damn Toaster Oven

There is a long standing myth held by general society that Lesbians are a threat to heterosexuals. A threat to heterosexual females because Lesbians are always actively recruiting and a threat to heterosexual men, because it just might be their girlfriend/wives being recruited! Often myth is rooted in some morsel of reality, in the case of Lesbians recruiting women, the myth and the reality are rooted in political Radical Feminism aka STRAIGHTBIANISM!
From the outset of Second Wave feminism/women's liberation, Lesbians were silenced, banished, then Lesbian once emptied of actual Lesbians was used as an idea to house bored house wives and angry women fed up with men. Lesbian then took on a widespread political significance by declaring that "any women can be a lesbian"! A group calling themselves RadicalLesbians begin their 1970's essay The Women Identified Woman by posing the question "What is a lesbian?" and answering "A lesbian is the rage of all women condensed to the point of explosion." Women, particularly younger women were angry to the point of explosion! Angry at the doormat lifestyles they perceived their (unhappy/depressed) mothers to have expected them to inherit, and angry at the sexism that seemed to stop/harass them whether they turned toward higher education, job career or even marriage/motherhood.

Radical Lesbianism promised straight women a utopia they believed they could never obtain from men or with men. A No Man's Land where Lesbian was a multi functional Swiss army's knife, used to give false courage, build a floor board, lay a carpet, gut any man with a sexist compliment or kill any would-be rapist. Radical Lesbians claimed that Lesbians
  • "...cannot expel the heavy socialization that goes with being female, she can never truly find peace with herself. For she is caught somewhere between accepting society's view of her - in which case she cannot accept herself -and coming to understand what this sexist society has done to her and why it is functional and necessary for it to do so. Those of us who work that through find ourselves on the other side of a tortuous journey through a night that may have been decades long. The perspective gained from that journey, the liberation of self, the inner peace, the real love of self and of all women, is something to be shared with all women - because we are all women."
This clearly was not written by a Lesbian anymore than it was written speaking to Lesbians, it is purely heterosexual! Heterosexual women who co-opted Lesbian, then recruited other unhappy/dissatisfied heterosexual women who saw themselves as the hetsplained Lesbian heterosexual women's libbers defined.
  •  "It should first be understood that a category of behavior possible only in a sexist society characterized by rigid sex roles and dominated by male supremacy. Those sex roles dehumanize women by defining us as a supportive/serving caste in relation to the master caste of men...Homosexuality is a by-product of a particular way of setting up roles ( or approved patterns of behavior) on the basis of sex; as such it is an inauthentic ( not consonant with "reality") category. In a society in which men do not oppress women, and sexual expression is allowed to follow feelings, the categories of homosexuality and heterosexuality would disappear."
In other words, remove sexism and sexual orientation would be removed from human biology forever! This is the ignorant simplistic and dare I say feminist ideology that still plagues Radical Feminism today, merely replace sex roles with gender roles.
  • Lesbian is a label invented by the Man to throw at any woman who dares to be his equal, who dares to challenge his prerogatives ( including that of all women as part of the exchange medium among men), who dares to assert the primacy of her own needs.
Radical Lesbian/Feminists completely insult Lesbians by removing Lesbian biology, Lesbian history and assert Lesbian was/is nothing more than a tool used by men to keep women (all women being heterosexual) in line/under the thumbs of men!

Popular Radical Lesbian/Feminists mantras and man hating mottoes used to recruit/ensnare heterosexual women into political lesbianism:
  • Feminism is the theory, lesbianism is the practice-Ti-Grace Atkinson
  • I, personally, have taken the position that I will not appear with any man publicly, where it could possibly be interpreted that we were friends-Ti-Grace Atkinson
  • Since marriage constitutes slavery for women, it is clear that the Women's Movement must concentrate on attacking this institution. Freedom for women cannot be won without the abolition of marriage-Sheila Cronan
  • The simple fact is that every woman must be willing to be identified as a lesbian to be fully feminist-Sheila Cronan
  • I want to see a man beaten to a bloody pulp with a high-heel shoved in his mouth, like an apple in the mouth of a pig-Andrea Dworkin
  • Female heterosexuality is not a biological drive or an individual woman’s erotic attraction or attachment to another human animal which happens to be male. Female heterosexuality is a set of social institutions and practices defined and regulated by patriarchal mores, values, and law-Marilyn Frye
  • When a woman reaches orgasm with a man she is only collaborating with the patriarchal system, eroticizing her own oppression-Sheila Jeffrys
  • I feel what they feel: man-hating, that volatile admixture of pity, contempt, disgust, envy, alienation, fear, and rage at men-Judith Levine
  • You grow up with your father holding you down and covering your mouth so another man can make a horrible searing pain between your legs-Catherine MacKinnon
  • I feel that ‘man-hating’ is an honorable and viable political act-Robin Morgan
  • To call a man an animal is to flatter him; he’s a machine, a walking dildo-Valerie Solanas 
  • I have chosen to use the terms lesbian existence and lesbian continuum because the word lesbianism has a clinical and limiting ring Lesbian existence suggests both the fact of the historical presence of lesbians and our continuing creation of the meaning of that existence I mean the term lesbian continuum to include a range—through each woman’s life and throughout history—of woman-identified experience; not simply the fact that a woman has had or consciously desired genital sexual experience with another woman. If we expand it to embrace many more forms of primary intensity between and among women, including the sharing of a rich inner life, the bonding against male tyranny, the giving and receiving of practical and political support; if we can also hear in it such associations as marriage resistance and the ‘haggard’ behavior identified by Mary Daly (obsolete meanings ‘intractable,’ ‘willful,’ ‘wanton,’ and ‘unchaste’ a woman reluctant to yield to wooing’)—we begin to grasp breadths of female history and psychology that have lain out of reach as a consequence of limited, mostly clinical, definitions of ‘lesbianism-Adrienne Rich
  • Lesbian existence comprises both the breaking of a taboo and the rejection of a compulsory way of life It is also a direct or indirect attack on male right of access to women But it is more than these, although we may first begin to perceive it as a form of nay-saying to patriarchy, an act or resistance It has of course included role playing, self-hatred, breakdown, alcoholism, suicide, and intrawoman violence; we romanticize at our peril what it means to love and act against the grain, and under heavy penalties; and lesbian existence has been lived (unlike, say, Jewish or Catholic existence) without access to any knowledge of a tradition, a continuity, a social underpinning The destruction of records and memorabilia and letters documenting the realities of lesbian existence must be taken very seriously as a means of keeping heterosexuality compulsory for women, since what has been kept from our knowledge is joy, sensuality, courage, and community, as well as guilt, self-betrayal, and pain-Adrienne Rich   
Lesbians were never welcome in Radical Lesbian Feminists groups/movements, but Rad Lez Fem groups/movements sure used the IDEA of Lesbian to house their man hating precepts and recruited using heterosexual shared experiences of sexism, male violence and displeasure with their own sex role. None of which had a single thing to do whatsoever with Lesbians as individuals, Lesbian couples, Lesbian needs, Lesbian Healthcare or basic civil liberties that Lesbians lacked! None of these issues were or are adequately addressed by Radical Lesbian Feminists, then or now. Radical Lesbian Feminists prime focus has always been on men/about men, another clue we werent ever dealing with actual Lesbians, then or now. Man hating/Lesbian recruiting Rad Lez Fems, werent and arent Lesbians and those they recruit are rarely also Lesbian.

Lesbian has merely been a carapace Radical Lesbian STRAIGHT/STRAIGHTBIAN Feminists slummed in where they could mutually bitch, moan and cower, too afraid to stand up to men and too weal to challenge male systems of power, for that you have to actually BE a Lesbian, not just call yourself one!



Thursday, December 15, 2016

Trans Trending-Who is STILL Transitioning










  • "But to refuse to be a woman does not mean that one has to become a man, and for her who does want to become a man: in what way is her alienation different from wanting to become a woman?" Monique Wittig

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